How do i cope?

[Paddy]

I can cope personally when grieving - but when it comes to supporting others when they're grieving i find it so hard.
Any techniques as it's a very sensitive subject?

[dipka]

Hey, Thank's for asking
I understand what your saying, Death and Grieving IS a difficult subject and thus many people do not talk about it as much as they perhapse should.
Anyway, on to what you asked. I hope Im correct in assuming that by this you mean someone such as a Friend has recently lost someone and you want to now help your friend? (sorry if this isent correct please do reply correcting me and I will get back in touch)

To help someone who is going through Grief you need to unsderstand 'what is Grief?' When you do this you can then help them to deal with their feelings. I have explaind this in my thread titled 'General advice for anyone dealing with death' which I surgest you take a look at and can be found here http://www.teenhelp.org/forums/f19-d...dealing-death/

From reading that you will know that everyone feels different when they greave and as their is no 'way' to grieave their cannot be a way to 'help grief'. Therfore my best advice is to firstly be understanding of how they are feeing and seccondly know that they will be in one of 2 cattogries:
-They want to talk about it
-They want to be alone
If you offer to talk to them you will very quckly be able to tell wich of the above they are in. If the first then offer to talk. Depending on how much you know you may not be able to help them as such but from greaving myself I know that the what you want most is often just a friend who will listen. So be that friend.
If it's the latter then do not pressure them to talk as they are obvesly not ready. The best then is to leave them alone but just make it clear that you will listen (as above) when they are ready for you. I would then advice that every 4 day's or so you get back in touch with them and politely ask them if they are ready to speak.

I hope iv understood your situation correctly and not gone off on something completly irelivent and finally that this advice helps you. If not or if you have any further questions please get back in touch.
dipka

[Iris. ♥]

Hey! This is a great question because death is such a sensitive subject. There's not really a perfect way to go about helping other people cope. Everyone's situation is different. The best way to help others get through their loss is by being sensitive and a good friend. If they need to cry, give them a shoulder to cry on. If they don't want to talk, don't make them. If they're feeling angry about the loss, you might have to be their punching bag on occasion (figuratively, of course). You might have to bear some harsh words, but remember that they don't mean it. They're just lashing out because it's the way they cope. But don't let them mourn too long. If it seems like the person is spending too much time mourning and they're not getting back into their normal routines, you might have to politely remind them that the one they lost would want them to be happy, remember the good times, but not dwell on the end. Hope this helps!