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Death and Grieving Coping with loss is difficult at any age, but you are not alone during this difficult time. Reach out to other users in this forum.

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Unsure. - February 20th 2009, 09:03 PM

An old friend died. When I say "old friend", I mean she was in my classes and we talked, but the relationship was very distant. I'm closer to some of her friends. But, whatever, that's not really important. I still don't know details, probably never will.

I feel guilty, about how this is making me feel. It's created a tornado of conflicting emotions which is expected I guess. But none of them are... sympathetic, like they should be. They're bad, bad bad bad.

I'm the coldest, most horrible person. I mean, she died unexpectedly at 18 and was a fantastic person. And, all I feel is this.

It brings back memories of him.

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Re: Unsure. - February 20th 2009, 09:09 PM

Hey there,

I'm really sorry to hear about what happened. Death can bring out all sorts of conflicting emotions and it is a very stressful time for anyone who knows the person. Even if it was just a girl you sometimes sat next to in Math or your best friend you will experience changes in emotion and you will be effected.
Try not to feel guilty. These conflicting emotions you are feeling are natural right now and sometimes it is hard to come to terms with things and how you truly feel for a while.

If you want to talk more about stuff feel free to contact me.

Take care,

Live on love.
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Re: Unsure. - February 20th 2009, 10:51 PM

Vicki is right, though depending upon how you view people around you, you may or may not feel feelings towards the girl or her family. There is a difference between emotions and real emotions. A lot of emotions are very surface and you may not actually feel that way about something but it's 'normal' to. And real emotions are those that you feel if a close relative dies or a best friend. With some people they would cry for days over a person they kinda knew and some people wouldn't be phased in the slightest. It's normal.
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