Help me

[scvideoking]

ok so the story here is
I was in PE and we were playing put-out i threw the ball in the bleachers as a joke and after I went and got it and brought it back to the line a classmate was lecturing me. i waited for him to stop but after a full minute of his verbal crap i said" your not helping yourself" and then a Female classmate of mine came up in my face shoving me saying stuff along the lines of you dont talk to him like that (they had no romantic affliation or family relation).
i pushed her off of me and then the hit me 3 times in the face before i hit her back ONCE so she would stop and after she chucked a basketball at me we where sent to the office.
now to where the real problem is there was no asking witnesses.
the principal was told by her that i hit her first and i could SEE she belived her more.
after this my parents punished be for a week. during one of my few school breaks because i hit her. JUST because i hit her back. and now no one will support me none of my friends will text me back and i feel so alone
what do i do? i already have sucidal thoughts and ideas and i dont like it.

[Golem]

Its Though but one Tip : NEVER hit women just never do it
It seem unjust but from the perspective of our society the physically weaker one is the victim even if she started.

That doesnt mean you cant defend yourself ... easy way of stoping a woman is grabing her hand right on the wrist and holding it there untill she clams down.
There wont be any physical evidence that you did any harm to her and doing that while keeping distance cant bee seen as assault.

Either way i would say just try to let this go or convince your parents it wasnt your fault, stick to your story if asked and try to move on

But prehaps you should seek therapist for your suicidal thoughts by either askign your parents or seeking one out in school ( Every school should have one of these)

If thats not the case try to talk to favorite teacher about it or any adult u trust and think you can talk to

[Childish Giggle]

I think that the above poster is assuming that you're a guy. If you're not, hitting her was the totally fine. I would have done the same had I been in your place. But if you're a guy, it still wasn't wrong (remember I said this because you might just scream at me for what I say later on) because firstly she had no business coming between someone else and secondly anyone would have been pissed enough to hit her. And no one in the world here is a Saint who controls their anger all the time.
But if you're a guy, you shouldn't have done it. Simply because you have more muscle power. She can hit you five times and it will be equal to what you hit her once unless she's one of those strong females. So always hit a girl to cause her EQUAL amount of pain that she caused you. Don't do the never hit thingy. You don't have to hold your irritation and anger inside you just cause you're a guy.
In case you're a female, Well I know how the bitches can easily take people on their side and I wouldn't worry about it cuz if my friends didn't care to listen to me, then well, good riddance. Its for the best in the long run. Who the hell wants friends who don't trust you?!

All you can do about it is try to talk to one friend who you think will trust you on this issue. If that friend does it, well and good and the friend can slowly maybe convince the others.

Hitting a girl if you're a guy won't go well with your teachers and all no matter what. Its not fair but there's nothing you can do about it. You can just talk to your parents about this and get their support. They are the ones who matter the most. And if you're a guy, they sure will tell you to never hit a girl. Its their responsibility to tell you this and I think any parent will punish their son for hitting a girl all because they don't want their child to be the kind of person who goes around hitting girls. So talk to them about this.

As for suicidal thoughts, you should see a counselor as the above poster said.

[Sea Monkey]

Hey there,

Hitting somebody is never okay, whether they are a girl or a guy; but I can see that you did it as self defence. In the future if something like this occurs again, I'd suggest talking to a teacher about incidents like this, or your principal so you don't get into trouble for other people's actions, try not to become violent. It's best to just walk away and tell somebody in this type of situation.
As for your suicidal thoughts, it may be a good idea to seek help for this, you can see a counsellor or your GP (doctor) who can refer you to professional help and support services, and I'd also suggest your parents/family members and friends if you need some support too.

Take care.

[Nostalgia]

Hitting somebody is never the right thing to do, As for the whole thing with the principal, I had a similar situation at school where an older girl had pushed me into a wall punched me, I went and told the deputy principal where they blamed me for back chatting. The best thing to do is to speak to the principal again and tell them your side of the story well away from the girl who hit you three times. I also had a similar situation to you where I was being bullied and was punished for it. Yeah it sucks when that happens, it sucks a-lot. But it is never ever ok to hit someone, there are forms of self defence, but hitting does not usually come into self defence, It might be an idea to take some self defence classes up such as karate so that if this girl does decide to hit you again, you can at least defend yourself from her attacks.

Also maybe consider seeing a counsellor at school. Because then you can talk to the counsellor about the bullying and your feelings.

[Dr.Bobby]

Wait.

I agree with bits and pieces of this. People shouldn't fight, violence isn't the answer, it's complicated when it's mixed gender (as you see, you're held to a different standard in those situations). But who did what first and who was involved isn't the issue. Frankly, I have to wonder how on earth in a (supposedly) supervised PE class this was able to get so out of hand where it came to numerous blows? Where were the adults? This wouldn't have happened if there was proper supervision!

I can understand how stressed you are here, it sounds like you were the victim, and in our society, we don't blame the victim. However, as you see, it's often hard to determine who the victim actually is, and in the absence of supervision things can quickly get out of hand. And, in such cases, sometimes might doesn't make right, and sometimes the victim isn't believed. Take a lesson here, sometimes even though you might be right in your response, the consequences (however unfair) might not be worth it, and you should try to get the proper authorities involved (like the teacher).

In the absence of all that, I would refocus the discussion on the lack of supervision and the fight which broke out as a result of that. THAT part cannot be refuted.

These things blow over, it's not serious enough to go into a funk. I think there's probably a better chance that you're reacting to your own outrage, rather than other people's (like your misperception that your friend's have abandoned you). You have a right here to feel outrage, but you have to try to learn from it and let it go.

[scvideoking]

Originally Posted by Dr.Bobby

Wait.

I agree with bits and pieces of this. People shouldn't fight, violence isn't the answer, it's complicated when it's mixed gender (as you see, you're held to a different standard in those situations). But who did what first and who was involved isn't the issue. Frankly, I have to wonder how on earth in a (supposedly) supervised PE class this was able to get so out of hand where it came to numerous blows? Where were the adults? This wouldn't have happened if there was proper supervision!

I can understand how stressed you are here, it sounds like you were the victim, and in our society, we don't blame the victim. However, as you see, it's often hard to determine who the victim actually is, and in the absence of supervision things can quickly get out of hand. And, in such cases, sometimes might doesn't make right, and sometimes the victim isn't believed. Take a lesson here, sometimes even though you might be right in your response, the consequences (however unfair) might not be worth it, and you should try to get the proper authorities involved (like the teacher).

In the absence of all that, I would refocus the discussion on the lack of supervision and the fight which broke out as a result of that. THAT part cannot be refuted.

These things blow over, it's not serious enough to go into a funk. I think there's probably a better chance that you're reacting to your own outrage, rather than other people's (like your misperception that your friend's have abandoned you). You have a right here to feel outrage, but you have to try to learn from it and let it go.

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