Bully

[Angeal]

I think this goes here, if not please let me know....

Introduction:
Anyway, last year was my first year at the highschool(10ht)and a guy that I'd had a run in in 8th grade was bullyin me. It didn't help that I had to deal with him on the bus and in 8th period. He called me all sorts of names and said all sorts of things that I pretended didn't hurt, but they did.
The question: I found him on facebook and requested him to be my friend, and he acceppted. I did this to see what he would do. Do you think I made a bad mistake, and I'm setting myself up for something? Because this is only summer, and once school starts back he'll be on my bus again.
Please let me know whether you think this was a good idea or a bad one.

[MichWolverineFreak]

Maybe... my friends took advantage of me a lot because I never got vengeance on anyone.

[falling_x]

It's a difficult one to answer ... You could wait and see what happens - a lot of people don't even know who they accept on F.B. As much as I hate to say it - he probably doesn't even know its you!

[ruki]

idk...im friends with people ion FB that are my worst enimies in real life...

[ALLorNOTHINGforCHRIST]

I would wait to see what happens; because, he may hate you still but then again because he accepted he may be ready to change.

[SunnyBlueShowers]

well if he is your friend on fbook, it would kind of make it easier for him to bother you. i mean cyber bulling right? not matter where he is bugging you, he still is a bully and still needs to be confronted. stick up for yourself, or tell an adult. i used to be bullied ALOT by a group of girls. but once you get an adult involved, everything melts away! sure they might talk behind your back a few times, but if you brush them off. they get the idea and back off. now, weather it was smart or not to add him on fbook, i dont think so.

[Angeal]

I guess that I will have to wait and see what happens. I mean he may be waiting for school to start to start back again. If he do start bullying no matter in person or cyber, be for certain that I'll delete him as a friend. But again you never know, some people can change, and their just looking for a chance. Like before, we'll just have to wait and see

[Nostalgia]

i have added 3 people who bullied me at school to facebook, i have had no problems with them, they like my statuses, and i occasionly click 'like' on thier statuses, but apart from that we dont really talk, when its there birthdays ect, then i wish them happy birthday and stuff, but apart from that we dont really talk. i didnt send them the friend request though they sent them to me, the way i see it is school years are over, i have forgiven them, but i will never forget what they did. but like you i know that if they do start picking on me agian i can report them to facebook and block and delte them as friends.

[BullyPreventionScheme]

Haha, facebooks weird... its more like a book of people you know more than a book of friends.
Two things could occur
1) you take this to your advantage and see if you can talk and befriend him
or 2) he'll try to cyber bully you.

And of course you have the right idea, if he tries to cyber bully you. just delete him.

[Jacksonian]

Originally Posted by Angeal

I think this goes here, if not please let me know....

Introduction:
Anyway, last year was my first year at the highschool(10ht)and a guy that I'd had a run in in 8th grade was bullyin me. It didn't help that I had to deal with him on the bus and in 8th period. He called me all sorts of names and said all sorts of things that I pretended didn't hurt, but they did.
The question: I found him on facebook and requested him to be my friend, and he acceppted. I did this to see what he would do. Do you think I made a bad mistake, and I'm setting myself up for something? Because this is only summer, and once school starts back he'll be on my bus again.
Please let me know whether you think this was a good idea or a bad one.

I don't see this as a good idea. He is not truly your friend. But it has happened now, so why not try to be his friend and see how he reacts. If he treats you badly then just unfriend him and have nothing to do with him.

And also, watch the way he acts towards you, cause I have a theory. Why would he friend you if he hates you so much ? Doesn't make sense, perhaps he just bullies you just for bullying's sake and he may just be another guy who just doesn't know how to talk to you.

[BDF]

Some people tease others stupidly if they fancy them... teasing isn't exactly supposed to be hurtfull, but maybe he doesn't know that you find it hurtfull, especially if you say you ain't showing it. Him adding you as a friend on facebook might be something suggesting he doesn't really hate you or anything. All this is just a possibility.

Best is if you manage to catch him on his own and have a chat and see what his problem is.

[Angeal]

Thanks,BDF, I might try that

[Lexo]

Hello there,

I can try and help in this situation, best I can...

Maybe it wasnt the best idea to have the person on your Facebook, as it could also result into Cyberbullying aswell as bullying outside of the internet world. However Cyberbullying can easily be sorted by 'Report' facilities.

Maybe you could talk to someone about the bullying taking place on your bus. (teacher or someone)

Hope I have Helped.

[OMFG!You'reActuallySmart!]

Many people accept friend requests on Facebook without thinking who the person is. It's like on TH, if someone requests to be my friend, I don't bother to look at their name much, I just add them. It doesn't seem like a bad move you did because if he starts up, it's a few clicks and he's no longer a Facebook friend. You can try to use it to talk to him if you wish and let him see it is you in case he didn't recognize your friend request as being from you. If he stays a friend, then either he doesn't quite care or he's not hateful to you (unless he goes and gives nasty emails and comments).

I'd say though that if after making contact he didn't unfriend you, take a few screenshots of the comments and him as a facebook friend. If he begins bullying again, you can give a snide response like "are you bullying me to hide how much you like me?" *bat eye lashes*. Even say to him what he said to you on Facebook because while he's bullying you in school or on the bus, if others hear this, they may laugh at him. You then have the upper hand and can dictate how you want it to go.

[Descant]

It really could go either way, but I like it that you gave him a chance to change his ways. Alot of people wouldn't do that. And if it does backfire and he even starts cyber-bullying you, you can always remove him from your friends. I hope the best of luck between you!