Triggering: How do you deal with it?

[Sunlight.]

So I was thinking about this question last night. But how do you deal with the death off a loved one? I personally don't know how I would cope. I've had Grandparents and people I know pass away when I was younger but I guess I had no idea what was really going on at the time or my parents were close to them.
I just want to know how other people deal with the lose of a loved one so I can be able to deal with it in the future as well.

[Neon]

I can't even think about a loved one that has passed away. I try to distract myself and focus on something else - otherwise I just end up thinking about all of the great times I had with them, and now its all over. Whenever I am reminded I try to shake the thought immediately before the sadness seeps in. I don't know if that means I'm not over the grief...

[Isaiah_41:13]

I don't deal with it. My best friend passed away April 25th, 2011. I don't think about it and if I do I try to think of other things. It's hard to deal with this kind of thing, and everyone deals with it differently...

[teddscau]

When my budgie, Sam died I cried myself to sleep for months. I still cry myself to sleep over him sometimes. He was my only real friend. Everybody at school bullied me an the person who I thought was my friend was just using me. Sam`s still my best friend and I find comfort knowing that he`s up in heaven with God. When someone you love dies, you don`t try to forget about them, but instead you must accept the fact that they`re dead and that there are gonna be a bunch of emotions that come as a result. Don`t try to move on, but accept the situation as it is and let go of the grief that comes with death and replace it with the sadness that you won`t see them again (or at least until you die or whatever your beliefs are).

[*Jen*]

I guess you have to accept what has happened and eventually come to a point where you want to make them proud and make the most of your life. Also try to focus on all the happy memories you spent together and make the most of the times you did have. It is so difficult to get to that point and I know I haven't but with the right support you can do it.

[xRTx]

My mum died when I was 12 and my way of coping was just keeping myself busy as much as possible. Plus when it got too much I ended up going to see a counsellor. So talking helped as well for me.

[dipka]

'Carry on as normal' is one of the best ways to cope with death. As well as making a special book/box about the person who has died, fill the box with perhapse things they gave you, or things that remind them of you, or photoes of them(or these could go in the book). Fill the book with writing of their favouret things (think about everything see, hear, smell, taste, touch) and also all your feeling's. Then put the book in the box too. This way you then have a perfect record of all the things about them and Iv already found that wile creating it you will start to feel better as you are focusing on the good things about them before their death, rather than the near past when they died.
Also, there are allways people here to help such as myself, just ask.