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Peer Pressure and Bullying Social pressure can take many different forms, including intimidation, bullying and even physical attacks. If you feel you could be a victim or perpetrator (who wishes to stop) of bullying, talk about it here.

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I know that I don't fit in, but really? - September 23rd 2010, 12:25 AM

I know that I don't fit in. Pfft, I never have, and I never want too. I tell that to the girls who won't leave me alone, and I tell that to the guys who treat me like I'm so much less then a prize to be won. I tell that to my friends who ask me to try to blend in more, and I tell it to my teachers when they see the shit going on.
So, I'm doing what I've always been told to do. Don't show fear or pain to bullies, tell it to them straight that you aren't going to put up with it. So, I've done all those steps right, but how come the promised reward isn't coming? They're not leaving me alone.
I've been putting up with mostly the same kids since early elementary school, and really, I'm sick and tired of their shit to me. So what I'm different? I'm proud of that fact, I'll scream it to the world! I'll do anything to make you stop hurting me.
WHY WON'T THEY LEAVE ME ALONE?


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Re: I know that I don't fit in, but really? - September 23rd 2010, 08:54 AM

Hrmm.... if you find nothings working for you. Perhaps you might be able to help me. *smirks*

You see when i started highschool i got bullied alot. I was shy and had low self esteem. But i decided i'd experiment with bullies, It took about 2 years for me to work them OuT and completly defeat them. I now have a almost perfect guide for beating bullies.
But theres a problem

Since i'm a boy, bullies treat me like there bullying a boy. And I have no idea how a girl could defend against bullies.
Technically, my guide is half complete.
I've been looking for someone who could help me complete the other half.
I'm pretty sure your a girl.
Your young, (more time to find answer)
You seem to be pretty well grounded
And you want people to accept your different (very important that)

You seem to tick all the boxes. What i need your help with, is to (with my help) experiment with them, find OuT how to beat them. It might take awhile, there will no doubt be failed attempts, and its going to be fairly hard. However we should find success at the end.

I don't have the answers to solve this problem but with some time I can.

So in which case, would you like to help me with my experimental work?


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Re: I know that I don't fit in, but really? - September 23rd 2010, 12:52 PM

The best way to really not get bullied (if your standing out) is to try and fit in, but only at school. This may seem like lying to yourself but there really isn't much you can do about it.
But if you have absolutely no intention of changing how you are (not saying that's a bad thing) then you have to learn to stick up for yourself, especially since the teachers sound utterly hopeless and unhelpful.
Violence isn't the way, but if they're being violent towards you hitting them back wouldn't do much harm, it may even stop you. Many will disagree with the concept of fighting back, but meh, it works. Though if they are violent you can always ring the police about it, that'd deter them.
If it's just verbal abuse then the best option really is ignoring them, or keep a store of witty comeback that you can use to make them seem stupid.
In the end though, idiots are everwhere and that's somethign society as a whole needs to get used to=/
   
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Re: I know that I don't fit in, but really? - September 23rd 2010, 02:45 PM

hey

So I have seen things like this going off at my school... it seems like a certain kid is picked out of the rest and just bullies. It's awful and shouldn't happen .. but the truth is some kids just get picked on alot. I don't mean to make things sound hopeless.. because they aren't!
The best thing to do is try to fit in a little... I know right? not what you want to do.. but it might be a good idea to see if that changes anything..
If it doesn't you should go back to being how you are
I don't mean dress different all the time just at school

umm.. other thing is, that you've probly been saying you won't put up with their name calling for so long that they just don't believe you anymore and the novelty has worn off.. you have to be careful with stuff like that

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Re: I know that I don't fit in, but really? - September 24th 2010, 01:32 PM

No offence to rainbowskies and.... pi. But I Completely disagree with the two posts above.
No one has the right to change the personality of a person by force. If you want to be different be different!
Infact only today i brought a back of chair to school and carried it round everywhere. JUST to be DIFFERENT! Sure people tried to bully me about it. I defended myself for a bit, but when i had about 20 people surrounding me, i decided it best to escape in a comical manner.

What i'm saying is trying to be the same as everyone else is just giving up, another person further adding to the crowd of people who are all the same.

Well I say fight! (metaphorically) Do what ever it takes to be the person you want to be and never stop no matter what ANYONE else says!

Heck, I die if i ever had to become someone i didn't want to be. If you have to be normal in order to stop bullying then hell! Its not even worth fighting for!

(or at least thats my oppinion)
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Re: I know that I don't fit in, but really? - September 24th 2010, 07:28 PM

BPS, idk. Changing myself will get them to stop talking to me, it will get them to stop. If I only change myself at school, then it wouldn't really matter. : /


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Re: I know that I don't fit in, but really? - September 24th 2010, 08:01 PM

I'm just thinking give it a go...
I mean if it doesn't work then there's no point in changing yourself.. but don't knock something before you try it




   
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Re: I know that I don't fit in, but really? - September 27th 2010, 02:15 PM

Hey. I'm in sixth form, so I don't have to wear a unfiorm anymore and before that I did I got constantly picked out because I'm pretty different to everyone else in my school and It got me down alot too, so I kinda know how your feeling about it. But believe it or not I should think somewhere in your school their are other people that are getting the same amount of stick as you, you could try seeking them out and becoming friends? it may not stop the bullies but it will take the weight of your shoulders and you may find yourself laughing about how immature this bullying is, because thats what it is.
If you can't do that, go to a teacher tell them about this yes some may say that seems a bit of a wimpy thing to do but it isn't your just trying to make school easier for yourself. Tell a teacher and make sure they deal with it.
But don't whatever you do get down about being different, their extremely immature and clearly need to grow up, and I'm pleased your proud of being different you should be.
Just send me a comment or a message if you want to talk
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Re: I know that I don't fit in, but really? - September 28th 2010, 10:18 PM

You said that they've been doing this since elementary, so depending on what it is they're doing, they may not see it as bullying because you've stood up against them for all this time without budging. Teachers are often useless in this, not all but many are. One reason other than the power thing of why bullies bully is because they know they'll get a certain reaction out of you. They know that whenever they say/do whatever it is, you'll do something and they may be amused by it. If you do the opposite and blend in, then they may stop bullying you but I would guess that even after you've blended in, for a bit, they'll still have a go at you by calling you out on doing the thing you fought so hard to go against so they'd call you a poser.

Your other alternative is to keep doing what you're doing but not react to it, simply ignore them if possible. It may make it boring for the bullies or they may see that there's no hope in getting a reaction out of you. You could try to turn it around on them but that seems to be what you're doing already. Being more forceful may work depending on what is going on but as you push back more, the bullies may push forward more. There's a point though where it gets too much so don't push over the top as it may get the bullies to stop by scaring them but it lands you in a land of trouble.


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