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They Did This To Me... - November 11th 2009, 02:04 AM

Heres a quick (and somewhat long version) of what happened to me.

In grade 6 there were 4 people who made fun of me so bad. They kept one joke going about me for months. 5 months. And the WHOLE CLASS except for 3 kids were in on the "joke". When a girl came up and told me she felt bad. I asked why.

She told me about the joke and how long it had been there. When I told the teacher, only one kid out of the 4 main people who made it up apologized with no punishment at all.

It wasn't only that joke. They targeted me for years. But it was the worst grade 6. All the fat jokes and jokes abut the music I liked or how I dressed. They never understood what they had done.

I'm in grade 9 now, and I still feel a grudge. It's been so long, but they never got what they deserved! Even now, 3 years after, when they see me, I can feel them staring at me.

I don't think they relize that my life has been changed because of what they had done! I can't trust people anymore. It made me suicidle for awhile. And they triggered my depression.

I can throw the blame at them all I want, but still, they won't apologize. They told me that holding a grudge this long was stupid. But I feel like I have to hold on. What they did was wrong, and the proper justice wasn't served. I'm stuck in this pool of anger.

I want to see them fall from everything they believe they are. I want them to know what they've done to me.

Is it okay for me to still be angry like this?

I see them walking home from school, and all I want to do is lunge at them and ruin them.

It's been 3 years, but I feel like they need to get what they deserve.

How do I handle the anger and resentment towards these people?


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Re: They Did This To Me... - November 11th 2009, 05:37 PM

It's normal to be angry at people after they have done something to you, especially if they don't apologize or if they give you a false apology. Holding grudges is tough- it's emotionally exhausting. It makes sense to hold a grudge but it can hurt you. Three years is a long time. If your feelings of resentment are still so strong then you should really try to move them out of your system someway. Some common ways to get rid of anger are: running, working out, getting involved with something that is so actively engaging that you dont even have time to be mad. Or you can write up your angry thoughts and then angrily rip them up (preferably over a trashcan so you dont have to clean up afterward lol).

Living with a grudge is normal and people can do it, but it's really holding you back.
   
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Re: They Did This To Me... - November 13th 2009, 07:28 PM

Live your life and ignore them. Focus on the good things in your life or else this grudge will hold on to you your whole life. Just ignore them, just live your life like they don't exist. Bad things happen to good people but the break you want from all the trouble will come. Once again, don't pay attention to what they say it only encourages them. Just live your life, i know its not good but if you let them take the joy away from you, it will hurt even more. Just ignore them and continue your life. But don't do anything to them, you will regret it later.
   
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Re: They Did This To Me... - November 13th 2009, 09:32 PM

Jacksonian's right! Good things do come to people who are down on themselves...and once something good happens in your life, trust me, it will feel like a miracle. Whether it's making new friends or reclaiming your own identity, there is NO better feeling on this earth than when you've won against the people who said you couldn't do it.

Attacking them won't help. After three years, don't you think they've forgotten about you? I would focus more on myself and do everything I could to make myself a better person. Don't just be yourself- go beyond the standards you set for yourself. Make yourself better than them- that's all you need to do to win.
   
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