Triggering: Don't Know What I can Do

[Aletheia*]

Hey guys!

Well, let's start off with the basics here. Yesterday, I got a text message from my favorite girl in the world, my best friend Julie. Julie is the mother of my two year old god daughter Ashley, but she is also my ex-boyfriend's older sister. Obviously, I stay in contact with her and the rest of the family because of my strong ties with them. Anyways, the text I received said that Ron's, her husband of almost 8 years) father had passed away. I sent her a text back, asking her to call me when she got the chance, wanting details.

Well, when she did call me, I learned that he did not pass away on Wednesday like I had thought. It turned out, he died on Monday, sometime in the early morning. Everyone is tramautized by what happened. They went an entire day without even realizing that there was a dead man in their home (He died in the morning, wasn't found until Ron had gotten home from work in the afternoon). He had been complaining about his lack of sleep the last couple of days, so Julie just assumed he had been sleeping.

I was personally invited by Julie and Ron to attend the funeral. I only met his father on a few occasions, but I have known the man for almost 6 years (I began dating my ex in 2006). He was quiet, and usually kept to himself, but was always friendly to me whenever I visited the family (he had just moved in with them not too long before this occurred).

I love them, but I'm not exactly sure how to help them. I am attending the wake, which takes place tomorrow night. I even told them that if I couldn't make it to the funeral home, I'd come straight to the house, where I'm sure they'll feel more comfortable to begin with. I don't have a lot of money, so I can't send flowers or bring food along with me to leave in the eating area.

Anyone have any tips or ideas on what I can do? Thanks.

[dipka]

Im very shocked by your tragic loss, I understand the sort's of things you must be feeling.. I think it's great that you want to do whatever you can even without the options that most people can go for

How about a homemade gift?
You know the saying's.. thigs such as homemade comes with the most love, or it's the thought that count's

All the best with everything, Im sure you will do a fantastic job, just keep strong.
dipka