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Whats the worst rumor spread about you that ruined your reputation? - April 10th 2014, 09:51 AM

Once in a while there used to rumors going about the kids who didn't fit in, but at most they were nothing serious.

However Its probably because its a small school in a relatively small town. I assume in other schools rumors can get literal ruin a persons life.

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Re: Whats the worst rumor spread about you that ruined your reputation? - April 10th 2014, 10:17 AM

I never really took notice of people spreading things about me back in school but there was one which caught my attention, mainly because I knew the person was already a rumour spreader and I couldn't stand them. I'd fallen off a treadmill in the school fitness suite (as you do when you have a friend like mine who turned the speed up to be super sonic and expects a really unfit person to run like a cheetah) and the emergency stop chord didn't work and got caught which in turn lifted up my t-shirt a bit. The person decided to spread this weird rumour that my trousers (even though I was wearing shorts) came down. Well ok then.


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Re: Whats the worst rumor spread about you that ruined your reputation? - April 10th 2014, 01:36 PM

Someone once altered my messages to make it look like I had said something when I actually didn't; and that went around. There were also false claims about my sexuality. I wasn't developing as quickly as other girls my age, and you could imagine how that went. However, most of the things that went on are things I chose to forget or blocked out.


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Re: Whats the worst rumor spread about you that ruined your reputation? - April 10th 2014, 03:27 PM

for some reason I didn't have many rumors about me get so widespread but kids in school gossiped about me and would say "but it's true" and for them, they didn't find anything hurtful about it.
Also it would be outright making fun of me on the spot or confronting me but not many rumoring.
   
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Re: Whats the worst rumor spread about you that ruined your reputation? - April 10th 2014, 04:42 PM

Sexuality rumours, I'd kiss gay guys cause no straight guy would, I fancied my friends, I was a man, I got beaten up by so and so, I lied about rape, I bullied my rapist into forcing him to admit he raped me and I once chased folk round college with a knife.


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Re: Whats the worst rumor spread about you that ruined your reputation? - April 10th 2014, 09:55 PM

I would hardly say any rumour "ruined my reputation", because, ironically, as self-conscious as I have always been, I am generally the kind of person who does not have any kind of "reputation" whatsoever and essentially does not exist to but a few people, a situation with which I am very much comfortable. But anyway...I did not develop as fast as most other lads my age, and that led to rumours about my sexuality. Since I am not your archetypal teenager, I was not subject to as many rumours (I am too invisible to be included in the school gossip circles, sigh ), but more often simply plain bullying based on personal traits (being apparently more intelligent, my social anxiety, etc.) or factors beyond my control, such as coming from a poorer area of town but attending a rather affluent secondary school.
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Re: Whats the worst rumor spread about you that ruined your reputation? - April 11th 2014, 02:48 PM

When I was in middle school, I attended a school that was primarily black. As a result, I was the "token" white girl. Also as a result of every one of those students being very hateful, rumors spread throughout the school like wildfire that I was a racist and I wanted to harm any black student that crossed my path. Even the teachers sunk so low as to believe what they said about me. Also as a result of these rumors, they all jumped on the bandwagon of constantly beating me up "before I could get to them." It was terrible. It got so bad that we finally moved to the country.


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Re: Whats the worst rumor spread about you that ruined your reputation? - April 11th 2014, 06:00 PM

Let me think....

The rumour about me being a lesbian ended quickly, but it wasn't entirely false either? I am bisexual and I was in a small casual relationship with a female, but once it ended (the relationship, I mean), I got picked on a lot.

The rumours about me cutting weren't rumours at all, but no one wanted to prove it either. Teachers knew about peoples' curiosity, and they also knew that it was true. People started treating me different, and several boys would make sure to say "oh I'm so depressed" and would drag scissors down their arms when I was in the room....

Recently though, there was this huge rumour going around our theater department that I had slept with my ex-boyfriend during my new relationship, and had gotten pregnant doing so. The one's that started the rumour were actually some really great friends, and they still are, no worries. But things got pretty bad. I mean, the pregnancy thing got cleared up fast. But the ex-boyfriend problems got bad. Like dangerous bad, and teachers were notified. Text messages and fights broke out.
It was horrid... I had nightmares. I'm glad it didn't get out past the theater department.
However, I can see why people would think something drastic like pregnancy had come over me. I was crying all of the time, and would look at my ex like he was stabbing me. I also threw up quite a few times during practice, and would get dizzy often.

I don't care what people that aren't my friends or family think of me. But I care about my now boyfriend, and my friends, my family, the people who care, because I want them to know the real me, even if I don't know the real me yet.
   
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Re: Whats the worst rumor spread about you that ruined your reputation? - April 11th 2014, 08:56 PM

Hey,
There are many people in my school who try to spread rumours about me.The main cause for it is jealousy.Sometimes people get too jealous of a person and they start to ruin the image of that person.By doing this,they get satisfaction.

