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Peer Pressure and Bullying Social pressure can take many different forms, including intimidation, bullying and even physical attacks. If you feel you could be a victim or perpetrator (who wishes to stop) of bullying, talk about it here.

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IM being Builled - March 7th 2009, 08:36 PM

at school a boy who i used to be mates with has started to bully me and i already have a low self eestem how do i get him to stop.

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Re: IM being Builled - March 8th 2009, 03:32 AM

Hi Liz.

There are a couple of ways you can deal with bullies.

You could try ignoring him. Many times, a bully will pick on someone to get a rise out of them. However, if you don't give the bully the reaction they're aiming for, chances are he's going to tire of acting this way towards you, when he sees you aren't affected by him.

If ignoring him doesn't work, I'd say the next step would be to laugh off what he says. Turn what his words into a joke. Again, this may help him see you aren't affected by his actions and he won't be getting the rise out of you he's looking for - which means he'll stop.

You could try confronting him about his actions. Stand up for yourself. You shouldn't have to take this from him, don't be afraid to stand your ground when he bullies you.

A last resort would be to speak with a trusted adult about this, especially if he's causing you physical harm. Sometimes you can't stop a bully on your own, and that's when a teacher, your parents, or the head of your school can step in and help. Bullying is not ok and many schools have a zero-tolerance towards bullying so you could count on an adult to be able to help you out.

Feel free to let me know if you'd like to talk about any of this, don't hesitate to drop me a PM. Take care of yourself.



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Re: IM being Builled - March 8th 2009, 07:53 PM

I agree with all the advice above.
remember that you don't deserve to be bullied, tell someone you trust, cause the bully wants you to keep quiet but you dont like them, and its gonna make em stop hopefully
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Re: IM being Builled - March 9th 2009, 11:57 PM

Tell him to stop be like "i dont like this, leave me alone!"
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Re: IM being Builled - March 10th 2009, 08:14 PM

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Tell him to stop be like "i dont like this, leave me alone!"
If anything
tell a adult!
dont do that

that will cause more problems then you kno cause he wins
   
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Re: IM being Builled - March 10th 2009, 11:03 PM

Hey there,

I think you really need to tell someone about this. It is obviously affecting you, and it is not good for your self esteem at all. I would tell him to stop if I were you. That doesn't let him know that he wins, especially if you get someone to back you up. I would suggest that you talk to a counselor, teacher, or person at your school's office about this and get it sorted out. If you get someone in charge and older involved, this guy will stop.

I really hope this guy quits doing this to you. You do not deserve it and there are plenty of things you can do about it.
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Re: IM being Builled - March 12th 2009, 04:34 PM

depends how you say it if you scream and run

if you do it in an aggressive manner then it will most likely stop it but also leaves you open to being called a crazy bitch
   
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Tell someone because you can't let them carry on. You don't know how far they may take what they think is a joke. If you don't want to soeak to someone face to face write a letter, text or e-mail someone you trust. You may have have a bully system at school see the helper or whatever they are called. Talk to the bully alone and ask why they do it and tell them how it makes you feel. Tell a teacher or a friends or someone. Stay Strong.
   
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Re: IM being Builled - March 28th 2009, 01:23 AM

in my opinion i would just straight up confont one on one with no one else around
   
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Re: IM being Builled - March 28th 2009, 11:02 PM

Hey Elizabeth. :]

This boy probably knows you have low self esteem, and is using that as a target to get at you. Don't let him. I know it's hard but what he says does not matter. Don't let him see that it's bothering you. Ignoring it and not rising to him could make him get bored and eventually he'll just leave you alone.

If he doesn't stop, say something to him. Tell him he's being immature and that it's not amusing anybody. Hopefully he'll realize that he's not getting anywhere by bullying you.

If he still doesn't stop, tell somebody you trust. Get an adult involved and I'm sure he'll back off.

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Re: IM being Builled - March 31st 2009, 05:56 PM

Hello Liz!
The best thing to do is tell someone. TRUST ME it works!!! they will do there best for you!
   
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Re: IM being Builled - April 2nd 2009, 06:41 AM

I used to be bullied at school, and what I did was just ignore them. Seriously it works. Dont even move an eye, dont say a word, if they verbaly abuse you, just ignore them. It worked for me, and im confident it will work for you.
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Re: IM being Builled - April 2nd 2009, 07:39 PM

I'm gonna get flagged and flamed for this...

If it's at school, yell at him when he starts up again. Just be like "Ugh stop! Leave me alone! I want nothing to do with you!" or something along those lines, he'll get the point and a teacher/principal will figure it out and ask you what's going on... He'll get in trouble and you won't look like a narc.


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Re: IM being Builled - April 2nd 2009, 08:06 PM

I think I'm going to close this now, guys, since the OP hasn't posted or updated here since she first posted the thread and it's been about a month since. If anyone disagrees, feel free to re-open or drop me a PM.



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