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Peer Pressure and Bullying Social pressure can take many different forms, including intimidation, bullying and even physical attacks. If you feel you could be a victim or perpetrator (who wishes to stop) of bullying, talk about it here.

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My sister. - May 6th 2009, 04:36 AM

Well this isn't a forum I'm in often.

Basically my sister is being bullied pretty bad. The whole rumors, threats, and what not. She's in freaking second grade. She told my brother, but really doesn't want to tell our parents. So my brother told me. I've always explained that I will deal with anything like that that comes up. And as an insanely protective sister, I plan to. I'm just not sure how. I know I need to keep a cool head, but I also don't want the school to think my parents aren't helpful or fit as parents. I also don't think they need the stress, and I know my dad will take things illogically and fix them.

I also feel that if she really doesn't want my parents to know, but I can handle it in a mature way it's okay.

What should I do? The soonest I could get to the school without making my mom freak out would be Thursday. Though she doesn't want to go to school tomorrow to begin with.

To be honest, I don't really deal with things like that that often, or if I do, it's with people my own age and I just stand up for myself.

So. Should I go in to the school and say something? Should I try to get her to do it herself? Or should I try e-mailing the guidance counselor or principal there and getting things worked out?

I basically want to find a way without punching the kid in the face

Thanks for your help guys!!
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Re: My sister. - May 6th 2009, 04:55 AM

it really sucks how kids can be so cruel :/
I'd email her teacher and talk to her about it, make sure she knows whose sister you are, lol. if that doesn't improve the only thing you can do is tell your parents, which really would be reasonable, your sister is is what, 7? if she was 14 it'd be different, but don't feel bad about telling your parents, ok?
Your sister is lucky to have such caring siblings



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Re: My sister. - May 6th 2009, 11:02 AM

Hey there, Maria,

If you don't want to get your parents involved, I'd say to either phone or email your sister's school and try to set up an appointment with your sister's teacher and maybe her principal as well. Getting directly involved looks like this is going to be the only solution to make sure your sister feels safe at school as soon as possible.

When you get in contact with your sister's teacher, tell the teacher you're concerned about your sister and that she's been being bullied. Work with the teacher to get the problem under control, find ways to make sure the kids who're bullying her are being dealt with appropriately, etc. At such a young age it's extremely important the kids are learning bullying is never okay, and that bullying is not tolerated.

Most schools do have zero-tolerance policies towards bullying, so if the teacher doesn't do anything to help, make some noise - try to get in contact with the principal or guidance counselors. If things still don't improve, talk with her principal about getting her switched into another classroom.

Make sure to teach your sister ways to deal with bullies - ignoring them, confronting them, telling a teacher about them, etc. It might be a good idea to let your sister stay home today or until you can speak with her teacher about this, so she's not as stressed out about the situation.

You're an amazing sister for wanting to get involved and to help, Maria. Here anytime, take good care of yourself.



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Re: My sister. - May 7th 2009, 09:40 PM

Hi Maria,

Your sister is one lucky girl to have you help her out with this

What I would do in this situation is email her teacher and CC the principal on it, so that it goes to the principal as well, but directly addresses the problem to the teacher. They will be able to get in touch both with the students who are bullying your sister and with their parents.

If this is so serious that your sister doesn't want to go to school, then it really is important for it to be dealt with as soon as possible. If you don't think emailing is fast enough, then pick up the phone. You may not be your sister's guardian, but you can still give a complaint about what is going on. If they have to involve your parents, then that's what they will do, but hopefully they can fix it themselves.

Good luck to you and you sister. I really hope you can get this fixed. Little kids are ridiculous sometimes!

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