Triggering (Grieving): Using death to get ahead?

[CubanitaChica]

I had a friend of mine pass away in the fall and now this girl that (as far as I know) barely knew him is using his death to get ahead in the world and its upsetting me. Shes been on TV shows, websites, and whatnot talking about not cyberbullying and talking like they were buddy buddy when I know they werent best friends. It's disconcerting to me and I just am tired of all the publicity behind his death, no one lets me grieve and move on. Its been months and it still comes on the news and tv and internet, just ENOUGH! Live and let die.

[Gidig]

Hey-

I can see how you're frustrated. People really do take advantage of unfortunate events sometimes. Though, if she wasn't pretending to be such good friends with him, I could understand. I know deaths in my school always impacted me whether I knew them well or not, and situations I wasn't directly related to have helped me push forward in my own life, as well as working on helping the community.

It's hard enough to grieve, and it can take such a long time to completely grieve, and honestly the process never really stops in your life I feel like. You'll always miss the person, but it gets easier and easier with time. Have you talked to anyone about how you're doing with it? A therapist or someone similar may be helpful. Perhaps a school counselor or something of the sort as well? Talking is so beneficial especially during hard times. And professionals are specifically trained for that, so they can be helpful if you find the right person you trust and all that.

Maria.

[PutYourHeartsUp]

Maybe they were semi close and no one really knew? It is possible. I was closer to someone than a lot of people knew....we'd talk online after school and such but in school we didn't like each other. You could try talking to this person. And moving on is hard and takes a lot of time for some people. You just have to keep moving forward.