Its better to ignore them.Let them spread rumours about you.It should affect you.Remember that 'The best revenge is massive success'.Dont take any step that may have bad impact on your life.

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Re: Whats the worst rumor spread about you that ruined your reputation? - April 11th 2014, 10:25 PM

Oh what. Im guessing this is highschool or middleschool. Dont care what juveniles kids think of ya. When youre older care. For now, just dont.
My reputation "destroyer", lol.
Id say cutting and i would be honest and lying at the same time. I made like 40 or so cuts on my right arm and when school started they were fresh and really could be seen. I was in the locker room readying for PE class when I disrobed in a t-shirt with my cuts showing and one of my friends just like:
HOLY FUCK WHAT THE FUCK
My class started picking on me. I was neutral. Hell the teacher kept his mouth shut and the cuts were pretty bad they could be seen from like 60 feet away. But yeah, my class picked on me some time but when they realised that I dont give a shit about what they think and i never will they stopped with the cluster fucking. Still other classes immediately (some people still do) think of me as an emo. And when i say they stopped after some time i mean like 2-3 months. But still it "ruined" my reputation. The lie is that i never had a reputation to begin with really... People didnt fuck with me, they talked to me of course but i kept usually to myself and a few friends... Shit i dont even remember middle school anymore...

So yeah... Dont give a shit...
   
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Re: Whats the worst rumor spread about you that ruined your reputation? - April 16th 2014, 12:04 AM

I remember a few years back my sister spread rumors about my emotional/anger issues. She told my grandma I was violent which isn't true. It hurt so badly and I'm still afraid of my grandma till now because I don't know what other rumors she told her. I guess it's more gossip...but I use it interchangably
   
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Re: Whats the worst rumor spread about you that ruined your reputation? - April 16th 2014, 12:20 AM

No rumours really ruined my reputation because I didn't really have one. I wasn't really that important during school, I didn't have many friends and people only really paid attention to me because I looked different. But the one rumour that sticks out is that someone was spreading a rumour that I was a porn star? Not true. But it didn't really ruin my reputation and years on, I find it pretty funny.


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Re: Whats the worst rumor spread about you that ruined your reputation? - April 16th 2014, 12:56 AM

In high school I was more of a floater and really didnt fit in one social group. I enjoyed speaking to both the popular and unpopular kids and had a pretty large friend network. In 9th grade, there were rumors spread about me that I had sex with a few upperclassmen at my school. I was still a virgin at the time and these rumors really did hurt me for the first couple of weeks it started. But I eventually thought "why should it matter what these rumors say. I still have my friends that believe in me"

I actually found it to be more annoying than hurtful afterwards since random kids around school I barely talked to or never even seen would come up to me and ask about it. But as all rumors do...it eventually died down until someone else became the main news around.

It was pretty easy for me to stop caring about the rumor since I had great friends that never once questioned me about it (even though they obviously knew). At first it may seem like things will never get better but you should be reassured that it doesnt matter what others think of you, as long as you keep up your own self esteem



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Re: Whats the worst rumor spread about you that ruined your reputation? - April 16th 2014, 02:08 AM

Hey there,

This is a really good question. However, being the victims of a rumor and having to deal with that rumor from others who believe something based on fictional facts can be destroying oneself.

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Once in a while there used to rumors going about the kids who didn't fit in, but at most they were nothing serious.

However Its probably because its a small school in a relatively small town. I assume in other schools rumors can get literal ruin a persons life.

Whats the worst rumor spread about you or about someone else?
The question is what you believe in what is correct or incorrect information. The only person to know that truth is yourself. When rumors spread about someone it's like playing the telephone game. Someone explains something about someone, then that person thinks what that person told them and words get altered and miscommunication happens. Thus rumors are spread. This becomes dangerous.

Rumors fly around everywhere, people will always talk, gossip will still linger, and rumors can become degrading. However, instead of asking others what the worst rumor they ever had happen to them about them, which is focusing on the negative. Rumors happen. Can we stop rumors? Yes and no.

We can stop rumors by explaining whatever rumor is out there about that person (ourselves) and state that isn't correct what is correct is this. Sometimes that telephone game happens and someone misheard or changed one word.

Sometimes we can't stop rumors. If a rumor is being talked about everywhere, sometimes that person (or ourselves) don't want to explain ourselves so we leave it.

I want to ask a question: Who knows yourself better? Is it a classmate, a peer, a family member, etc.? The only person who knows yourself is YOURSELF. So, you know the truth if a rumor is going around and that rumor it true or false, you're the only one who knows the answer.

