Triggering (Grieving): Only the good die young.

[Aletheia*]

Hey all,

I just got word from one of my best friends that her cousin, Tim, died in his sleep last night. Crazy, since he was only 17 years old. This is completely unheard of in someone his age, although I know it's possible. They know no details yet of what could have gone wrong, and an autopsy will be done to determine what that was.

I'm just in shock. How can God take away someone that young, for no mere reason that we know of right now. It's difficult to comprehend, and makes me question my faith. I'm so angry, and hurt and confused, and scared and a million other things that are just indescribable. I want to be there for my friend, but her cousin's mother is flying in from North Carolina, where she lives with her other cousin and her new husband.

I just don't know what I can do for them other than be there, and even when I want to be there, I can't because they won't let me. My other friend is with her right now, and I offered to come by to offer my condolences and be a friend, but they said no. I just don't understand...

[bitesize]

I'm so sorry to hear that
Don't be offended that they didn't want you to come by. They're probably getting a lot of offers from people to come and spend time with them,but they might just prefer to have some private time to cope with the grief. Te best you can do is make sure you're there when your friend is ready to need you.
It's always a shock when someone this young dies, and can make us question everything. I'm not religious enough to feel comfortable offering advice in that area but I do believe that everything happens for a reason, no matter how impossible it might be to see a reason or how unfair it can seem. It was just his time to go.
I'm really sorry love, and sorry if this didn't help much :/ but I really hope you're okay.xx

[Reverie.]

Hey Shannon,

First off, I'm incredibly sorry to hear this news. It's so tragic when someone so young is taken away from the ones they love without any prior warning. Death is a hard thing to cope with, and it's understandable that his family, and your friend, will want to keep this within the family. I see why you're upset and concerned for them, but unfortunately, there isn't much more you can do right now other than make sure they know that if they need you, you're there. It's a shame, but other than that, there isn't anything else you can do. You just need to give them their time to come to terms with his death, and that could take any amount of time. I'm very sorry for this, and I really do hope that your friend and her family are okay, and I send my love to you too.

Take care,
Hollie.

[falcon16]

Shannon,
I know what your going through and im sorry that your going through it. My best friend died last year in a plane crash and I pulled his body from the wreckage. His family did the exact thing to me, it is a very stressful timefor both you and the family. My advice is to just give them space. It might be hard but its what you have to do.

[dredear]

His family are going through a lot right now,
One of my best friends commited suicide and her parents wouldn't let anyone visit. Now they do. It's a horrible thing to have to go through, Just give them time.