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Peer Pressure and Bullying Social pressure can take many different forms, including intimidation, bullying and even physical attacks. If you feel you could be a victim or perpetrator (who wishes to stop) of bullying, talk about it here.

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Does your school try to help or hinder? - January 25th 2009, 08:42 PM

I remember in high school there wasn't much of anything to do with anti-bullying. The school pretty much looked in the opposite direction. To them, it didn't exist.

That was until the year one boy was bullied so badly, he went home and ended his life.

It really angers me that it took a whole life to make the school snap into reality.

I know it had a ripple effect on the whole city, and into other parts of the GTA as well. It even inspired a book (In Fulll Uniform, and a Billy Talent song)

Since then- my high school had created a group to campaign against bullying. Authority figures decided to actually do things when they witnessed it in the halls.

Better yet,a lot of the kids at school took this all to heart and refused to stand by as others were being bullied.

It was an extreme change. It felt like a whole new school.

Do you ever remember seeing a difference at your school so suddenly? Was it because of certain events that took place?

How bad is the bullying at your school? Does your school have anti-bullying campaigns? Are the effective?

Share some experiences you have seen at school.


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Re: Does your school try to help or hinder? - January 25th 2009, 08:49 PM

My school has a very good counseling program, but I feel like it could be easy to get lost in a school as big as mine. Counselors have 100s of people in every grade on their hands, and you have to be very insistent on getting what you want.

In a big public school like mine, no one checks to see if you're okay. It would be very logistically difficult. You have to fend for yourself, and often fending for yourself means going to a different, smaller school where you can get the care you need. It's hard to get the help you need at my school unless you're intent on getting it, and many victims of bullying are not.


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Re: Does your school try to help or hinder? - January 25th 2009, 09:13 PM

Well. I went to school in NYC. And the bad parts of it. So yeah.
   
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Re: Does your school try to help or hinder? - January 26th 2009, 01:57 AM

I don't think there has been any bullying at my school while I've been there so there isn't any need for a program or anything, but they have mentioned little things about cyberbullying.


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Re: Does your school try to help or hinder? - January 26th 2009, 03:33 AM

Heh, this is really interesting for a discussion topic. It's a shame to hear it ook that, but it does seem to be what it takes sometimes.
My school didn't 'believe' in bullying. There was no bullying on their site, and any bullying that occurred was resolved in 2 weeks or less, according to the information we were given about the school.
Well that was a pile of shite, wasn't it? Since I got there, until now, 5 years, I have been bullied. Physical, Verbal and Sexual abuse, because of how I look and how I behave (I treat my teachers as ordinary humans and this appears to presetnt a problem :P) There are hundreds of students like me who couldn't reach out because the school didn't 'believe' in bullying. But I...think I sort of opened a floodgate.
I'm a good student, see? Clever, I do alot of out of hours work for them, presentations, all that. Suddenly, one day, after about three years, I broke down. I shook, and I cried, and I couldn't talk for about an hour. Not because I was scared of the bullies, but because I was scared of what my teachers might think of me. They got it out of me, about 2 hours on. They found out I SI'd. I was put into councelling, and teachers were alerted to the bullying epidemic that was sweeping the school. Students really felt like they could talk to their teachers. The number of bullying cases being reported skyrocketed.
For all of about 6 months, then it was forgotten.
Teachers forgot, students forgot, and the cycle came back. Noone could admit, noone could report, through fear of being disbelieved. There are still students who will deal with it, there are small groups who you can go to and talk to them, and they will force the school system to take action (I'm one of them I almost got into a lot of trouble that way :P) I don't know. The school doesnt stick to what it says.
Things change, and that's a shame, because when people were really aware, things improved so much.
   
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Re: Does your school try to help or hinder? - January 26th 2009, 08:05 AM

my schools a lot like yours was they'll give a half-hearted attempt to stop, but they do nothing at all.
I'm in my 3rd year here and ive been bullied straight through. They only did something when i attempted to take my life and my mum threatened legal action.


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Re: Does your school try to help or hinder? - January 26th 2009, 03:43 PM

I think most schools claim to have an anti-bully policy, like my school supposedly has, yet they do little if anything if anything arises. I was bullied verbally, yet I knew people who were physically bullied and nothing at all was done. I think though that many people really are too afraid to speak up because they know that their bullies are going to make things worse if they find out they've said anything, which is ultimately made worse when the school only takes a half hearted approach to anti-bullying.

