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Peer Pressure and Bullying Social pressure can take many different forms, including intimidation, bullying and even physical attacks. If you feel you could be a victim or perpetrator (who wishes to stop) of bullying, talk about it here.

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Truth Box/Honesty Box. - December 30th 2009, 10:57 PM

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I know this is not "bullying" or "peer pressure" but this is the best category I think.

I keep getting really mean comments and messages on Myspace and FaceBook, and most of them are left in the applications, such as Truth Box and Honesty Box.

Before you say ANYTHING, let me tell you this. I've TRIED to avoid it. Okay, so you know what happens? This:

I block the application or user from sending me that stuff, and they send it in a message instead of the application, only with a fake account.

I block them from even being able to contact me on FB or MS, and they find ways to leave messages on my cell phone, email, or they mail it to me (snail mail).

I ask them to stop, they find my locker, and dump garbage in it.

I switch lockers, they break into my locker, take my stuff, sell it, by stuff, then put the receipts in my locker. (And yes, I did get my stuff back).

I change my phone number(s), they find other ways to send these things.

I delete my accounts, they STILL find ways to send me them.


This is what they say usually:

"You're a fat a**."
"You need to go die in a hole"
"Nobody likes you!"
"Get over yourself"
"You're so ugly..."
"I hope you die b****!"



Like I said, I know this REALLY shouldn't be in this category, because it's technically not "bullying" or "peer pressure", but it's the closest category to where I think it should be.

I don't know what to do. I just shred the letters in the mail, I closed my emails, changed our numbers, and they STILL find a way to make sure they let me know how much I'm hated.

I can't take this much longer...


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Re: Truth Box/Honesty Box. - December 30th 2009, 11:06 PM

wow.. i'm so sorry this is happening to you, that's disgusting that people can be so horrible!.

if you're getting abusive phone messages or things in the mail that are threats or anything like that then go to the police.. do you know who the people doing this are? if so.. and it's happening at school, go to your school and report them. they can't get away with this. all you can really do is ignore these people who are doing this.. don't react and soon enough they will get bored and move on to someone else.

urgh. i can't believe how horrible people can be..


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Re: Truth Box/Honesty Box. - December 30th 2009, 11:14 PM

I don't know who these people are.

I have reported this to the school, and the disciplinarian gave me a piece of printed paper from the internet, explaining that bullying is the RESULT OF MY FLAWS AND I SHOULD HOW TO NOT BRING IT UPON MYSELF.

Made me mad.

I don't react most of the time in a negative way, but they keep on doing it.

And I know people are horrible...I hate it.

Thank you much Elle


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Re: Truth Box/Honesty Box. - December 30th 2009, 11:20 PM

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I don't know who these people are.

I have reported this to the school, and the disciplinarian gave me a piece of printed paper from the internet, explaining that bullying is the RESULT OF MY FLAWS AND I SHOULD HOW TO NOT BRING IT UPON MYSELF.

Made me mad.

I don't react most of the time in a negative way, but they keep on doing it.

And I know people are horrible...I hate it.

Thank you much Elle
i'm sorry.. but that is fucking ridiculous. go to your principal and give him/her a piece of your mind, your schools bullying system is seriously flawed.

just keep your head up and don't let these scumbags get you down. if you don't know who they are there isn't much you can do other than keep blocking them from your facebook and change your privacy settings so you can control who can message you.


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Re: Truth Box/Honesty Box. - December 30th 2009, 11:53 PM

I agree with Elle - if your school gave you a piece of paper saying the bullying is your fault, there's a serious issue going on. Talk to the head of your school. Talk to your district's superintendent, the school committee, whatever it takes, because there's absolutely no excuse for their reaction. The more noise you make, the harder it will be for them to ignore what's happening. Sooner or later something will have to be done.

Honestly if I were you I would think about talking to the police to figure out who's harassing you, this can't keep going on. You don't deserve this. In the meantime I'd say to just keep throwing away the letters, deleting the texts, ignoring what they do. Don't even look at the messages they send. Just hit the delete button right away. Another idea is to just laugh it off. Some bullies thrive off people's reactions, if they see you aren't getting bothered by the messages they might stop.

Hang in there.. Elle's right, don't let them get you down. Take care of yourself. x



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Re: Truth Box/Honesty Box. - December 30th 2009, 11:56 PM

This is bullying.
I imagine, to be honest, its just one person doing this. I'm sure you've done nothing. Sometimes..people just get to people.
Try to ride it out. Hold your head up high and see how it goes.



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Re: Truth Box/Honesty Box. - December 31st 2009, 05:18 AM

Thanks everybody. But I must point out that "ignoring them" and "keeping your head up high" is easier said than done. Especially if it's all you've ever heard. You start to believe it. Thanks though...much appreciated.


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Re: Truth Box/Honesty Box. - December 31st 2009, 05:35 AM

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Thanks everybody. But I must point out that "ignoring them" and "keeping your head up high" is easier said than done. Especially if it's all you've ever heard. You start to believe it. Thanks though...much appreciated.
yes it is easier said than done.. but what is your alternative? at the moment you've just got to get through it.. i know it's difficult but these bullies won't be around forever.


