TeenHelp
Support Forums Today's Posts

Get Advice Connect with TeenHelp Resources
HelpLINK Facebook     Twitter     Tumblr     Instagram    Hotlines    Safety Zone    Alternatives

You are not registered or have not logged in

Hello guest! (Not a guest? Log in above!)

As a guest on TeenHelp you are only able to use some of our site's features. By registering an account you will be able to enjoy unlimited access to our site, and will be able to:

  • Connect with thousands of teenagers worldwide by actively taking part in our Support Forums and Chat Room.
  • Find others with similar interests in our Social Groups.
  • Express yourself through our Blogs, Picture Albums and User Profiles.
  • And much much more!

Signing up is free, anonymous and will only take a few moments, so click here to register now!


Peer Pressure and Bullying Social pressure can take many different forms, including intimidation, bullying and even physical attacks. If you feel you could be a victim or perpetrator (who wishes to stop) of bullying, talk about it here.

Closed Thread
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread
  (#1 (permalink)) Old
SheikLoverXxXx Offline
Member
Welcome me, I'm new!
*
 
SheikLoverXxXx's Avatar
 
Name: Adrian Juanson
Age: 19
Gender: Male

Posts: 3
Join Date: October 25th 2017

What do I do if my friend is bullying me? - October 26th 2017, 04:11 PM

This thread has been labeled as triggering, particularly on the subject of peer pressure or bullying, by the original poster or by a Moderator. The contents of this thread might therefore not be suitable for certain sensitive users. Please take this into consideration before continuing to read.

Me and my friend that I will call Johnny have been playing Super Smash Brothers Melee for about two months now, and at first it was really fun. However, Johnny has been using a character called Ganondorf, and of some reason I cannot win against it. At first it was all fun and games, Johnny would just chuckle and laugh at the fact that I could not beat him, but then it evolved into something much worse. After a few days he began taunting me with verbal abuse, and saying that my mother doesn't love me because I am a failure at Smash Brothers and at life. Johnny is a good friend of mine and I do not want to stop our friendship, but I cannot take it anymore and feel terrible when I am around him. What should I do?
   
  (#2 (permalink)) Old
TheEdenProject Offline
Member
Not a n00b
**
 
TheEdenProject's Avatar
 
Age: 20
Gender: Trans Male
Location: Austria

Posts: 74
Blog Entries: 7
Join Date: July 6th 2017

Re: What do I do if my friend is bullying me? - October 26th 2017, 07:28 PM

i would say that your friendship is turning toxic there. i can understand that you wouldn't want to end your friendship but in this situation you have to think about yourself. he's clearly turning abusive there and might even turn even more abusive the longer you're with him. i know ending a friendship can be tough but in this case your friendship is clearly turning toxic and toxic people shouldn't be in your life because they only make yourself feel bad about things.

surely you will find better people in your life who you can befriend and have more fun with.






"We drift away
Diffusing light
Confusing times
Growing up
Or cascading down?
Cascading down
I'm hurting now"

- EDEN // crash

feel free to PM or VM me if you need someone to talk to, i always have a listening ear and i never judge anyone.


former HelpLINK Mentor - 01/20/18
   
  (#3 (permalink)) Old
cynefin Offline
Verbal venom.

TeenHelp Addict
************
 
cynefin's Avatar
 
Age: 20
Gender: Female
Location: 1261'

Posts: 9,789
Blog Entries: 1483
Join Date: August 25th 2012

Re: What do I do if my friend is bullying me? - October 27th 2017, 01:36 PM

I’m going to move this to Peer Pressure and Bullying because I feel it fits better there.

As it’s been said, it does seem as though your friendship is becoming toxic. Do you think you could tell your friend about how he makes you feel when he says those things to you? Perhaps he’ll stop saying them if he knows they make you feel bad.

If you feel uncomfortable expressing your feelings or you discuss them with him and he doesn’t stop taunting you, it may be best for you and your mental health to end the friendship.

Feel free to keep us updated.


Articles & Resources Officer|Lead Moderator|Senior Newsletter Editor
The mountains are calling and I must go.
1941-2016

Nature does not rush, yet everything is accomplished
-Lao Tzu
Memories made in the mountains stay in our hearts forever
Move the body, quiet the mind
   
  (#4 (permalink)) Old
SheikLoverXxXx Offline
Member
Welcome me, I'm new!
*
 
SheikLoverXxXx's Avatar
 
Name: Adrian Juanson
Age: 19
Gender: Male

Posts: 3
Join Date: October 25th 2017

Re: What do I do if my friend is bullying me? - November 10th 2017, 01:46 AM

Quote:
Originally Posted by TheEdenProject View Post
i would say that your friendship is turning toxic there. i can understand that you wouldn't want to end your friendship but in this situation you have to think about yourself. he's clearly turning abusive there and might even turn even more abusive the longer you're with him. i know ending a friendship can be tough but in this case your friendship is clearly turning toxic and toxic people shouldn't be in your life because they only make yourself feel bad about things.

surely you will find better people in your life who you can befriend and have more fun with.
I have considered this, but me and Johnny have been friends ever since the first grade, and he is very sensitive which is why I think he takes out his anger on me. We want to transfer to the same college together and have been through a lot, however he has just been getting worse as time goes by and I cannot even talk to him about anything other than him beating in the game anymore. I am thinking about talking to him about it but do not know how to bring it up without it being awkward, any advice?
   
  (#5 (permalink)) Old
cynefin Offline
Verbal venom.

TeenHelp Addict
************
 
cynefin's Avatar
 
Age: 20
Gender: Female
Location: 1261'

Posts: 9,789
Blog Entries: 1483
Join Date: August 25th 2012

Re: What do I do if my friend is bullying me? - November 10th 2017, 11:53 AM

Perhaps he takes his anger out on you because you’re a safe person for him to be angry with. Some people do that with their anger.

You said you want to bring it up without it becoming awkward; maybe you can bring it up while you’re playing the game so you each have something to focus on to calm your nerves while you’re talking about it? You could also wait until he says something that upsets you and then bring it up then. For instance, if he says something, you could say “Speaking of that, I feel — when you —.” Using I statements is a good way to discuss how you feel without being overly accusatory.


Articles & Resources Officer|Lead Moderator|Senior Newsletter Editor
The mountains are calling and I must go.
1941-2016

Nature does not rush, yet everything is accomplished
-Lao Tzu
Memories made in the mountains stay in our hearts forever
Move the body, quiet the mind
   
Closed Thread

Bookmarks

Tags
abuse, bullying, friend, friends, super smash brothers

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off




All material copyright 1998-2018, TeenHelp.
Terms | Legal | Privacy | Conduct | Complaints

Powered by vBulletin®.
Copyright ©2000-2019, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search engine optimization by vBSEO.
Theme developed in association with vBStyles.