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Death and Grieving Coping with loss is difficult at any age, but you are not alone during this difficult time. Reach out to other users in this forum.

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Unhappy Coping, Recovering and Confusion. - February 26th 2009, 09:56 PM

My friend Loryn died on june 13th last year, and I'm still a bit edgy on the whole factor. She commited suicide...I didn't really know her all the well, but she was a part of my life even if it was just at school.
I miss her, she was a very out there person, she stood out. At least that was my thought on her. She was an amazing artist too, her painting are incredible! It hurts to know I'm never going to see a new piece of hers.
I have so much to tell her too, so many things I should have said before i left the school.
My friend Brooke told me that she thought I was a pretty cool person the day before I left, we were talking about purple bunnies. That thought cheers me up sometimes whenever she crosses my mind.
I guess I'm just kind of releasing some of my emotions on her death, I'm not sure.
Or maybe it's because three months before my friend Jamie was killed... I just have been having a tough time coping with all this death in my life, the year 2008 was not a good year for me in that department, Her, Jamie and my great grandpa all passed away...
I just I'm not sure how to react anymore.
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Re: Coping, Recovering and Confusion. - February 27th 2009, 07:15 PM

I'm so sorry to hear about your awful year, it must be really difficult for you. Don't feel bad for struggling though, I've had a lot of death in my life and its not easy and no matter how old or experienced in life you are, nothing prepares you and nothing help make it easier, so your doing great don't worry.

Its often the little things like you never seeing a painting of hers again that are the hardest to come to terms with. What you said about having so much to tell her though is natural, we all feel that when we lose someone. Just because they're gone though doesn't mean you can't talk to them and fill them in on stuff. If you know where she's buried you could go along and talk to her, or maybe just light a candle somewhere (in your room or in the park) and talk to her there. She'll hear you wherever you are, you needn't feel cut off just because you can't see her anymore.

If your having a really tough time though you can always talk to a bereavement councilor. They are trained to deal with people who have lost someone and can help you through it. Feel free to pm me anytime if you want a chat, you'll always have support on here x


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Re: Coping, Recovering and Confusion. - March 3rd 2009, 09:25 PM

You dont have to react in any sort of way,just cope how you know best,dont worry if you dont feel a certain way,it is different for everyone
it was my best friend/lovers 3rd death year this year and it hit me that she has gone and it wasnt a joke like I had hoped
Maybe try and celebrate her life in the best way you can and know you did all you could do for anyone feeling that low
   
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