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Death and Grieving Coping with a loss is difficult at any age. If you need support, ask in this forum.

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Unhappy Grandma.. - November 28th 2010, 06:40 AM

My Grandma died thursday, and tonight we had to go to her house to sort her photos to make art boards for the funeral, I kept it together all night (I have no idea how) and now I can't stop crying. I miss her so much and it seems like just yesterday we were sitting together talking. She was in a coma for 9 weeks with west-nile virus which ended up killing her. I kinda knew it was coming but I tried to push through it. After seeing so many photos of her and being at her house and seeing all her stuff and for her not to be there it tares me up inside. Tears are streaming down my face and I miss her so much and I just want to see her again. I don't know how I'm going to be able to keep it together through the funeral. How can i let go and accept the fact that shes not coming back?


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Re: Grandma.. - November 28th 2010, 09:06 PM

Hey Kyle,
My nana(grandmom) passed away in Aug. and she was in the hospital for 30 days and she had 2 surgeries ( dead tissue and a trache in her throat).I took it very VERY hard. She was like a 2nd mom to me... I too had to look at the photos to make the memory board.We were told she was going to pass away like 4 times before she really did...All of her organs were shutting down too.

The best advice I can give you is that she is in a better place... I don't know if your a Christian or not but I am... I pray to God for a long time for my Nana to come to me in a dream and she finally did! (:
I see my Nana walking the "streets of gold" and being with her other being with her other 9 brothers and sisters and with her son who passed away before her.
It's ok to cry too! I was crying my eyes out,the day we got out of the hospital the day she passed away...I didn't cry at her services because we were told she was going to pass away before.She also went into a diabetic coma at the end as well....
I hope this advice helped you! If you wanna talk more inbox me..
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Re: Grandma.. - November 28th 2010, 11:36 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss.
My grandfather died of Alzheimer's disease a few years back, and I had the same problem where I knew that his death was coming but still managed to push through and then cried a lot at the end.
It's okay to cry during the funeral or at any other time. It may feel good to get it out.
See if you can keep an item of hers. Soon after my grandfather's death, my grandmother gave me a stuffed lion that sat with my grandfather during his stay in the nursing home and before that, in his house, and whenever I'm thinking of him I hold that stuffed lion. Maybe you can do the same if you had something that once belonged to her or something she gave you?
You should also try to think of it as that your grandmother is no longer in any sort of pain and is healthy now, and that she's with another relative of hers. This helped me out.
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Re: Grandma.. - November 29th 2010, 05:50 AM

Oh yeah! I have some of my Nana's clothes that she wore/liked and at my Poppy's house I clean and cook like she used to do.. I also have some of her jewlery and when I'm older I'll have her wedding ring


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Re: Grandma.. - November 29th 2010, 09:36 PM

I'm so sorry about your Grandma. It's difficult when someone you love passes.
It's perfectly ok to cry. Share what you're feeling with your friends and family. They'll understand and can probably help.
Just remember, she's always going to be with you.
   
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