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Peer Pressure and Bullying Social pressure can take many different forms, including intimidation, bullying and even physical attacks. If you feel you could be a victim or perpetrator (who wishes to stop) of bullying, talk about it here.

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Unhappy Hasn't Happened for a Long While, But... - January 18th 2010, 04:15 PM

So I have not been bullied in any way shape or form in a long while. But, I was when I was younger, and I feel like it has affected me. When I was in fourth grade I switched schools and the kids at my new school hated me for some reason, calling me names like a beaver because I had bad teeth, making fun of the things I said, etc. I was always the one who got in trouble, because I couldn't control my anger and threw pencils etc at them many times. Or like one time, we had to sign out of the room to go to the bathroom and at one point the boys were teasing me a lot so I signed out to the bathroom so I could go cry. I came back like 15 minutes later and my teacher had written on the sheet "I know why you're in there" and then a crying face. Everyone made fun of me for that, too.
I luckily switched back to my original school after a few months. No one has given me any sort of trouble like that since them. Only thing is, now I am a very depressed, VERY paranoid person. I think no one likes me, I think everyone's always talking about me and making fun of me and what-not. I know that I got my depression from my mom's family, but the paranoid and the no-one liking me and my anxiety around people I am sure has to do with my 4th grade bullying. I just want to find a way to stop being so paranoid and shy and anxious with people, to get over my bullying. Does anyone have any suggestions/anything that may help?


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Re: Hasn't Happened for a Long While, But... - January 18th 2010, 04:30 PM

hi....people did this to me to. well i think just try to forget them...if you think about it try to do something like put on music or draw or something and dont think about it. if you have friends or a teacher that you like that can help alot to....you can talk to them. you can pm me and talk to me to. try to be with people you think are nice.
   
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Re: Hasn't Happened for a Long While, But... - January 18th 2010, 04:45 PM

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hi....people did this to me to. well i think just try to forget them...if you think about it try to do something like put on music or draw or something and dont think about it. if you have friends or a teacher that you like that can help alot to....you can talk to them. you can pm me and talk to me to. try to be with people you think are nice.
Well, it's not like I sit around thinking about it, it's the EFFECT it has had on me otherwise. I'm INCREDIBLY shy now, I don't even TALK to people I don't know, I don't trust ANYONE, etc. I'm looking for somehow to stop it from still having this affect on me :/


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Re: Hasn't Happened for a Long While, But... - January 18th 2010, 05:31 PM

I suggest you meditate on this particular matter. Sit down and start to meditate on it and make the choice to stop being shy and anxious/paranoid around people. With such things, confronting them head on is the best way to get rid of them, so that you can be in control.

It will take time though, so just be patient and keep meditating and when something tries to make you afraid, just be courageous and stand up to it.
   
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Re: Hasn't Happened for a Long While, But... - January 18th 2010, 11:31 PM

hmm, I'm thinking that your feeling deppressed because of one of these options:

1) For some reason you have deppression (deppression is stupid, it could happen anyone even if they think there absolutely perfect, which sucks cause then it could happen to me.) In which case, check out the deppression and suicide forum for that aswell as this. Unfortunatly deppression isn't my specialty... yet. So I can't help you much. But I suggest you look at the symptoms for deppression and anxiety on beyondblue.org

2) Another theory is your feeling sad because you never got to seltle the score with those bullies cause you went to a different school before you had that chance. Now your confidence is low and you don't feel worthy of being alive, you perhaps feel like a coward. (just a thought, please don't take offence)

So, since your not actually geting bullied. Then you just have raise your confidence back up,
So do things that you've never done before. things that make you scared or make you feel good. such as: (you might already do this anyway)

A) go for 2 fruit a 5 veg a day
B) go on scary rollercoasters
C) Start a daily exercise plan
D) learn something you've never done before like magic tricks or juggling
E) Oh and of course you can find some various guides online about confidence

Well thats my suggestion, hope it helps.
   
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Re: Hasn't Happened for a Long While, But... - January 20th 2010, 12:03 AM

Hi Liza,

First of all thank you for sharing your story with us I’ll try my very best to help. You have to understand that kids are cruel and they don’t understand the affects that bullying as on people.

However you have to come to realise that it’s done and over with now. You’ve got to be more assertive around people and be your own person. You can’t always be shy because later on in life it won’t do you any good.

Now these changes you’re going to have to make won’t happen over night – however it’s something you want to be mindful of. Unfortunately there isn’t a step by step guide on how to overcome anxiety its just something you've got to build up and overcome.

Remember don’t make exemptions for it and don’t be afraid to try new things because of it. You’ve got to step out of you comfort zone - win or lose walk away with your chin up.

I hope this post made sense its not spelled out black and white but I think I got my point across, if you have any questions just ask.

Best regards.

-Ryan

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