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Peer Pressure and Bullying Social pressure can take many different forms, including intimidation, bullying and even physical attacks. If you feel you could be a victim or perpetrator (who wishes to stop) of bullying, talk about it here.

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Question My Friend - January 14th 2009, 07:08 PM

I am bullied a lot and have learned to stand up for myself but my friend can not.

I share a computer class with her and we sit next to each other. Sometimes other friends will poke her in the side so she jumps but she has gotten good at grabbing their hands and they are now stopping the poking. On both sides of us though there are two girls who will poke her in the side even though my friend shows signs of annoyance and discomfort. She will not ask them to stop more than once because she is afraid of being "rude" and whenever I ask them to stop they just tell me to shut up and let my friend talk for herself. I have asked my friend if the poking bothers her and she says it does but she wants to be polite. Any advice?
   
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Re: My Friend - January 14th 2009, 07:09 PM

The weak and shy will always be weak and shy.

Nothing you can do, its up to her.

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Re: My Friend - January 14th 2009, 07:11 PM

I think you should tell a teacher for your friend. what those kids are doing is completely unacceptable, and your friend most likely feels like she can't speak up.

just say you've noticed it and ask the teacher to watch next class, and if it happens to intervene.
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Re: My Friend - January 14th 2009, 07:18 PM

I can understand the fact that your friend may be scared to stand up to them. I believe you should talk to the teacher about this and see if there is something you can do...


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Re: My Friend - January 14th 2009, 07:25 PM

I have talked to the teacher but even though she has given them ARC, ISS and detention they keep at it. the semester is almost over now and I do not share anymore classes with her so I want to know that she can stick up for herself.
   
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Re: My Friend - January 15th 2009, 03:51 PM

It's okay to want to be polite, but sometimes you have to do what's best for you and not worry about whether it's rude or not. In this case, standing up to the girls and telling them to knock it off would not be rude at all. After all, they're the ones being rude by continuing to bully her, even after your teacher has gotten involved.



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Re: My Friend - January 15th 2009, 09:09 PM

Stand up for your friend, no matter what the girls say.

They can tell you to shut up all they want, but that doesn't mean you have to, does it ?

If that doesn't work, try talking to your friend and telling her that you hate seeing her get bullied like that and you wonder why she doesn't stick up for herself. Then try to convince her that sometimes its possible to stick up for yourself without completely insulting someone, and being extremely rude.

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