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Death and Grieving Coping with loss is difficult at any age, but you are not alone during this difficult time. Reach out to other users in this forum.

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Rest in Peace Mom... - January 9th 2009, 08:31 AM

My mother passed away yesterday...
She had been very sick from cancer for 7 years.
I got the call at 6:50 yesterday morning, then spend the rest of the day in airports and delayed planes trying to get home.

I type this as I sit in my empty silent house.

Its weird.

So by all financial legal laws, I am an orphan.
I have 6 months till I graduate from college.
Welcoming 2009, I am now shoved into being an actual adult...

After graduation I will leave the US for 2 months.
That is all.
   
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Re: Rest in Peace Mom... - January 9th 2009, 11:47 AM

hey.. sorry for your loss..
take care of yourself! i know you can make it.



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Re: Rest in Peace Mom... - January 9th 2009, 12:28 PM

hey!. i'm so sorry to hear about your loss. i've been suffering with cancer for a few months and have lost friends to it, so i have an idea of how horrible it is.
i cannot begin to understand how you must be feeling, because i haven't lost either of my parents but i just want you to know that you will be in my thoughts. i hope 2009 can be a good year for you, even with this start to it.

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Re: Rest in Peace Mom... - January 9th 2009, 05:34 PM

I am very sorry for your loss. Even if you are not religious, I will send a prayer in your direction. Take care of yourself in these tough times and don't be afraid to talk to anyone about how you feel. You really need support right now so keep your close ones nearby and you can PM me anytime you want. <3
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Re: Rest in Peace Mom... - January 9th 2009, 07:15 PM

I am so very sorry about your loss. I don't know what it feels like losing a parent, but I do know that it is very hard losing a family member and someone so close. There is nothing I can say to make it easier, or better, but do know that I am always here if you need someone to talk. Allow yourself to grieve and know that it's okay to be grieving the way you want to. There is no one way to deal with the death of someone close to you. May I suggest doing something to bring a sort of closure? Maybe plant a tree in her memory, or make a scrapbook of you and her together.
Remember, though, if you ever need someone to talk to, I'm always here. Take care.


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Re: Rest in Peace Mom... - January 9th 2009, 07:18 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounds like she was a true fighter, and I'm sure she'll always be there in spirit. Take care.



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Re: Rest in Peace Mom... - January 9th 2009, 08:02 PM

Zhu, I am so, so sorry for your loss. I know what it's like to lose a parent to cancer; a few other people here can sympathize, if you ever need to talk to anyone about it.
Not many people can understand what it's like to have a mom or dad die. And I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with just being sympathetic--sometimes it's what you need, someone to just tell you that they're sorry and that your mom will be missed.
I lost my dad when I was really young, so I don't remember much about him actually dying. I do, however, have one piece of advice for you, and that is to grieve. Don't let your life get in the way of your being sad, and dealing with your mom's death however you need to. I tucked my sadness away for a really long time, and it's come back in the form of depression, which makes me feel all sorts of not so fun emotions. So let yourself be upset and sad for as long as you need. Your mom will always be with you.
   
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