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Death and Grieving Coping with loss is difficult at any age, but you are not alone during this difficult time. Reach out to other users in this forum.

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Damn month of December. - January 5th 2009, 10:56 PM

So.. my grandpa passed on December 3rd of 2008. And my grandma had passed away December 24th, four years ago. I don't know.. it's still hard. We knew it was coming for my grandfather but still. This is more of a rant; I wasn't really looking for anything. Just.. feeling sad.
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January 5th 2009, 11:02 PM

oh im sorry for you lost Brit.
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again my condolences.
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January 5th 2009, 11:07 PM

Hey-

Wow, I'm so glad you made it through the holidays, I'm sure that can't be easy at all. No matter how much warning is given, it's hard to lose someone you care about. No matter any of the circumstances, it is hard. Holidays more so than other times, and especially when you've lost your loved one so near to the holidays. If that makes any sense at all.

Have you done anything to kind of sum up his life? Just a bit, not like a huge thing that represents all of him. Just some closure for yourself. Funerals and all that work sometimes, but sometimes each of us needs closure on a personal level. Such as writing a letter, even saying a final goodbye to him. No matter your religious beliefs, sometimes saying it, means so much more to your heart and mind than just thinking it. Saying it, makes it final. He's still there in your heart, forever.

You have every single right to be sad. And when you know times are hard for you, you have to step up and do more self-care things to keep your sanity, and hopefully try and get your mood up. How have you been taking care of yourself? Not only on a basic level, but taking out more time each day for yourself. Take a bubble bath, go on a walk, walk upside down if it's what makes you happy. Just a breath for you each day, to say hey, I can go on with this. Even if it's hard.

As corny as it sounds, take it each day. Never will it get less painful, but hopefully with time it will become easier to deal with.

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January 6th 2009, 12:48 AM

Oh dear, Brittney. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. It must be painful to experience the death of loved ones, especially those so close in time. My grandmother is someone I hold very dear, and I dread the day where I may see her pass. Though I'm not too well in this particular area, just know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers in this difficult time. Please do look after yourselves. <3


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January 6th 2009, 12:56 AM

Brittney,

I'm sad to hear about your grandparents passing. It's awful when people we love, especially family pass away. But as you know, it's a normal part of life. It takes some getting use to, and it's extremely hard, I know. But the best thing you can do is to celebrate their lives and realize that they would want to see you happy. While I know this seems impossible at the moment, remember that with time, it will get easier to cope with. It's okay if it's still hard for you, and it's okay to cry and feel sad.

Maybe talk with your family about how you feel, if that's an option. I'm sure they are grieving as well, and sometimes it helps to talk to someone who knows how you feel. Take care of yourself, I'm always here if you need someone
   
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Re: Damn month of December. - January 7th 2009, 06:16 AM

Hey Brittney,

I'm sorry for your losses. I can't understand what your going through, because I have never lost anyone really close to me. My grandpa has been having a hard time lately though. He's struggling with diabetes, and is just getting plain old. My grandma is gonna stick around longer then he is, because she's healthy as ever, but I still know she's coming to an end. Sometimes I think of life without them, and I feel your pain very close to my heart because it's always hard letting go of somebody you truly loved.

I have honestly never lost anyone close to me, but I can create an image of what I'd be like if I had any kind of personal loss at all. I'd be tearing out my hair, sitting in a closet, waiting for all the hurt to go away.

I'm just some stranger, and I know that, but I can tell you that your probably doing a hell of a lot better then I would ever do. Just keep your head up because if you don't, things arn't going to get better, they're going to get worse. But if you keep your stregnth and rememeber that your grandparents still love you as much as they did before wherever they are now, and that they are in a better place, whether it be dancing together on the stars or watching over you from a safe place, your heart will heal in time.

This is a horribly long comment. haha.
Just know that you will make it through this!
Stay happy, stay strong.

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Re: Damn month of December. - January 7th 2009, 08:15 PM

I know I've said it all before, but I'm very sorry for your losses. Don't be afraid to lean on your friends and family during difficult times.

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Re: Damn month of December. - January 10th 2009, 07:37 PM

Hey Brittany,

Like others have said, please, accept my deepest sympathy for your losses. I know how hard it is to lose a grandparent. But since you said you knew it was coming, then he was probably suffering, like my grandmother was before she went. At least now he's better.

If you need someone to talk to, lean on your friends- that's what they're there for. Or, you can message almost anyone on here, including me. We are strangers, but just talking to someone helps.

You can make it through this. I believe in you. :]

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Re: Damn month of December. - January 10th 2009, 08:52 PM

I'm really sorry for your losses. I'm sure you're sick of hearing all that, but I really mean it. I know that when you lose someone you love it's always painful to think about, and it hurts so much. All I can say is maybe just try to remember all the good time you've spent with them, and think of the things about them that make you smile but don't send you to tears because of missing them as much as you do. With every loss, eventually it becomes a lot easier to deal with not seeing that person anymore, and it will eventually get easier for you to keep on going without them here. You can make it through this, and you definitely will

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Re: Damn month of December. - January 10th 2009, 08:57 PM

Thanks everyone :]
It's getting easier, I think. I was able to go to his grave site without breaking down.. so I guess that's good.


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Re: Damn month of December. - January 10th 2009, 08:58 PM

That is good, even though it's okay to break down. Especially when visiting his grave site.

I hope it gets easier for you. <3



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