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Re: Does your school try to help or hinder? - January 26th 2009, 04:35 PM

To be honest, the people at my school don't do a very good job of stopping the bullying. It's mostly because the principal is a bit of a jerk. Not that long ago I actually got called to the office because apparently they found out I was occasionally bullied. All they do is try to give you ways to stand up for yourself and make you feel like what the people say doesn't matter, but it's kind of a pain because that doesn't make the bullying stop, and it doesn't help much.





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Re: Does your school try to help or hinder? - January 26th 2009, 04:57 PM

I know that my school has a bullying policy but mostly its ignored. I am a target for bullying, mostly verbal although they are starting to destroy my stuff now and it does not stop in my school. It has been going on since kindergarten and I usually have a breakdown twice a year now from it. The teachers and staff give a whole anti-bullying speech and the counselors tell me to ignore them but what they do not get is that at least in my school, its pretty small just a little less than 800 people in the High School, around 150 graduate a year, the kids take that as an excuse to do more bullying because the bullied was getting them in trouble. So yeah the school bullying thing is crap no-one cares anymore. Ditto with "zero tolerance" policies, so many people can get around them.
   
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Re: Does your school try to help or hinder? - January 27th 2009, 08:26 AM


My school takes anti -bullying over the top.

I understand and welcome it but things have to even out right? If there's no bullying other things have to happen to even it out because things are going to happen that are off center. When there's too much weight on one side of the spectrum, it tilts. So I see this school ending off in a kick.

When I say overly anti-bully I mean.
- No "go home freshmen" chants
- a fight in the school [bully or not] can possibly get you expelled or suspended for like 6-12 days.
- They mesh all the classes together, so there's no class rivalry.[Because we have houses instead of like Class of 10, 11 , 12. there are all the classes meshed together into houses such as yellow red etc.]
- We had this WHOLE ceremony on anti bullying, and we are constantly reminded how bad it is.

I am in an organization called friends of Rachel against bullying, and I'm totally against it but the spectrum is WICKED off balanced here. I have a feeling something bad is going to happen.

Like already, it's only the 2nd year the schools been open and there has been a boys bathroom caught on fire and a gun in the school. so uhh I see bad things happening


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Re: Does your school try to help or hinder? - January 28th 2009, 11:25 AM

before i graduated, my high school was so intolerable of bullying and violence, we had a whole week devoted to it every year. they even went as far as making cutouts of people in red board and then typed their stories and glued it to the people cutouts


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Re: Does your school try to help or hinder? - January 28th 2009, 01:43 PM

Our school claimed to have always had an anti-bullying policy but it neveer did anything really..
until a few years ago a boy in my school a few years younger committed suicide, he was being bullied and that was one of the main reasons i think

now they claim there is no bullying in the school and its all great, pfft what a pile of crap lol, its just as bad as it was before, and theres all this stuff about bullying but nothing is done really x
   
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Re: Does your school try to help or hinder? - January 28th 2009, 05:57 PM

My school has a "zero tolerance" for bullying apparently, but I never have seen anyone try to do anything, though there are a couple teachers who keep and eye out in the class room... but I've still noticed it going on.

At the very least though, they don't stand for violence.



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Re: Does your school try to help or hinder? - January 29th 2009, 09:49 PM

My school doesn't really care. That's why many students make decision on their own, but they end up getting suspended.
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Re: Does your school try to help or hinder? - January 31st 2009, 11:08 AM

My old school had a stupid policy where to stop people making up lies, the bully had to admit it or conclusive evidence had to be presented. Even when a girl beat me and a friend up in the same day she was only excluded for 1 day. Later that year she beat up another one of my friends, and she was only excluded for half a day. And that was when teachers had seen it. Also, when a stone was thrown at me (and split my lip right open) they wouldn't do anything because it could be one of two people. The only positive thing they ever did was set up an anti bullying club, which didn't do much really, apart from give people one lunch time a week were they didn't have to be alone.




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Re: Does your school try to help or hinder? - February 8th 2009, 01:23 PM

My school has a kind of ignore it thing going on...
Girls get really bitchy when left to there own devices and in my experience 9 times out of 10 the 'hot' girls pick on the girls who aren't seen by others to be stunning, it makes me so angry and the school refuses to do anything about it!
There's this group of girls who think they're all that and all they do is pick on all the other girls who aren't pretty or hot enough to be in their group.
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