my great grandpa

[cdc600900]

i was 10 yrs old when my great grandpa die. its been 10 almost 11 years sent he die and i still cant get my mind off of him. i miss him soo much its not funny. everytime someone tlks about him, or it gets around my b-day or christmas, its just hurt and i dont want to celbrate these holidays b/c it hurts and i cant tlk about this with any of my family or friends (being i dont have friends) and i really cant tlk to bf about this i dont know what to do and how to get rare i cant celbrate the holiday and have fun on them at least.

[Emily.]

Hey Crystal,

I'm sorry it's taken so long to get a response on your post. Sometimes things get missed.

And I'm sorry about the loss of your great grandpa. It's so hard when you lose the people you love and it takes a long time to heal from that loss. Grief was once explained to me as like the ocean - sometimes it's perfectly calm and we feel okay, but then other times the waves of pain and sadness will overtake us. Those times when the grief gets to be too much are times when you need to lean on the people around you. Why is it you feel like you can't talk to your family? I'm sure they would want to be there for you, but unless they know you're hurting they can't possibly help.

I'm also going to suggest grief counseling. There is a normal period of grieving, but ten years is a long time for his death to be hurting you so intensely. I'm sure he wouldn't want that. He would want you to be happy and live your life to the fullest. Will you give counseling a try? It can really help to talk to someone about how you're feeling and work on healing from the loss.

I hope you're doing okay right now and please don't hesitate to PM me if you ever want to talk.
<3 Emily

[saraparkinson]

Hi, I know I'm not a helper,but I understand how you feel. My mom died when I was one, and even though I never met her, I have lt myself drift away from people. It always pains me to think about her still. Sometime, things are going to hurt in life, and everyone goe thrugh some kind of loss. The answer people always tell me is counsilling, but to be honest, its too late for me. Maybe talking to someone could help you get over the greif you feel. A counsiller would understand and would listen, probably more than a friend could. Don't do my mistake and let greif get to you too much. There are ways to get over greif if you folow them. Hope this helped. Sara x