Has been cyberbullied - Am I at fault?

[Kaira~00]

I've been cyberbullied by this girl.

It started last year. When I did something that really annoyed her, she would talk about it online to others, swearing and saying bad things about me.

I didn't know what to do. I felt humiliated and wanted to cry, but I didn't have anyone to talk to.

I felt my friends were going to call me "whiny and depressed".

Once the girl, infuriated at me, posted hurtful messages online. Her friends began disliking me (both online and offline ones). This spread to real life - she told others how she hated me.

Am I at fault?

What do I do?

Now I feel that I can never post anything online at sites she's on.

[Bubbles37]

Of course it's not your fault.
As for what to do, make sure you block the girl who's bullying you. Also, you should report it. PM me if you want to talk.

[OMFG!You'reActuallySmart!]

Others are probably going to say you did nothing wrong but I find that to be incorrect. The fact is, you provoked the entire situation, so her initial lashing back is understandable. She has every right to tell others she hates your guts and that is not bullying. The bullying messages are uncalled for but you can still post on the same site. If you sit back and whine, "woe is little me", unless you do something, the situation probably will not change. Part of what you can do is post on the same site but simply ignore her messages. Trust me though, other users will be more comforting than I am as I don't believe it's "right" to pat you on the head and put all the blame on her to make you feel better, it's tough love/tough caring.

Regarding her friends not liking you, I don't see the problem unless they also engage in bullying. If they give you "bad looks" or laugh, then they're not the main issue.

[Kaira~00]

I'm not even sure what I did would really be wrong or right (the thing that provoked her).

She said I'd copied her. I didn't really; what I did was similar but I had no idea she'd done it before I did. I tried to explain to her but she called me a liar. She then went to say bad things about me, post bad things, ect. I then tried to tell her that what I did wasn't intentional, but she still said I was lying and she struck back at me even more.

[fullofsecrets]

I don't know the situation, so I don't know if you are at fault. I honestly disagree with the previous poster. None of know what exactly you did, so it's impossible to say if you are in the wrong or not. Did you provoke her? Yes. Maliciously? Probably not. It sounds like she took a little incident and blew it out of proportion.

You can definitely report it. On sites like Facebook, I think there's a report button next to the post where you can report harassing behavior. They won't tell her it was you that reported her. Also, if you are friends on Facebook, I would unfriend her and cut ties. She doesn't sound like a real friend, and may only be posting those messages to antagonize you.

If you're worried about what other people say, just brush it off. They don't know what really happened; honestly, it's immature of them to just believe what one person said without hearing both sides of the story. And if they ask you what happened, tell them the truth. Just block her from all the sites you're on. If she realizes that you can't see anything she'll post, she'll eventually stop and simmer down. A bully can't bully without a victim.

[OMFG!You'reActuallySmart!]

Originally Posted by Kaira~00

I'm not even sure what I did would really be wrong or right (the thing that provoked her).

I cant say, you haven't described it.

Originally Posted by Kaira~00

She said I'd copied her. I didn't really; what I did was similar but I had no idea she'd done it before I did. I tried to explain to her but she called me a liar. She then went to say bad things about me, post bad things, ect. I then tried to tell her that what I did wasn't intentional, but she still said I was lying and she struck back at me even more.

So let me see if I'm getting the story right. She thought you intentionally copied her and began whining. If she's simply saying that you're a liar because she's unwilling to hear your side of the story, I wouldn't call it bullying. Instead, I'd call it a temper tantrum. Generally, bullies target those who are weaker but this doesn't seem to be the case here. It seems like she got pissed off and her friends agreed with her. I don't consider it bullying, or if you really want to call it bullying, then it's a very weak form of it.