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Peer Pressure and Bullying Social pressure can take many different forms, including intimidation, bullying and even physical attacks. If you feel you could be a victim or perpetrator (who wishes to stop) of bullying, talk about it here.

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what would u do - May 20th 2009, 07:58 PM

1.What would u do if a gerk took a pic of u in the gym changing room and threatened to send it to every 1 while u live in a small town where every 1 knows every body?
2,what would u do 2 stop her?
3.if she did it , what would u do /beside suicide/ knowing u have no 1 beside u and it is a big scam in a consevative christian area u live in? /naked pictures=porn no matter if u chose or did not and u r treated like a slutty shut shame ?
4. How would u help a friend who is going threw that ? And if ur a worst loner than she is would u give her a hand and be ''another bitch'' in their opinion'which is much how u'll be treated'' or leave her alone?


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Re: what would u do - May 20th 2009, 10:28 PM

I'm moving this to Bullying, as I definitely feel it fits into this category.

Honestly, I would be telling your friend to speak to someone at your school, such as guidance counselors, principal, school resource officer (if you have those). Having someone take pictures, especially partially or fully nude, without permission and threatening to send it to others is essentially against the law, and unless the person who is in the picture posed for it (which I don't think happened from your explanation), they cannot get into trouble. Obviously, the person who took the picture(s) can and should. I see that as blackmail and bullying in one of the worst senses.

Someone, an adult, needs to be approached about the situation so it can be taken in control. If your friend is not willing to go and you know who is doing this to them, you need to consider going yourself. The person who is responsible should not be allowed to get away with behaving in this manner, because chances are they will do it to someone else later down the line as well.


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Re: what would u do - May 20th 2009, 10:36 PM

I agree with drowningangel; I too would tell an adult. If it was going on at school, I would tell a teacher I trust. I Taking pictures of someone nude without their consent is illegal, and I would want that person to be punished for violating my rights. D Tell her your friend not to be hestitant about stuff like that; she deserves to be happy and feel protected at school, and if someone is harassassing her, she needs to tell someone.




   
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Re: what would u do - May 21st 2009, 02:41 AM

Personally, I would let an adult know. Thats such an unfair thing for anyone to have to deal with, and in a small town, I'm sure that it could cause quite a bit of controversy. I feel as if there are a few things about this whole blackmailing business that might make it so that this girl is unlikely to go through with it. 1, if your friend doesn't seem to know that a picture is being taken of her, I don't think many people would believe that she posed for it. 2, seeing as the picture would have to have been sent from someone, I'm thinking the sender might be more likely to be condemned... that's just my guess, though. But certainly, if you told an adult, they could help your friend stop all this blackmailing business thats been goig on, as well as help with some damage control.

Personally, if I was sent a picture like that, I wouldn't think that the subject of the picture was out of order, if it looked candid. I would certainly think the sender was pretty sketchy, though.

And as for the last bit, I'd stick with my friend, keeping in mind that if things didn't work out too beautifully, it would be dificult... but worth it.

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Re: what would u do - May 21st 2009, 12:49 PM

let me number this:
1.I am not a close friend to the victime I never talked to her this year /my prob, getting unsocial/ but she some how found me the 1 to tell /i honestly do not know why....why?/
So I can not comfort her & I do not know what 2 tell her.
2.the 1 who took de pic threatened her 2 hell ''tell ANY ONE and I will make sure to send it 2 every 1 or simply post it any where online and if ur good enough, prove it is me'' so I can assume she will deny if any 1 asked her.
3.we finished school /just exams & we graduate/ school help is not optional.
4. For using the law :
A.how do we prove it?
B.our regulations r quite easy if photoes were not posted and u can never guarantee there is no backup hidden some where, so police would just delet a version of many and give her a stamped paper....


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Re: what would u do - May 21st 2009, 06:44 PM

I cant see why anyone would see this as porn ...you were getting changed lol in a changing room, where changing takes place. The only person out of whack is the one who took the photo. People will realise that eventually
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Re: what would u do - May 21st 2009, 07:33 PM

eventually = after the girl did sth 2 her self..... She is so tensed, she's going threw a rough time and this just made her life worst.... She needs support and I do not feel in position to say any thing yet I feel resposible cause she barely told 4 people /a teacher who did not do a damn/ me and her boy friend /who turned up 2 be a gerk/....and her close friend.


If ur at the bottom then cheer it only can go better
If you are lonely then smile
You do not need them to stay alive
If they hurt you bad ,been hurt worst and every thing is just pushing u down...
And even though you are strong enough to survive


p.m me.........I quite like it

   
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