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Peer Pressure and Bullying Social pressure can take many different forms, including intimidation, bullying and even physical attacks. If you feel you could be a victim or perpetrator (who wishes to stop) of bullying, talk about it here.

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Unhappy Trust? - February 12th 2010, 03:04 AM

Throughout elementary school kids always teased me and laughed at me made of fun of me.Said they where my friends then when i would go to talk them would make fun of me and walk away.In middle school they still hated me where mean to me called me gay(which im not and i dont think theres anything wring with it) and fat, and stupid.They thought i was immature and it got worse because i didnt want a boyfriend in 7th and 8th grade.When trying to tell my parents they never believed me.I would skip through the hallways laughing at them saying what idiots they where.Pretend it didnt affect me at all but it did.I know its not a big deal just rumours and name calling occasional hallway pushing.Thing is im in high school, now sophmore year and im scared of making friends.No one teases me here.Still i cant trust them at all or open up.I dont know how i feel like at any second there going to turn and laugh at me and say your so stupid for ever thinking we where friends.I want to trust them but i dont want to get tricked again.what doo i do?? how can i trust people more??


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Re: Trust? - February 12th 2010, 05:08 AM

hmmm... trust...
There is really no easy way to do this, but if you shy away from everything, don't take any risks... You won't gain anything.
But if you hold your head high and try, you could come out on top. If you lose, then just shake your head and try again. There isn't that much to lose afterall.

Anytime someone teases you just smile at them and say: "thats what you think" ignoring is one thing, but bullies hate it if their harasment actually makes you happy.
(Where ever your going keep your head held high and a happy or serious look on your face) And if some bully talks to you, look them in the eyes while you talk (it unerves them)

P.S i know alot of people who didn't want to go out in year 7 or 8. Its not strange

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Re: Trust? - February 12th 2010, 05:18 AM

^Hey. I AM in 8th grade and I don't want to "go out" with anybody yet! You're not alone!

This is a bit of a tough one. My advice to you is just to treat people as if you can trust them until they prove otherwise. If somebody's continually treating you like dirt...you can be pretty sure they don't actually want to be your friend.


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Re: Trust? - February 12th 2010, 11:04 AM

I agree with what cwkguy has said. While we do have a proverb here that states: "If you trust easily, you will also be betrayed easily", in the end you will have no other choice than trusting people "in advance". Give them some trust by way of loan, so to speak. You will soon find out who really deserves that trust and who will only abuse it.

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Re: Trust? - February 13th 2010, 07:33 PM

Hello there. Well since you are struggling with this issue, first just try to make acquaintances first. Talk to them while in public and then start taking things slow. And slowly by slowly you will find yourself having friends. But it takes time, so be patient.
   
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