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Unhappy He's Not Dead Yet but they're Already Saying he is - February 23rd 2009, 05:00 AM

My ex boyfriend is dying. And I don't know how to cope.

It's just beginning to hit even though I've known for a few months now.
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Re: He's Not Dead Yet but they're Already Saying he is - February 23rd 2009, 05:06 AM

I am so sorry that you are going through this. Death is never easy and it certainly isn't easier when you know about it. Spend as much time with him as you can and treasure the times you had with him and will have with him. Know that it's okay to cry and be sad. Maybe you could talk to a counselor about how to cope with this?


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Re: He's Not Dead Yet but they're Already Saying he is - February 23rd 2009, 12:31 PM

hey mystery.

i've already said this somewhere else before and i'm going to say it again..

the msot important thing to help a guy (ESPECIALLY a boyfriend ) is to stamp the knowledge that you'll always be there and you want to be as close to them as can be into his head. and the feeling of knowing that in a guy, is the best knowledge in the world and the best thing you can give to him. (yep, this is coming from a guy, so you can trust this )

i think that you're a really sweet girlfriend because it's obvious that you really care for him remember you've us to talk to, too if you really want support


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Re: He's Not Dead Yet but they're Already Saying he is - February 23rd 2009, 03:23 PM

Thank you guys so much!

I just havent wanted to talk about it with him...and I don't let myself get sad when I'm around him, but then I start pushing him away because I start feeling sad...And rawr.

If I could...I'd rather me die than him, becuase that's how I always imagined it. I always thought I would die before him. He's a few months younger than me...He's going to die around 20. I just...fucking hate this! It isn't fair...
   
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Re: He's Not Dead Yet but they're Already Saying he is - February 23rd 2009, 03:38 PM

I know exactly how you feel. My ex is dying, but... the stupid thing is, I knew before I started dating him.
It's a horrible thing to go through, and you're unsure of your feelings because of the situation.
If he needs to talk about it, try and be there for him, as hard as it might be.
I'm here if you need someone to talks to, someone that understands.
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Re: He's Not Dead Yet but they're Already Saying he is - February 23rd 2009, 04:22 PM

How do we live with it though? Knowing theyre going to die and theres not a single thing we can do about it...
   
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Re: He's Not Dead Yet but they're Already Saying he is - February 23rd 2009, 09:11 PM

i know its painful . VERY painful.. but actually, deep inside, before someone passes away.. his one wish is to spend time more time with the people they like most.

and you know, your boyfriend wouldnt want you to feel really sad about it.. so no matter what, remember that he would want you to live to the fullest.

remember that fact.. and make it a guideline . remember that you both are together in soul


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Re: He's Not Dead Yet but they're Already Saying he is - February 26th 2009, 09:10 PM

Its always hard to lose someone but just know that you can cry,be angry and upset and dont let anyone tell you different but also dont be worried if you dont feel theses things as everyone deals with death in a totaly different way to each other.
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Re: He's Not Dead Yet but they're Already Saying he is - February 27th 2009, 05:30 PM

I know there is nothing I can say to make you feel better, or even begin to take away the pain you are feeling but I just wanted you to know that
a) I am so sorry
b) I care.
c) It WILL get easier
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