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Re: Truth Box/Honesty Box. - December 31st 2009, 05:45 AM

Ugh, some people are just completely evil, aren't they? It's not fair at all that someone would put this much effort into hurting you. I know how hard it is to simply ignore what people say, but the most you can do is try. This person is obviously a huge coward. They have a problem with you, and they can't approach you face to face? That shows how completely pathetic they are, and that you should be the last one feeling sorry for yourself. If they don't know anything about respecting others and having the courage to face others, then I highly doubt they're smart enough to know much about you either.

The way your school handled this is completely unfair. If I were you, I'd be talking to the principal the first chance I got. Don't let them treat you like they did - stand up for yourself. Each and every one of us has flaws, but we don't deserved to be bullied and have them constantly pointed out to us. What REALLY has flaws in this situation is your schools policy for bullying.

If this has been going on for quite some time, I would really suggest going to the police. This would be considered harassment, and something the police would definitely know how to handle. There would be a way they could track who is making these calls to you, and could then put a stop to them. It may not seem serious enough to get the police involved to you, but you don't deserve to be emotionally abused by someone you may not even know.

You need to do all you can to get this resolved. Talk to the principal once again, and then consider going to the police if the calls continue. You don't deserve this, and you need to stand up for yourself, because at times you're the only one who can.

Hang in there, and try your best not to let this idiot drag you down.





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Re: Truth Box/Honesty Box. - December 31st 2009, 08:11 AM

Yeah this really is bullying. Let someone around you know whats going on. I'm sure then can offer you comfort and support during this time. Keep your head up and stay strong okay? I've been bullied as well. If you need someone just PM me i would be more then happy to talk with you if you someone<3

Take care of yourself.




   
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Re: Truth Box/Honesty Box. - January 1st 2010, 05:57 AM

Major *hugs* to you. Bullying is horrible, and unfortunately it sounds like your school is doing a horrible job of dealing with it. If you can get the police involved, that might not be a bad idea.

In the mean time, if you haven't done it already, I would recommend deleting your Myspace and Facebook accounts. There is also a way, I think for both of these, to make it so "only friends" can send you messages. I know this wouldn't solve your problems completely, but it would cut it down a lot.


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Re: Truth Box/Honesty Box. - January 1st 2010, 09:59 PM

This definatly sounds like bullying to me.

If your school are being so stupid and just down right wrong about the situation I'd say go straight to a higher power... ie the police. especially if things are being stolen from your locker.

And in NO WAY IS BULLYING YOUR FAULT.... its the bully thats to blame



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Re: Truth Box/Honesty Box. - January 1st 2010, 10:34 PM

If they are saying the bullying is your fault, then your schools bully system is bullshit.
Go to your parents, explain to them, and ask them to speak to the principle. Hop it all works itself out!
   
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Re: Truth Box/Honesty Box. - January 2nd 2010, 01:28 AM

Thanks everyone :] I took your advice, and I reported it to the police department. You know what they did? The traced the messages back to three people. Two girls and a boy that go to my school. And you know what happened? *Giggles* They got suspended for three months and I have a restraining order on them from contacting me as well :]

Thank you very much :]!


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Re: Truth Box/Honesty Box. - January 3rd 2010, 03:40 AM


Although this thread started off shitty, the final outcome just made me really happy.
I'm sooooo happy for you right now. *hugs*
And it sucks that you've had to go through that.
BUT YAY!


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Re: Truth Box/Honesty Box. - January 3rd 2010, 04:23 AM

Thank you ^^


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Re: Truth Box/Honesty Box. - January 3rd 2010, 05:18 AM

I'm glad you got it worked out. And yeah I know ignoring it is MUCH easier said then done. I've been there. A bunch of inmature kids at my school have made fun of me for having leg hair. But I'm glad you got it worked out. It felt GOOD to ready your post about getting it solved. Those little jerks got what they deserved.
   
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Re: Truth Box/Honesty Box. - January 3rd 2010, 05:34 AM

^^Leg hair? Sorry. Most boys are praised for having leg hair at my school. Apparently it's "cute" xD And yes they did

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Re: Truth Box/Honesty Box. - January 3rd 2010, 06:22 AM

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^^Leg hair? Sorry. Most boys are praised for having leg hair at my school. Apparently it's "cute" xD And yes they did

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Re: Truth Box/Honesty Box. - January 3rd 2010, 06:24 AM

I don't think it'd weird either! To me, things on the outside, like looks and appearance, do not matter. So I try not to pre-judge people, that's why I do not make fun of other people.


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Re: Truth Box/Honesty Box. - January 3rd 2010, 12:56 PM

Hey I'm glad to hear you got things sorted out! It's real good to hear that everything is okay now =]

I'm going to close this now, as it seems you've managed to sort it! If you need anything, PM me.

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