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Stay or Go? - March 29th 2010, 05:58 PM

So here's the deal. I was at a drinking party yesterday with my one best friend and a bunch of other people I'm close with. I wasn't drinking and neither was my friend (cause she was driving and cause me and alcohol don't mix lol) but we still could have gotten in trouble because our school will kick you off your sports team if you're caught at a drinking party.

Well then what happened was the police showed up so my best friend and I were freeked out. We ran to her car before he saw us so we could avoid being caught.

Aparently though, the cops in that part of the city are reallllllyyyyyy dumb and they just asked "is anyone drinking" and then went to talk to the parents who confirmed no one was.

But here's the problem, after the cops left, one of my friends at the party texted me and my best friend that she was quote "I'm not proud of you two, that was a bad choice". So A. I'm not even sure if she was serious or not and B. how was I supposed to know what to do in a situation like that?

So here's my question: what should I have done? was it better to have stayed. I've never been caught by the cops before so how was I supposed to know. And how can I patch things up at this point?

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Re: Stay or Go? - March 29th 2010, 09:39 PM

You patch things up by not drinking again. If you are not supposed to be doing it then don't do it, especially if you know the consequences will be bad if you get caught. You were lucky to not get caught this time and you got away with it, but next time, refrain from drinking or you may not get so lucky. Next time you just might get caught.
   
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Re: Stay or Go? - March 29th 2010, 10:13 PM

Thanks JJ, but what do I do in the mean time...like with the whole thing my friend said to me. Like should I confront her on it or just move on


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Re: Stay or Go? - March 29th 2010, 11:32 PM

Maybe just explain to her why you guys left? There isn't really anything else that you can do. Maybe she is angry because she thinks you left without saying goodbye rather than because you ran from the police? You really just need to talk to her.

And I know that you said you weren't drinking, and it seems strange to me that the school kicks you off the team just for being at a party, but if you aren't prepared to deal with the consequences of something, then you shouldn't do it. Personally I think that if you willingly and knowingly went to that party, then you should have stayed.
   
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Re: Stay or Go? - March 30th 2010, 03:42 AM

well yeah sadly enough our school is pretty strict like that

But more importantly your totally right. I mean I honestly was just thinking about saving my own skin. And I don't think that was the worst part of it...more that I was just such a ...well quite eloquently a nood. I mean yeah I've never been in that situation before but I feel like i should have known.

Thanks for the advice you guys...hopefully I don't think I'll be in this type of situation any time soon but if I am I'll heed this advice :P


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Re: Stay or Go? - March 30th 2010, 08:05 AM

Hey, don't be too hard on yourself though. A lot of people would have done exactly what you did, it's survival instincts kicking in . And there are a lot of worse things that you could have done. So if your friend is really mad at you about this, she is definitely over-reacting. I hope you managed to sort things out with her.
   
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Re: Stay or Go? - March 30th 2010, 10:43 PM

I think so. I saw her today and she seemed fine. I think I just need to move on and have the both of us forget about it


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