advice

[Rooni3]

I've never delt with the death of a close family member but recently I befriended someone who has. I don't know what to say to her (usually I'm great at giving advice) but I want to be sensitive to her situation and not be a bad friend and ignore it. What do I do?

[Reverie.]

Hey there,

There really isn't much you can do to make things better. Unfortunatly death is something we can't reverse or change. All you can do if offer your suport and be there for your friend. LEt this friend know that if she needs to talk to you, you'll be there for her and be happy to listen to her. Death hurts and affects us all in different ways, so if she says no, let her know the offer will continue standing and you're there when she's ready to talk. You don't have to ignore it, just remember you can't do much in terms of actually making things better, you can only try to help her through it and make it easier for her to cope with. Make sure she's not feeling alone too, that's never nice anyway, but it's going to be harder when she's upset.

Take care of yourself and I hope your friend is okay.
Hollie.

[lea-x-fallen]

To be honest, nothing can make them feel better.
But I know just by letting them know you are there for them, and talk to them about it, but ONLY if they want to.

It's hard, but just being there when they stumble or need someone to talk to. Make sure if they start to talk you have time for them, let them talk about that person, it might upset them, but it helps.