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Peer Pressure and Bullying Social pressure can take many different forms, including intimidation, bullying and even physical attacks. If you feel you could be a victim or perpetrator (who wishes to stop) of bullying, talk about it here.

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Question I don't know if this counts... - April 19th 2009, 02:55 AM

Well I don't know if this counts as bullying, but I do have a question that seems to fit under this category. Just ot start off, let me say that I do not get bullied, but was just curious about something. I am in 7th grade and the girls have not gotten too bad yet, at least not with me, but what the hell is up with the guys? Who have always been like this by the way. Why do they insist on being annoying jerks sometimes. Surely you all know what I'm talking about. For example, when a jerky guy comes up to you and says something random that you don't understand then walk away and go laughing off with their friends. What is that all about? I don't get it. I mean, sure you can be sarcastic with someone, but some of them are just plain mean. Guys on this site, if you could please answer this question for me, I'd appreciate it. Girls, you can answer too, I'll take anything

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Re: I don't know if this counts... - April 19th 2009, 12:36 PM

Hm, I'm going to try and answer this but keep in mind I'm a girl, so I may or may not hit the nail on the head

I see middle school as some of the hardest years of a kid's life. It's the time one's peers are trying hardest to fit in and find their social circles. I'm not too sure about your school district, but I know in mine, middle school is 7th-8th grade. Six elementary schools fed into my middle school, which was about 350 kids per year. 350 kids, most of who had never met before - kids were bound to feel they had to do whatever they could to fit in and make friends, to be socially accepted by the rest of the grade. This led to many doing things they'd never done before, just to fit in and be seen as 'cool'. And I think, this may be part of why the guys in your grade are acting this way. They're thirteen, they want to fit in and be 'cool' like everyone else. The only way they can think to do this is to follow the crowd and do what everyone else is doing so they can fit in. Right now, what everyone else is doing is being jerks, pretty much.

The best advice I can give you is just to ignore the guys when they're being jerks to you. It's something they'll grow out of sooner or later and it's just not worth minding them when they get under your skin.

So yeah. That's my take on the situation. Not sure whether I'm right about it or not but curious to hear a guy's point of view.



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Re: I don't know if this counts... - April 19th 2009, 04:34 PM

Yeah, I understand what you're saying compleltey, but there are guys like that, but then there are guys who do it because they *are* the crowd, which is why others do it. There is just no reason for them to be doing it, and they do it anyway, and it's not even that funny, I just don't get it.


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Re: I don't know if this counts... - April 21st 2009, 10:35 PM

I know what you are talking about. I'm a girl and I'm in high school, and sadly it will take some time to end. Girls mature faster than guys during this time in our lives, so a lot of guys are really immature. Try not to let it get to you (and I know that is hard), but it will get better when everyone grows up a little bit.


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Re: I don't know if this counts... - April 23rd 2009, 11:11 PM

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I know what you are talking about. I'm a girl and I'm in high school, and sadly it will take some time to end. Girls mature faster than guys during this time in our lives, so a lot of guys are really immature. Try not to let it get to you (and I know that is hard), but it will get better when everyone grows up a little bit.
Ackkk it'll be a long high school years...but it's not like they're my whole life. I've got friends by my side and you guys, which will help me not pay attention to them!


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Re: I don't know if this counts... - April 24th 2009, 12:43 AM

Sorry, guys are kind of stupid. We don't really understand where the line is drawn. We usually don't understand our limits because they are different between guys and girls. When something is said to another guy, we understand because we generally have the same mentality. The same thing said to a girl, and you dont see it the same way we do. Your only in seventh grade, sorry, but you in for a good 16 years before a lot of guys your age get this.


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Re: I don't know if this counts... - April 25th 2009, 02:03 AM

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Sorry, guys are kind of stupid. We don't really understand where the line is drawn. We usually don't understand our limits because they are different between guys and girls. When something is said to another guy, we understand because we generally have the same mentality. The same thing said to a girl, and you dont see it the same way we do. Your only in seventh grade, sorry, but you in for a good 16 years before a lot of guys your age get this.
Ohh, that *does* make sense...well guess I better brace myself then thanks for letting me know.


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