How to Deal with Bullies

[Illuminate]

Hey Guys

So I thought it would be nice to have a thread where people can share tactics on how to defend yourself when you come up against bullies or encounter them. Whether that be you seeing other people getting bullied or you are the victim ..

[BabyGirl747]

I saw a video in middle school about what to do when your being bullied. The only thing I can clearly remember is whenever you are in the hallway or in class and your being bullied(like they are taunting you or are asking you questions that are hurtful and inappropriate) you yell(yes yell) STOP! I did it twice in middle school it got my teachers attention but unfortunetly the first teacher told the people who were harassing me to stop and they did but that teacher dint do anything else the second teacher just told the kid who was harassing me to "shut up" this second teacher was a witness to all of the times I was bullied but he never did anything about it and no matter how much I reported the bullying or how much my parents reported it as well the school didn't do anything even after I was shoved onto the stairs of the school bus while i was trying to get on the first step on crutches with a cast on for a stress fracture in my foot with a lot of force. I hope that the "stop" technique works for anyone who is being bullied

[♥ Choir. ♥]

I just try to ignore it. Doesn't really work though, but I don't know what else I could do.

[Guile]

Bullies only fear power (be it administration or force). You have to make sure they are afraid to mess with you, it's the only surefire way.

[~Mr. Self Destruct~]

Originally Posted by Guile

Bullies only fear power (be it administration or force). You have to make sure they are afraid to mess with you, it's the only surefire way.

They also fear exposure. Get them uncomfortable with all eyes on them they will crumble. So long as those eyes are not glaring with agreeance towards the bully.
They also fear looking inferior. Why do you think they'll only ever fight the small or weak kids?

[Illuminate]

I think telling someone is one of the biggest steps towards getting rid of bullies.

When you see someone getting bullied.. sticking up for them does wonders. Just telling the person to shut-up and leave them alone tends to work.

[OMFG!You'reActuallySmart!]

Telling teachers often doesn't do much as many teachers give such weak warnings, it's not a deterrent or threat in any way to the bully. Instead, turn the tables on the bully. The bully does what he/she does because they have power over you and they make them superior to you. As they bully, the difference in power increases with them getting higher and you getting lower. They'll get more confident and depending on the bully, they'll do more severe actions. Since power is what makes the bully able to perform, take that away from them by standing up for to them or if they're asking or saying things to you, question them back. Also, especially when there are many students around, question the bully why they feel so awful that they need to take their misery out on a much weaker person who did nothing to provoke them? Keep questioning and not only does it throw them off their game, their uncertainty knocks their power down and down.

This works for most of them. The ones that beat up people need to be brought to the principal because as great as self-defense is in schools, some schools will punish you for defending yourself as they perceive it as fighting whereas others won't. They also then tell you that you should've told them rather than resort to fighting (best chance to say other teachers didn't listen).

[Vint Fall]

i never tell anyone though. i just hang out with my friends or plan it myself, with others, just not to be alone. there is NO big tactic if you aren't alone. but if you are, or if i was, i go to the child psychologist that works in the school, he/she would help me definitely.

like i said, you CANNOT do this alone, you need anyone to stand beside you so that they will go away.

[dystorsion]

Bullies try to elicit a response in the victim. I would say that one should ignore it, but sometimes it really doesn't work.

They also try to get a laugh out of their escapades. One thing one could do if they're getting pranked or pushed around is to play along. Sounds counterintuitive right? If you play along with them and say things like, "Oh haha you guys are so funny! I'm enjoying this silly prank and abuse. You guys are so silly" the bully won't be getting his or her desired response out of you, then it won't be worthwhile.