Writing a eulogy.

[JKmadu619]

Before anyone tells me "I'm sorry for your loss" no one is dead.
My great Grandmother is over ninety and living in her own home. However recently she has begun planning her funeral, because she realizes she will die eventually, and then everything is just how she wants it at her funeral.

I know this sounds unusual, and it is. However she also asked me to write the eulogy soon BEFORE she dies so I have instant information right from the source to make it easier on me. I decided that I will humor her and write her eulogy for her now, to give her peace of mind if nothing else.

I've googled some stuff, but I'm still somewhat unclear on the entire concept of a eulogy. Is it to remember the person's life? Or is it to remember your personal experience with them?

Also, if anyone here has written one, or helped writing one and could post pointers I would be very grateful.

- Justin

[eunoia]

A eulogy, in this case, is most simply words of praise for the recently departed, so it is going to be a very personal piece to write. I reckon you may be after more specific advice, but I think the most meaningful way for you to write a eulogy would be to reflect on the life of the person you wish to be remembered. Consider how you want your grandmother to be remembered, how she wants to be remembered, and perhaps ask her for a favorite quote, story, or (if she is religious) scripture to include. Good luck, and may I say I commend you for taking on such a task.

[JKmadu619]

Excellent. That's pretty much what I got from my internet search, but I wanted to be sure.

The bible scripture is a great idea.

- Justin

[Pelios]

I've never written one but I have been to funerals and they usually talk about the life of the person some of their favorite memories with them sometimes a funny comment the person used to say. Since your great grandmother is still alive you can make the eulogy and have her preview it. Don’t make it too long just something short and sweet.

[jenpiglet17]

Hi! I did an eulogy for my cousin when he passed. An eulogy to me is sharing something about the side of the person that I know, a story, something to lift our hearts and remember the person, etc. The person I did it for was for my cousin who had downs syndrome, and everyone knew him as the person who they could just get away with sending him a birthday card. I feel as if I 'showed them up' with my eulogy, because he was such a wonderful person, and knew unconditional love. Each person has wonderful attributes to another. Sharing what she loves, (the bible quote from previous post!) a quote, a picture, describing her as you know her, etc. It's whatever you make it! And knowing that the loss affects not just you but others too, and sharing the love of that person is something you all have in common. It's a wonderful thing.