Triggering (Suicide): Teased

[Kira-Kira]

i been teased bullied what ever ppl are spreading rumors about me like im a slut and i killed my first child things like that and hurt me all my friends left even my best freind i knew since pre-school and i hate it and i just want them to stop but they dont i dont know what to do anymore i attempted suicde andi cut im just stuck here with these hurtful things ppl are doing i just want my friends i need a friend a hug someone to show me that i still matter but i have noone

[Sea Monkey]

Hi Coco,

I'm really sorry that bullying has caused you to cut yourself and attempt suicide, it's really horrible to be bullied and people are not aware that bullying does hurt others.

If people are spreading rumours about you, then I'd recommend talking to a teacher or your parents about it, but since it has caused you to hurt yourself because of what others have been doing, I'd recommend going to the police about it. They would sort the bullies out, and hopefully they won't do it again, because they would most likely be issued a warning,if not it will most likely be taken further. A good thing is to have others to talk to, a family member, teacher, somebody you can trust and confide in.

You don't have to go through this alone.
If you need anything, or somebody to talk to, then feel free to PM me anytime.

Take care

[Reverie.]

Hey there,

I'm sorry bullying has had such a negative impact on your life and has caused you to feel so bad about things to the extent you're physically hurting yourself. Obviously nobody here would wish that on anyone, so I am really an truely sorry that you've had this happen to you.

As a person who has been through bullying my entire school life, I can totally agree with the fact it hurts, and makes you hurt yourself a lot too. What you have to remember is that these people are weaker than you are. You are stronger because you've been through this and you know what it does to people. They feed off of other peoples pain, which puts you way above them. You are better than they are because you don't do this to people. Remember that, because it might make things easier to deal with to know that you're in the right here, and therefore you're better than they are.

Also, as Lex said, tell somebody. Bullies are people too, and so they can be stopped. Telling someone is a good idea and may get you on your way to getting this sorted. Remember, people can help you with this, you just need to reach out to them and let them help you. Tell a parent or a teacher or someone, because these things are serious especially if they are affecting you so badly you feel the need to hurt yourself over it. Suicidal thoughts over these things make it much much worse and way more serious and it's important that you talk to somebody and ask for help from them. It really will benefit you to do this.

I hope I've helped here.
Take care and keep smiling,
Hollie.

[zombiehunterforhire]

I know where youre coming from even though ive never attempted suicide of caused self harm. In fourth grade i had no friends whatsoever and everyone hated me. ive mever really got over it until my 6th grade year. after that i stopped caring about what people thought about me. im sure things will get a lot better for you. If you ever need to talk about it feel free to PM me.

[Kira-Kira]

Yeah but me I can't not care what ppl think that the thing even if I don't show it I do u can say my hair is weird I will spend the whole day making it better no matter what it is I jus feel alone I don't want school to start cuz I will have no one by my side

[zombiehunterforhire]

well everybody here is here to support you and help you feel better.

[Kira-Kira]

thanks but everyone is a false statement there

[OMFG!You'reActuallySmart!]

I'm not of the general opinion that telling a teacher will make everything better. I assume you have done so already, so at this point the way you counter the rumour-spreading is to fight back verbally. Calling the police over a high-school rumour isn't going to work in your favour because even if the police intervene, you'll probably be thought of as a weakling and drama queen.

I've said this direct approach to other people and several have told me it was successful. It requires only one thing from you: some confidence. Since you are the center of attention with respect to the rumours, when the person says an insult or rumour to you, describe how they (the people) are so weak they need to bully one small, harmless, lone girl to feel special in life. Chances are the rumour-spreader will respond with an insult and you want to use it to your advantage by telling them to keep saying the insults because you understand they have no other way of feeling "powerful".

The remaining people are likely followers, in that accepting the rumour serves to make them closer to one another and closer to the status of being popular in the school. They can be indirectly dealt with by being observers to you fighting back against the main rumour-spreaders and those who insult you. For the followers, you have no way to show the rumours are false, so they naturally accept it as true. When you confront the main people, you have to take out their sense of domination over you, then the rumours will gradually fall. Some of the followers will then move toward your side and life is better for you.

The fact you did attempt suicide can also be used to your advantage by asking the main people if their goal is to have you dead and ask why they hate you so much. These are questions the followers will want answered, so if you can win the power struggle here, you're on the road to winning.

However, some of this comes down to your over-sensitivity you have to address yourself and possibly with a professional. By this I mean the excessive fussing when someone says your hairstyle is weird because that can be a harmless opinion unrelated to the rumours. I don't think any teacher will help you out with the over-sensitivity because there's nothing they can do, they would have to tell the student not to give an opinion on your looks, it's not going to happen. Try to take the comment with a grain of salt because if you like your hairstyle and appearance, it doesn't matter if someone else doesn't like it. When I wear something new and someone says it looks awful, I don't care because I like how it looks.

[Revolution]

Have you tried talking to authority/teachers/parents about this bullying? They should not be getting away with making you feel so horrible about yourself, to the point in which you're cutting. I would also talk to somebody about the feelings you are having towards yourself. Bullying can make you feel so terrible, but you have to remember that you are a beautiful person no matter what people are saying about you. You know the truth, you can still love yourself for the person you are.
PM me if you ever need lovely.