Blind

[punkchique]

I didn't know where else to put this, so I'm sorry if its in the wrong place... I just don't know what to do.

I just found out today that my boyfriend has gone blind, here's the quick story:

He's off at school and while at a party someone spiked his drink with methanol, as a result he is almost completely blind. He's returning to the U.S. in a few days to recover.

When I heard this I was devastated, his friend sent me a facebook message explaining since he couldn't type. I didn't even know how to respond, what do you even say to something like that? He's so strong and independent I just know this is taking a toll on him. I just keep picturing him so helpless and it makes me cry.

I haven't talked to him yet because of long distance phone call issues, but he will be home in a few days and I plan on talking to him then.

I did a lot of google searching on methanol poisoning and it doesn't look good, he may never get his vision back, I'm so scared!

We're in a long distance relationship and I had planned a trip to visit him a few weeks from now but because of this he told me in the message to cancel my ticket because he's going to be in recovery. But I don't want to! I want to be with him, I don't even care if the only thing we do is sit around on his bed all day as long as I'm with him. I would stay with him as long as I could if it were possible if I didn't have to be in school.

How do I explain this to him? He's so strong willed he wouldn't want it to seem like I'm pitying him.

I don't even know what my real question is and I'm sorry my post is so disorganized. I'm just so confused and sad and angry that some sick person would do this.

[jenpiglet17]

I'm so sorry! This sounds like a wonderful relationship the two of you have!!

Maybe saying that this trip is "for you" to hold each other, so that you physically know he's ok and to calm your nerves a little. It's a little way around it, but it's still seeing each other.

On another note, does he know who did this?? Maybe/hopefully there's an investigation going or pending for this. I think that there should be some legalities in this... Especially when it comes to a physical problem from something someone did.

And I'm always here to listen to venting, so PM me if you ever need.

~there's always hope in the darkest of situations~

[FlyingTrue]

Hello,
It is indeed a terrible gruesome act and I trust that whoever responsible is brought to justice. The most important thing right now is to be strong and be there for him in whatever way you can. He needs as much support as possible right now and I'm sure your presence will be of great comfort to him. I am sure the medical staff are doing the best they can, all we can really do is hope. My thoughts are with you.

[ShadowDancing]

I'm so sorry to hear this It must be so hard, for both of you.

I'd definitely talk to him about why you want to be with him. Support is such an important thing for something like this. Make sure you tell him that you love him and you just want to be with him.

Good luck to both of you guys, I'll be thinking of you.
~Sam ♥