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Peer Pressure and Bullying Social pressure can take many different forms, including intimidation, bullying and even physical attacks. If you feel you could be a victim or perpetrator (who wishes to stop) of bullying, talk about it here.

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Over-reacting? - April 28th 2009, 09:39 PM

So they are these guys in my year who are just horrible, and everyone finds them annoying, and I don't want to make too big a deal about them but anyway...

So when I'm hanging out with my friends they come up and start talking to us and they're okay to my friends, just they're normal level of patronization, but whenever they talk to me they always start calling me a lesbian (yes guys in my year are that original ), shoving porn in my face, throwing stuff at me and taking my bag. I mean, I don't react and they're usually done in a few minutes but I hate it, it's like nearly every day and I guess I'm just scared going to school in case I see them or something.

I hate admitting they get to me, because they shouldn't. And I find it so hard to admit they upset me especially when no one else is really bothered by them and just shrugs it off. I just don't get why they always do it to me, or whether it's just me being oversensitive.

I hate putting up with it and it makes me feel so worthless, like I deserve whatever I get and it's all my fault . And then again I don't feel I deserve to feel like that, that it's not a big enough deal to justify those feelings.

Oh well... there's nothing I can do anyway. Sorry this is kinda long and doesn't make a whole lot of sense, just needed to get it off my chest.

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Re: Over-reacting? - April 29th 2009, 12:03 AM

Faye,

If others in your year find the guys annoying as well, have you thought about finding a group of people and approaching the administration at your school about them? These guys do sound horrible, and no one in your year should have to put up with them. Talking to a teacher or someone at your school about the problems these guys are giving you isn't making a big deal about it at all, the bottom line is that their behavior is unacceptable and unfair to you and the people around you. No one should have to put up with that kind of environment, especially since school is somewhere you spend such a large portion of your day. Something else to consider - I'm not positive but I'm pretty sure porn is illegal for minors to posses in the UK? I know it's illegal in the US, I'm not sure about England though. If it is illegal, make sure to bring that up with whoever you tell - they could get in serious trouble for that.

Honestly, Faye, I think their behavior would get to anyone. There's nothing wrong with being bothered with how they act, especially if this is on a daily basis. Like I said, you shouldn't have to put up with this. It might seem like others in your year aren't as bothered by how they act but it very well could be they're just as bothered as you, and are tired with their behavior, but don't let it show they're bothered by it.

No one ever, ever deserves to be bullied, Faye, not even you. You don't deserve to have to be around them and their stupidity every day, and it's not your fault at all. They're the immature ones, not you. Let me know if you want to talk about anything, ok? Take good care of yourself.



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Re: Over-reacting? - April 29th 2009, 12:48 AM

I know exactly what your talking about. It seems like they're just bullying for the sake of bulllying and your the lucky winner, right? Well if you just ignore them, which I know is hard to endure and seems like it never works, but they'll leave you alone if you don't react. Even better, when they do that stuff just try to laugh it off and be one of them, they'll get so confused and annoyed that they'll jsut leave you alone.

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Re: Over-reacting? - April 29th 2009, 07:01 PM

I agree with Flannery on the laughing it off, in my experience it works better than ignoring it.
When I just ignored it the boys doing it found it funny which I've never understood
But stay strong and pm me if you ever need to talk
Don't ever feel like you're overreacting. No one should have to put up with any amount of bullying.
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