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Peer Pressure and Bullying Social pressure can take many different forms, including intimidation, bullying and even physical attacks. If you feel you could be a victim or perpetrator (who wishes to stop) of bullying, talk about it here.

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in with the wrong crowd - April 22nd 2010, 04:44 PM

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m not sure if im posting in the right place here or if this should be in one of the other forums but im in with the wrong crowd at college well i think i am - theres theese two people in my college class and they seemed ok, ive been going college on thursdays for 3 weeks now so today i went in and the people i usually hang around with at lunch and break were there, so like usual i hung around with them. break was fine, lunchtime was awful, this guy just barged past us, i shrugged it off but one of the people i was with went after this guy, and started arguing with him in the streets after she had finished arguing with him , i said to her im going to tescos you comming ? we went into tescos and the guy she had been arguing with was in tescos, so while i was looking at the drinks and chocolate, she started arguing with this guy in the shop i went over to her after i had bought my things and said come on lets go, its not worth arguing over, the guy looked at me and said to this girl i was with yeah its not worth arguing over, she argued with him abit more, then i realised the time and said we have to go now we going be back late for college if we arent, so we left the shop, and as we left the shop the girl i was with threatend him she told him you leave me and my mates alone or i will be getting people after you. we then left the shop and walked down the road. thing is though when im with this girl and the other person ( the other person is a guy not the one she was arguing with ), i feel safe around them and i also feel a little more confident, even though at the same time i am scared of this girl i also feel safe around her, im worried im getting into the wrong crowd at college i dont really know what do about it either, ive been bullied in the past, and i dont really think this is bullying, but i just dont know, all i know is that my gut instinct is leave before things get messy, but if i leave im pretty much on my own at lunch and break. what do i do ?



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Re: in with the wrong crowd - April 23rd 2010, 12:31 AM

i think it's better to be alone then to be in stuff like that. whos knows maybe next time it'll get worse. (i'm not trying to scare you. ) but that's just one person of that group right? you cant hang out with other people from that group? you cant make different friends?


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i wonder when i'll finally jsut start accepting myself, when i'll stop saying i wish i could be like that person.

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Re: in with the wrong crowd - April 23rd 2010, 07:26 AM

I would say, wait to see what happens, otherwise you might want to search for knew friends. Oh to avoid conflict. Next time someone barges you, say: "Ooh you got me" Like its a game, Not only will it make the bully think he's done nothing to you, but your friend won't want to start arguing with something that might have been friendly.


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Re: in with the wrong crowd - April 23rd 2010, 02:02 PM

this was in the street, this man who was not with us just barged past us. and the girl i was with started being racist to him and stuff. i cant hang around with the others as they dont like me. the ones who like me are the ones who im not so sure about.



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Re: in with the wrong crowd - April 24th 2010, 10:24 PM

Well, has this only happened once ? If so then just be careful.Watch their actions and what they do,whether publicly or privately, do they do bad things or is was it just this argument ? But if you are scared of this girl then just leave her be and go your way. If she asks just tell her the truth, that she scares you.


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Re: in with the wrong crowd - April 26th 2010, 05:53 AM

Well colleges are big places arn't they? there must be someone you havn't met. Liberies are quiet places, perhaps that might be
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Re: in with the wrong crowd - April 26th 2010, 12:47 PM

the college i go to is just a college that specialises in childcare, so its only small. and classes tend to have about 6 -ten people in them sometimes less. my college is small it has 2 floors and about 3 classrooms.



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Re: in with the wrong crowd - April 27th 2010, 10:24 PM

You're in with the wrong crowd. Sounds like the typical street-gang style stuff to me
   
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Re: in with the wrong crowd - April 28th 2010, 02:05 PM

mmm, i know its not right for the girl to just shout at people, but the trouble is i feel safe around her but at the same time i am scared and know that this could be just the start and i could get myself into a big mess and end up in all sorts of trouble, yet because when im with her i feel safe i want to be around them but at the same time she scares me and im scared of her and know it could land me in trouble if i stay but if i go im on my own.



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Re: in with the wrong crowd - April 28th 2010, 03:27 PM

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mmm, i know its not right for the girl to just shout at people, but the trouble is i feel safe around her but at the same time i am scared and know that this could be just the start and i could get myself into a big mess and end up in all sorts of trouble, yet because when im with her i feel safe i want to be around them but at the same time she scares me and im scared of her and know it could land me in trouble if i stay but if i go im on my own.
What's wrong with being on your own? Being with a horrible violent person doesn't mean you're safe. She'll just as easily turn around and attack you.
   
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Re: in with the wrong crowd - April 29th 2010, 02:22 AM

If she says that again to you about her getting people on to you, just turn around and say " friends don't do things like that, you obv aren't a friend and I'd rather be on my own than hang around with a bully"

Thats what she is there is no easy way of putting it, get out while you can, yeah you may not have anyone to hang around with for a few days, but it's better than being in with the wrong crowd.

You could also talk to her and say that you aren't happy with the way she acts if she is a real friend she will change and if she isn't she wont. The 's up to you what you do.





   
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Re: in with the wrong crowd - April 29th 2010, 05:18 PM

the girl left college today she is not comming back. becuase where i go to college is a training college you dont exactly start in september and finish in july you start the course when you want and then finish by when your finish date is. theres another girl at my college though i dont like, she gives me werid looks all the time and asks me whats wrong with me, i dont hang around with her. the girl that i had a problem with never started on me, but on strangers in the street.



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Re: in with the wrong crowd - April 30th 2010, 07:40 AM

Well i suppose thats solves one or two things without needing to do anything...

Oh well she'll stop making silly comments if you show confidence
Keep your back up straight, head held high and a smile on your face, just laugh if she says something stupid, shes new, shes just testing people out to locate possible victims.

Show her that your mentally invincible and she'll back off.


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Re: in with the wrong crowd - April 30th 2010, 01:34 PM

true i just ignore her, i dont think shes new because yesterday there was a girl in my class who i got on with and was talking to her on the bus and i asked her if she liked the other girl and she said no, apprantly no one likes the other girl. shes threatend to beat someone up in my college class before aswell. im just staying out of her way, i was on the same table as her this week, if she spoke to me i did speak to her but if she started making comments at me ignored her and put my ipod on, shes odd though because she also go on the same bus as me and when she got off she said bye to me, i asked the girl from my class the other one the one who i got on with, she was not there last week so i couldnt talk to her, but i spent the whole hour on the bus talking to her. it was nice to get the bus with someone usually im on my own so its nice to be able to get the bus home with someone.



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Re: in with the wrong crowd - May 2nd 2010, 12:31 PM

Hrmm sounds like a good result. Phew *sigh* thats gotta be one of the longest threads i've ever helpped with, (not that i don't mind long threads of course) ^^ nicely done anyway i hope for the best!

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