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Peer Pressure and Bullying Social pressure can take many different forms, including intimidation, bullying and even physical attacks. If you feel you could be a victim or perpetrator (who wishes to stop) of bullying, talk about it here.

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Unhappy My birthday - January 14th 2010, 03:23 AM

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Yesterday was a wonderful day . It was my birthday (im 16 now), I looked really nice, I got a good grade on a major project, and I talked to this guy I really like . But when I got to school today a group of guys i dont know started picking on me and it really hurt . alot . (ive been to 6 schools and got picked on at all of them and I really thought it was finally over) . It ruined my whole day when I got home I binged and cut (I hadnt SH in nearly a month) but what Im scared of the most is tomorrow . I dont want to walk by them and they laugh at me again but I dont want to walk a different way and feel like a coward .

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Re: My birthday - January 14th 2010, 04:01 AM

Ahh nita that sucks! I hate it when I get bullied on my birthday. It seems like you sure had a shit day, but it's totally not your fault. You did not deserve this, and you didn't ask for it. In fact, often bullies look for a target because THEY feel uncomfortable about THEMSELVES, and while it may seem that they're picking on you because there is something wrong with you, it's not really YOU they want, you get what I mean? It's about them projecting their problems and insecurities.. on you.

That being said, what to do what to do. I would personally report their asses, but that might not feel comfortable to you. You can always just hold your head high and ignore them as you walk by, after all it's their problem.


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Re: My birthday - January 16th 2010, 01:32 AM

Ignore such people and go on with your life. Don't let such people take away joy that you have been given. Ignore them and go on with your life and enjoy your days.
   
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Re: My birthday - January 16th 2010, 02:38 AM

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Yesterday was a wonderful day... I looked really nice, I got a good grade on a major project, and I talked to this guy I really like. But when I got to school today a group of guys i dont know started picking on me...
Well... as the others have said, they pick on you because you had a good day. These jerks feel insecure and want to fool themselves in thinking they are superior to someone else.


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I dont want to walk by them and they laugh at me again but I dont want to walk a different way and feel like a coward .
Some of the guys said to ignore these guys. I find that hard, I prefer avoiding them. You said you want to avoid them but feel like a coward if you do. Well, in my opinion, you aren't a coward for protecting yourself. By avoiding these guys:
  1. You don't know what they say about you. Less things to worry about that way.
  2. They don't get to make fun of you. In other words, they can't see a sad face from you and feel superior. And when you cut that disgusting pride from these jerks, you make them feel like you. It feels so good!

Waiting the guys to become more mature may be another solution. Take some time, but eventually in senior years of high school, people smarten up. Those who want money or sports drop out by then, and the leftovers care too much about post-secondary entrance requirements to pick on you a lot. That's not to say it won't happen, I just mean there will be less.

Good luck to you. I wish the best.
   
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Re: My birthday - January 18th 2010, 03:21 AM

Well if you want to walk by them and not feel like a coward. then go for it. but heres a few tips.

When walking near bullies, look happy, really happy, keep you back straight and you head held high. Confidence is everything.
And if they laugh at you, laugh back like you don't care and actually find it funny.

Bullies won't stop bullying if you ignore them. But if you pretend as if their bullying does nothing. They figure they can't do a thing to hurt you, then they ignore you!

p.s if they look at you, smile and slowly turn your head back to what your doing. You have to look fearless.

I know it can be hard to do this but you have to try, this antibullying trick always works in the end.

urg, i can't belive a boy would do something like this to a girl, how ungentlemanly.
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Re: My birthday - January 18th 2010, 03:42 AM

Honestly the best advice is to laugh it off, the "bullies" could care less if you took them seriously, and by laughing at what they say as if it were ridiculous they lose interest. First they'll probably get angry and lash out more, but if you're with a few friends then they're less likely to show weakness by going out of their way to make you frown.
   
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Re: My birthday - January 18th 2010, 05:43 AM

Hey. Don't worry about them, they just probably were having a bad day and wanted to take it out on someone who was having a good day, because they are not strong enough to deal with it themselves. Just ignore them and I know it will get really annoying for you, but after awhile they will know you aren't going to make a fuss.
Telling a teacher or someone would be a good idea, it may scare them a bit and they probably wont do it again. But this can be hard, and unless they become a real threat or start extreme bullying to the point you feel really threatened rather than annoyed (in this case, get help NOW!) you should just try and ignore it!
   
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Re: My birthday - January 22nd 2010, 08:57 PM

So its been about a week and I decided to walk past them again . And nothing happened . but my heart still pounds a little
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Re: My birthday - January 23rd 2010, 07:15 PM

Don't worry it will take time. But remember not to be afraid.
   
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Re: My birthday - January 25th 2010, 05:27 AM

Waha! Brilliant! it worked it worked Ha ha ha! *dances*

...*ahem

Yeah, now that i think of it, i remember the first time i pulled something like this off. it does make your heart pound like that. But you'll get used to it. None the less congrats on your first victory! Your braver than most people.


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