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escape_thereal_world March 9th 2009 01:11 AM

She has a month at most
 
The family gathered today at the hospital while the doctors told my aunt she has one week to a month left to live. how the hell ami supposed to respond to that?! how do i react!?

:'(

TakeTheLeap March 9th 2009 01:32 AM

Re: She has a month at most
 
Make the time you have left with her as amazing as possible. If you have anything you're hiding from her, you haven't forgiven her for, or she needs to forgive you for something, talk to her about it. You don't want her to leave and regret not telling her something or doing something with her.
Honestly, I think you're in a better situation than a person who has someone they love die unexpectedly because you have a chance to make her last days special.
And hey, doctors can sometimes make mistakes on timelines like that. She may end up living longer than you're expecting. If not, realize that she's in a position where she'll be getting rid of the suffering. She won't be in pain anymore. :)

Be strong!
~Emily

escape_thereal_world March 9th 2009 03:25 PM

Re: She has a month at most
 
shes gone.my mom called me at 5:30 to tell me she passed. viewing is 1-3 Friday. i dont kno if ill go or not

TakeTheLeap March 9th 2009 05:10 PM

Re: She has a month at most
 
I'm so sorry to hear that. :(
But do remember that she's in a much better place - she's not suffering anymore. :)
I'd definitely suggest going to the funeral though. It might make you feel a little more at ease.

escape_thereal_world March 9th 2009 09:26 PM

Re: She has a month at most
 
Thats the weird part. I dont feel anything. Im not sad, at all...It's weird. ANyways, thanks for the replies.

MadPoet March 9th 2009 10:41 PM

Re: She has a month at most
 
Aw, I'm so sorry Mystery. *Hugs*
I know you can stay strong through this, though.
We'll all be here if you need to talk about anything.
Hang in there. x

simpleserenade89 March 10th 2009 12:15 AM

Re: She has a month at most
 
think that in a month she'll be going to a better place that none of us know how its like...its gnna be hard ...but when isnt it..know everyone around u has lost someone and know how to cope with u

Hyper Sonic March 10th 2009 12:59 AM

Re: She has a month at most
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by escape_thereal_world (Post 77166)
Thats the weird part. I dont feel anything. Im not sad, at all...It's weird. ANyways, thanks for the replies.

It could be the shock, it took me years to realise my grandparents were gone forever. Go to the funeral and put your mind at rest but remember you can always visit her grave

Joshie March 10th 2009 01:26 AM

Re: She has a month at most
 
IM so sorry
just try to make the best of it!!

escape_thereal_world March 10th 2009 05:05 AM

Re: She has a month at most
 
yeah im going to the funeral.
it started to hit today but i pushed it away. blah...idk. thanks guys

MadPoet March 10th 2009 04:11 PM

Re: She has a month at most
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by escape_thereal_world (Post 77814)
yeah im going to the funeral.
it started to hit today but i pushed it away. blah...idk. thanks guys

I know it hurts right now, but it well get easier to deal with everything, you just have to give it time. And don't feel like you have to push your feelings away, it's okay to be sad or simply cry, what good is holding it all in?

Things will get better soon, I promise. x

L'espoir March 10th 2009 04:27 PM

Re: She has a month at most
 
Hi,

Im really sorry to hear about your aunt. It really hurts when somebody we love passes away. It is really normal to not feel anything at first, then have it hit you later. Just try and take each day as it comes, let yourself grieve for her. That is perfectly natural and everyone would need to grieve in their own way.

Jen
x

Sakikizu March 12th 2009 12:31 PM

Re: She has a month at most
 
I understand the part about not feeling anything at first.
When my grandfather passed it didn't hit me until the next day.
Then when my mom followed a few days later, I fell apart. Its still agonizing to think about her. Don't push away what you're feeling for your aunt. Cry. It really does help.

escape_thereal_world March 13th 2009 03:32 AM

Re: She has a month at most
 
yeah. funeral is tomorrow. i told my mom i may not stay the whole time. *sighs heavily*

i dont know how this is going to go...

L'espoir March 13th 2009 04:28 PM

Re: She has a month at most
 
Its OK to feel nervous about going to the funeral. I imagine it must be scary and upsetting thinking about having to say goodbye forever. Just stay for however long YOU want to, its fine.

escape_thereal_world March 13th 2009 10:27 PM

Re: She has a month at most
 
hey...things went better than i thought they would.

everyone was ok, the nthey played amazing grace and everyone started tearing up. then the minister spoke. i was fine until he spoke about me >< then i started to cry a little. after that they played a song...and my grandma lost it, which made my lil cousin lose it, then i lsot it, then my mom....lol

but it felt sooooooooooooo good to cry about it!!!! i hadnt cried yet, at all, about it. and i feel ALOT better now. still really sad she died, of course...but yeah.

thank you all for your support!!! *HUGS*

XxBrokenSmilesxX March 15th 2009 03:34 PM

Re: She has a month at most
 
Try to spend as much time with her as you can. Make her things to show her how much she means to you. Don't be afraid to cry, never hold it in. Trust me I know I been there too. Try not to remind her of it, she'll be sad to. She will miss you. Stay Strong.

XxBrokenSmilesxX

L'espoir March 15th 2009 06:25 PM

Re: She has a month at most
 
Im glad things went well for you. Its really good that you managed to cry a bit, i think crying is healing for us.

lukethekid March 29th 2009 01:40 PM

Re: She has a month at most
 
should just try to slowly except it and try to spend as much time as you possibly can with her until the good lord says its her time you know?

but i know exactly how you feel hun, i been there and done that


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