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Peer Pressure and Bullying Social pressure can take many different forms, including intimidation, bullying and even physical attacks. If you feel you could be a victim or perpetrator (who wishes to stop) of bullying, talk about it here.

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Bullying and how it affected me - March 5th 2014, 08:25 PM

Hello,

I'd like to talk about my experiences with bullying and how it has affected me. When I was in elementary school I was bullied a lot. I was called names, pushed around, etc. I was also ostracized from the rest of the students at the school and had no friends. I was bullied so much that I stopped going to school for about a month or two, and as a result, I had to repeat the 4th grade.

The teachers were no help. They didn't do anything to stop the bullying and they made it sound like this was somehow my fault. I was also treated differently to, like I had mental problems or something, and they put me into a different class.

Things did get better in middle and high school, but I was still very anti-social and would sometimes refuse to talk to anyone, even a teacher. I've had people come up to me and try to start a conversation with me, but I would ignore them. I didn't want to ignore them, but I don't know, was I afraid of them or something?

College was no different. I didn't have a lot of friends, didn't socialize all that much, and the course I took I feel as though I made a big mistake. Now I'm stuck with no job, no money, and a degree I don't even want.

I think I've trailed off a bit, but the end result of my experience with bullying has made me scared to talk to people. I cannot make eye contact with people, I'm still anti-social, I have no self-esteem, and no confidence. I want to change, but it's hard for me.
   
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Re: Bullying and how it affected me - March 6th 2014, 04:51 PM

Hey there

I know how you feel. I used to get bullied too and even if I don't really want to admit it, it still affects me a lot.
But knowing the problem is the first step to solving it.
I don't really know your school system but I think it is never to late to try something new. Maybe become an apprentice or if it is possible for you, you could try to study something else or try to find some job that has nothing to do with what you studied.
Also maybe you would actualy come to like the jobs that are available with your degree. Just try it.

For talking with people.... well you just need to keep talking to them and it will get easier over time. What might help is to research some topics you could talk about so you feel more self confident when you talk with others.
It also might help to join some clubs or volunteer for something. It is a good way of meeting new people and geting more chances to open up to others. Furthermore if it is a club you will have something in common with them like a certain sport which can be an awesome conversation starter.

Maybe it would be a good idea to find someone with whom you could talk about your experience. That could be a parent, friend, doctor or whom ever you trust because talking really helps! It hurts but it really does help a lot and if you feel like you have noone to talk with, feel free to pm me and I will listen to you.

Changing is hard but as long as you really want to you will be able so stay strong and keep your head up!


It's ok to give in to an urge or make a mistake. You are only human and we all have our flaws. We all have our weak moments and we all make mistakes. Thats what makes us human.
Thats what makes us unique and beautiful

Courage isn't always a loud roar. Sometimes it is a quiet whisper at the end of a day saying: Tomorrow I will try it again!

   
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