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Crap, I just need a rant... - August 13th 2009, 06:10 PM

I don't know what's wrong with me. Something must be if all but 6 people on the cross country team are dicks to me all the time. Seriously every day, people make fun of me. Yeah, I suck. I know that, but that's not a reason to make fun of me. It's not like I don't try. I work my ass off all of the time. And I'm getting better. But I'm still made fun of... I don't know what I did. My running partner for my marathon told me that I pretty much am asking for it by the way I act. And Monday, when the freshmen were act stupid, a kid on the team said, "I give you credit, you're not THAT retarded". Again, I can't figure out what I'm doing to get this type of treatment... The problem is that I don't talk much at all if I'm not being talked to directly. I just feel like I'm going to say something stupid all the time... And I just don't talk... I hate it, and I don't try to...

I just don't know what to do... It's just making me more depressed. Literally the only time I feel good about myself is at karate. And that's not every time. The thing is that people actually talk to me there and I'm not treated like shit.

I wish I could just go to Japanese class, then go home. All year round. I love Japanese class. The people in the class are absolutely amazing. It's the only time of a school day that I'm not treated like shit by someone. In every other class, people are dicks... I don't know what I do..

This wasn't really looking for advice... I just need an outlet and this one works...




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Re: Crap, I just need a rant... - August 13th 2009, 08:17 PM

Cameron, I am replying for others to learn from your experience. I do realize you don't want help, but I am sure others want to be able to learn from your experiences, and it's similarities to my own.


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I don't know what's wrong with me...every day, people make fun of me. Yeah, I suck. I know that, but that's not a reason to make fun of me.
One possible reason is that people are desperate to make friends. By having you as the "common enemy", you become the basis of their friendship and conversations. You're just the sacriface that these jerks made to keep their so called "freindship". This happened to me, and I am still battling the mental strains it has on your mind.


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...I don't talk much at all if I'm not being talked to directly. I just feel like I'm going to say something stupid all the time...
Well, that's one of the mental strains I had, as I just written above. Don't be afraid of what others think. You aren't stupid; those guys are. They make a friendship with you as the common enemy, which is pretty stupid in the first place. Then, they say everything you say is stupid, when it isn't, to keep the friendship going.

For anybody in a similar situation, I say just don't say anything to these guys and let your mouth free when they are gone. If you don't give these guys something to talk about, they will run out of things to build a friendship on. Sort of like cutting off the power to the Energizer Bunny.


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...the only time I feel good about myself is at karate. And that's not every time. The thing is that people actually talk to me there and I'm not treated like shit.
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I wish I could just go to Japanese class, then go home. All year round. I love Japanese class. The people in the class are absolutely amazing. It's the only time of a school day that I'm not treated like shit by someone.
That's good. Go where the jerks aren't. And from there, form real friendships. Don't waste your time with the jerks. I remember in my classes that the jerks keep a victim as a "friend", so that the victim is with them all the time. Then, when the victim says something, the jerk uses it against him. By keeping the victim around, there is always a "conversation" among these jerks to keep their "friendship" going.


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Re: Crap, I just need a rant... - August 14th 2009, 09:51 AM

Ah, people can be such jerks T_T I'm sorry you have to deal with such asses. But, you say you enjoy Karate and Japanese classes? Is there a way to join an after school club? Or increase your lessons? Maybe that will raise your spirits a little, and help you forget about the other people - or temporarily anyway. It sounds like you're pretty strong, and you've been doing well so far, for putting up with them. So, keep strong and do your best to forget about them.
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Re: Crap, I just need a rant... - August 26th 2009, 01:49 AM

see a councler if things are so bad. people are mean because they have issues with themselves and theyre mean so they make themselves feel better and "higher". its unfair to you, but you just be the better, bigger person and dont let it get to you or take it personally. once you graduate from the school, you will never have to deal with those kids again. but there are bullies out in the "adult world" as well, and we just have to learn to deal with them in our own ways. good luck =]
   
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Re: Crap, I just need a rant... - August 28th 2009, 01:31 AM

Oh darling, I know what you're going through.
I basically went through the same thing in public school, and that was for 3 years, every single day. And because I was in public school, all of my "friends" went to every class with me, so there was no way I could get away from it! But you can, so be thankful for that.
There's noting at all wrong with you. You probably have done nothing to deserve this treatment, but bullies normally target the quieter people, because they know that they won't do anything about it. Next time they put you down, stand up for yourself! No one has the right to push you around!
   
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Re: Crap, I just need a rant... - August 28th 2009, 05:57 AM

Hi Cameron.
I understand your situation pretty well. I was also on the XC team and I was made fun of because I sucked at running, even when I tried really hard I got no support and I was usually forgotten about during meets. Guys can be really big jerks (not you ).
But just because they are being jerks doesn't mean you should put yourself down. I know its hard, its really hard, but you have to believe in yourself. Whenever you get time off a lap or on one of your miles, pat yourself on the back. If you know you are getting better, or that you are at least trying, that's all that matters. Keep trying harder and harder and maybe one day you can show them how to run.
   
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Re: Crap, I just need a rant... - September 3rd 2009, 02:24 AM

You need to GET OUT THERE and make some friends
Don't give them a reason to treat you like that!
Don't be afraid to speak up, I know you won't screw it up
If you're improving, then just give yourself a pat on the back!

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