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Peer Pressure and Bullying Social pressure can take many different forms, including intimidation, bullying and even physical attacks. If you feel you could be a victim or perpetrator (who wishes to stop) of bullying, talk about it here.

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I hate it. - January 20th 2010, 03:26 AM

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I've been bullied since kindergarten. It started out as simple exclusions. But last year, in seventh grade it made my life hell. I got called names so much: "ugly", "emo", "loner", "loser", "idiot", "retard", "slut", "skank", "whore"...a few people even wished I would die. I've also heard the phrase "no one likes you" too many times.

I've only been asked out twice, and those two relationships didn't even last a week. And the guys I have asked out, have said no.

I've been depressed because of the bullying, and have had a few brief suicidal thoughts from it. It has given me lower than low self esteem and there are days when I won't even look in the mirror. If one of my friends says something nice about me I deny it and don't believe them.
   
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Re: I hate it. - January 20th 2010, 03:59 AM

Hey.

I honestly would like to get ahold of these people; they have absolutely NO right to be doing this. I know you have heard this before, but you really must ignore them. I KNOW it's REALLY hard to do, but you must. Have you informed anybody of your situation? I really think you should let somebody know, like a teacher or your school's guidance counselor. However, you must NOT let them brush it off by saying, "Sorry, but just ignore it." Or, "It'll get better." The first thing, if these people keep hurting you (physically OR emotionally; which you mentioned it has), they NEED TO BE STOPPED. Don't let these people bring you down, because really, when people make fun of others, they only do it because they have a problem. A serious problem. The second thing being, it may get better, but don't let it get worse first. It needs to be resolved, and STOPPED as soon as possible. You don't deserve to be treated like that. Ever.

I completely understand why you have been left depressed from this; it's not acceptable. What I mean is, being depressed is a horrible feeling, and it leads to other problems. Too many of them. Like I said earlier, people don't have the right to make you feel like this. And addressing the suicidal thoughts you have mentioned. Are you still experiencing these? It's SO VERY important that you let somebody help you, before it gets worse. And how people say, "No one likes you." This is 100% UNTRUE. You have so many people that love you. I promise.

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. Don't let ANYBODY tell you otherwise.

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Re: I hate it. - January 20th 2010, 04:18 AM

I've been through bad experiences with teachers and parents getting involved in bullying, and I feel uncomfortable talking to counsellors.

In year six, these guys from the high school linked to my primary school teased me and I let my mum know, and my mum contacted the school and I found the school had gotten the police involved, that if the boys came near me the school would phone the police. And last year in seventh grade, they brushed that off and started rumors I held a restraining order against them.
   
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Re: I hate it. - January 20th 2010, 06:55 PM

I understand why you feel uncomfortable around counselors, but they help. I think counselors in middle school are a lot different than the high school ones, from my experiences, but either way you should talk to one. They can be of great help to you, I promise. But you must speak up and not let them press down the issue. I'm glad your mother contacted the school, and I think getting higher authorities involved was acceptable, because it sounds like the teasing was getting bad. I hope it worked to some degree, and like you said, you can't let them brush it off.

I know rumors aren't the coolest thing around, but maybe having that rumor around might help you? I'm not endorsing spreading rumors, but if everybody (including these bullies) believes that you DO in fact have a restraining order, then maybe they will leave you alone? I know it's a situation you don't want to be in, keep your head up, and be proud of yourself for being better than them.




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Re: I hate it. - January 20th 2010, 09:49 PM

Ha ha ha, well for one don't listen to those bullies.
leme tell you, I do weight training, gymnastics, people have told me that i have broad shoulders, they say i'll have girls running after me and i practically call myself sexy, everytime i look in a mirror. BUT! i have only ever been asked out, ONCE! And i'm in 9th grade!!

So if i'm that sexy and you've been asked out double the times i've been... then you must be double my sexiness (and i didn't even think that was possible!!) I don't even need to look at you to tell you how pretty you are.

