A friend....

[Pants]

So... I just found out, through facebook, that a friend of mine has died.... I'm a junior in college, and we were really close our freshman year but haven't talked much since then... I've been thinking for ages how I needed to get in touch with him because I miss him. And I know it's unfair and unreasonable because there's nothing I could have done but I feel like maybe if we were still close I could've helped him. I know I probably couldn't have done anything anyways but... god.

He's just... gone. I want so bad for this to be a sick joke. I just... can't comprehend this.

[you'rebeautiful]

<3 I'm really sorry to hear about your friend, Anna.
How're you holding up?

It's so difficult, to be in the aftermath of a decision like that... it's almost unreal, and naturally you're left questioning whether or not there was anything you could've done. But the fact is that when someone takes their own life... they're committing a final, desperate act... it's not something that could have been changed or waved away, if only someone had done something differently... you can't put that on yourself. Unfortunately, whatever he was going through would have required a lot more than that, someone doing something differently, to combat. I guess it comes down to having more pain than ways to cope with it. I'm so sorry that that happened to your friend, and I'm really sorry that you two never got around to becoming closer... but playing 'what if' won't help you, or him, or anybody else <3. I'm sure that he would have appreciated your willingness. You're clearly a very caring friend... and that's wonderful, especially for everyone that you know and love that are still around. I hope that you'll be able to come to terms with everything peacefully. If I can do anything to help, I'm around for you anytime.
<3
Ada.

[Heartlines.]

Hey there,

I am sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. It always is very tough to lose someone close to you. Even if you weren't as close towards the end, it still doesn't mean you can't be said. You shouldn't blame yourself though. This was beyond your control. Death, and birth are natural occurances of life. I believe that everything happens for a reason, and there are things that can be learned from such.

Time heals all wounds, until we can heal them ourselves. Meaning, you are always going to miss your friend, but it gets easier in time. To help cope with your loss, I think it would be beneficial if you surrounded yourself by friends, and/or family. Also, doing things to make you happy would help to. I am not saying mask over the death of your friend, because it is ok to miss him, and talk about him, and feel emotion. Things do get easier.

I know what it is like to lose someone close to you. Trust me. I have lived it several times. That being said, if you ever need someone, please don't hesitate to PM me. I am very easy to get ahold of on here. I spend the majority of my time on this site, so I will get back to you fairly quickly.

Take care.