Almost 6 months...

[Christian_girl_4ever]

It's been almost 6 months since my mom passed away. I feel like it was my fault, even though she was sick with a lot of things (heart, lung, and kidney failure and an amputated leg due to her diabetes). I feel like a was a bad daughter. I just want her back (just without all the pain she was in). I miss her so much. I cry STILL so much, I feel like such a baby. Am I a baby for still crying? Should I be over her death by now? I mean I had so much time to prep for her death because like I said she had been sick (and close to dying multiple times) so shouldn't I be over it? I'm so confused.

[Amberpamber]

Danielle, its ok to be grieving even 6 months later. Everyone grieves at their own pace, their own way. Don't feel bad if even a year from now it still really hurts. You're grieving for your mother, who I can tell you were really close too. This will take time, and in the mean time if you ever need to talk feel free to pm me.

[Darkeinu ♥]

I am still grieving for my best friend over 9 months later. She took care of me, gave me love like a mother should (my actual mom is abusive, not gonna get into that here though), understood everything I was dealing with, and then she was gone. I blame myself for not acting that day and trying to save her life. Apparently, there was nothing I could do. The same goes for you, there was nothing you could do. She is in heaven, watching you, and if she were still here, she would be holding you and telling you that it's ok to cry. It's a way to cope. It shows how much she meant to you. Cry all you need to. She loved you, she still loves you. She always will. And you will always love her.

[Squiggly]

Hey Danielle it is okay to still be sad over this when it has only been 6 months! I can't even imagine losing my own mother and I bet if I did I would be upset for a lot longer than 6 months and that's for sure! From what you have said above it seems to me like you are the opposite of a bad daughter and I am sure your mother knew that! it doesn't matter if you were expecting it for a long time or not it still hurts the same either way and I am so sorry for what you have been going through . You aren't a baby for crying it is good for you to cry and you can take as long as you need to get over this and if it takes years that is nothing to be embarrassed about. Most people never completely get over it but it does get easier and life moves on. I am sure your mother would love to see you happy again and I am sure you will be when you are ready. In the meantime take care of yourself and I am always here along with the rest if you need .

[Audacious]

Hey,

Everything is normal that you are going through. People grieve for long long times after parents die. I lost a parent at 15, and I still cry about it sometimes.
Time does not take away what happened, nor does it make grief stop...it just gets easier. I know that you probably might not see that far ahead right now, but it does get better.

Are you thankful that her death was expected and drawn out so you had time to plan for it? Were your able to say goodbye? Would you have rathered her death be sudden and unexpected?

I encourage you to know that you are not alone. There are so many other people who lost their parents available to talk with you. I'm one of those people. Loss is such a big deal, and it's normal, like I said earlier, for you to still be grieving.

Maybe there is something you can do to remember your mom. Candle lighting and balloon releasing are 2 things I repeat to people over and over because they are amazing ways to connect with loved ones. Give it a try, either by yourself or in a group.

Take care <3