Oh and ask yourself this: your friends complent your looks and the bullies diss them... so tell me, why do listen to the bullies and not your friends?

So first things first lets raise your confidence, Its hard but i want you to force yourself near a mirror, smile and think to you self, I am beautiful over and over again until you belive it! Complent yourself on anything you can and you'll start to feel happy.

Now onto the bullies. Always keep your head held high with a smile on your face, no matter what happens. when a bully insults you, look them straight in the eyes and say, "thats what you think." (if they try and make you prove it say: "i'm just saying, thats what you think" trust me when i say, you can't explain stuff to bullies, ignorant answers work best on them.)
when they make stupid jokes about you. Laugh, laugh because its funny and ridiculously untrue.
   
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Re: I hate it. - January 20th 2010, 11:44 PM

Aww… This is horrible; some people can be real assholes. Listen high school opens so many new doors you’ll be around may more people that share the same interests as you. I’m so sorry to hear that these things have been said about you but you’ve just got to ignore it.

Don’t show emotion towards it and honestly don’t let it affect yourself esteem. You keep your chin up and brush off the assholes you find along the way.
   
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Re: I hate it. - January 21st 2010, 04:17 AM

this is what i did when i had douche problems:
1. tell your mom/teacher/whoever.
2. get a sort of restraining order--it's a no-contact-whatsoever thing. they see you in the hallway, you are invisible to them. they talk to you, they get expelled. simple as that.
   
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Re: I hate it. - January 21st 2010, 09:25 AM

^^^^ That rumor wasn't the best thing, people thought I was some kind of freak for supposedly doing it.

^^ I am in high school.
   
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Re: I hate it. - January 23rd 2010, 07:19 PM

Live your life and forget such people. Your life is far too valuable. If you haven't wronged them then leave them be and continue with your life. Live and be happy. Let those rumors be, because these guys seem hard to talk to, so even talking to them won't work.Leave them be and stick with your friends and enjoy your life. Forget them and be happy.
   
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Re: I hate it. - January 29th 2010, 09:57 AM

I start school in 2 days and I'm really scared it's going to happen again
   
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Re: I hate it. - January 29th 2010, 10:29 PM

Be courageous Emilyyy66. Don't let fear control you.
Live your life and enjoy it. Let those other people be.
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Re: I hate it. - January 30th 2010, 06:18 AM

Keep your head high no mater what, You really need to try it! It does help!


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Re: I hate it. - January 31st 2010, 09:48 AM

I'll try to :\
   
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Re: I hate it. - January 31st 2010, 08:13 PM

On the inside bullies are really just hateful people who get off by trying to make you feel as bad as they do. Showing anger just fuels their fire as well, so I replying with kindness and passive aggressiveness did the trick while I was in school. haha.
Just ignore them, even though it may be hard.


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Re: I hate it. - February 1st 2010, 04:15 AM

Ha ha, Nice signiture! smiling is the first step to a great body image! I wish you good luck!


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Re: I hate it. - February 1st 2010, 09:03 PM

In Juinor high things people will do are often inspired by their freinds. They ack like assholes so that they will be thought of as cool by their freinds, or whoever they are around. half the time poeple don't even know what emo is. If thats your face in your sig then your not ugly, however that grin might want to be replaced by something child apropriate. I'm in 9th and I haven't beeen asked out once, and many others haven't, perhaps theres been other poeple who liked you, but just was to shy. And you know all that they say is false, don't ya? Poeple are just so stupid sometimes... *sigh* sometimes I wonder what went wrong with them... of course the only thing i can think of is alien abduction.... So first day of Hs yesterday? Second day today? how were they?


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Re: I hate it. - February 1st 2010, 09:36 PM

i got bullied all threw high school, and threw my first year of college, occasionly get bullied now days. but i once got told this 'those kids who bully you will end up in prison or collecting rubbish while you will be working in a office or will have a better job than those low lifes ' someone told me that once and it seemed to help abit, just picture them collecting rubbish or cleaning drains and you working in an office or you working in an office with them but they are below you and you are their boss.
   
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