It DOES MATTER if and when someone is starting to degrade you, put you down, when it starts to affect your life. Then you need to tell someone because it can also be a clear form of bullying.

Speaking up when rumors are happening can be challenging because not only could it be a few people it could be more than 3 who are talking about that person. Being laughed at, belittled, being disrespected, etc., can make it much more difficult for someone to tell someone. Sometimes, standing up for themselves can be hard when others don't listen or believe what the person is saying.

In the end, that person (yourself) will know the truth and they (yourself) don't have a reason to give an explanation if its false or true.


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Re: Whats the worst rumor spread about you that ruined your reputation? - April 16th 2014, 08:53 AM

it got spread round that im gay... then when i got annoyed and said no i was homophobic... peoples logic these days


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Re: Whats the worst rumor spread about you that ruined your reputation? - April 17th 2014, 01:50 PM

I didn't really have a reputation either. I was just the nutter who spent all her free time sleeping in the library.

There were a couple, though. The first one was when I was 12 and this guy basically tried to tell the entire year group that I'd had sex with him, and tried to make it seem better for me by saying I was good at it.
Then when I was in 4th year we were watching this grainy film in Biology when the girl next to me swore she saw "something jump about three feet" off my head and spread it around that I had head lice. So even people I didn't know would dodge away from me in the hallway and go "Ewww, she's got nits!"
That last one sucked. The girl was an idiot anyway so why anyone believed her, or thought that something actually did jump 3 feet in the air from my head is beyond me.


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Re: Whats the worst rumor spread about you that ruined your reputation? - April 18th 2014, 09:12 AM

I hope this post wont be erased, but i want to make a comment when i saw these posts:
How much stupid people there is in this world... Its downright insulting... From 12 year old kids talking about having sex to like rumors about token white girls... If you think of it, there are people who need to be stupid enough to say something stupid like that...
   
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Re: Whats the worst rumor spread about you that ruined your reputation? - April 19th 2014, 03:44 PM

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I hope this post wont be erased, but i want to make a comment when i saw these posts:
How much stupid people there is in this world... Its downright insulting... From 12 year old kids talking about having sex to like rumors about token white girls... If you think of it, there are people who need to be stupid enough to say something stupid like that...
Your post wont be deleted because this is your own opinion. However, it is good to state, "This is my opinion..." but I don't find it offensive.

I would like to answer your statement, "If you think of it, there are people who need to be stupid enough to say something stupid like that... "

A lot of people say things to get attention its there way of, "hey look at me," so they get arise out of it when they're the centre of attention. Usually something in their life had happened, or they aren't receiving that kind of attention so they find ways to receive that kind of attention. Neither is good nor bad its how they do get attention and if they hurt others around them then it's not a healthy route for getting attention. I hope that makes sense.

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Re: Whats the worst rumor spread about you that ruined your reputation? - April 19th 2014, 04:28 PM

It didn't ruin my reputation seeing as I was a nobody at school but I brought a razor to school and my teacher over heard me talking and she knew I cut anyways she brought me to the office and the police were called and everything. I was handcuffed and put in the back of the police car and taken to the hospital. When I got back to school 14 days later there was a lot of rumors around that I was arrested. I also told my friend I was in the hospital and he told everyone so that got around the school as well along with the fact that I was a cutter. I was bullied so much for everything that I got pulled out of that school in the 10th grade and went to a charter school instead.


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Re: Whats the worst rumor spread about you that ruined your reputation? - April 19th 2014, 04:28 PM

It didn't ruin my reputation seeing as I was a nobody at school but I brought a razor to school and my teacher over heard me talking and she knew I cut anyways she brought me to the office and the police were called and everything. I was handcuffed and put in the back of the police car and taken to the hospital. When I got back to school 14 days later there was a lot of rumors around that I was arrested. I also told my friend I was in the hospital and he told everyone so that got around the school as well along with the fact that I was a cutter. I was bullied so much for everything that I got pulled out of that school in the 10th grade and went to a charter school instead.


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Re: Whats the worst rumor spread about you that ruined your reputation? - April 19th 2014, 05:08 PM

The worst rumor was that I wanted too hit this mean girl with a book all the people I knew and trusted turned against me. I only have my diary to confess too now. And that girl wants to pound my face in with a book.


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Re: Whats the worst rumor spread about you that ruined your reputation? - April 22nd 2014, 09:15 AM

Well, there have been rumors about me sleeping with like half the town! Whenever I rejected a guy, within the next week he would have told everyone shit.!
It happened with my sister and now its happened to me.! but we don't give a shit!
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Re: Whats the worst rumor spread about you that ruined your reputation? - April 25th 2014, 12:35 AM

Well one memorable rumour was during my days in High School. A so called "Friend" spread a rumour that I was doing drugs. No wonder I was being appoached by people that was into that sort of stuff
   
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