I'd like to know how everyone else perceives this..?

[LostAngels]

Allow for me to apologize to the Mods in advance if this isn't the appropriate place for this;*
Anyways, I'm a grade 11 high school student, and although I'm certainly not the most innocent kid out there, I do fairly well as a student. I've always lived by this thought; I'd much rather be seen as stuck up by other teenagers than to be seen as disrespectful by adults.*
When I started High school last year I went out of my way to introduce myself and chat with all of the staff I'd likely come in contact with.*
I love my assistant principal, who's always there for me when I need someone to talk to, but I've become 'friends' (if that's what you'd call it), with our school's constable, haha. My friends tease me about it of course, and people call me a suck up, which believe me, I'm not.*
I have a very edgy image and I've always took pride in surprising anyone who would otherwise assume I was a 'trouble maker', which is why I like to get to know my teachers, etc.
But on the days I wait an hour or so for my mom to pick me up after school, I sit in her office with her, and we talk about pretty much everything. I hope to become a prosecutor, and her daughter is a lawyer, so she has some good insight for me.*
I honestly couldn't care less what people assume my intentions are, I've always gotten along far better with adults. However, I'm curious to know what all of your thoughts would be on this?*

Also, there's been some issues regarding my friends saying she favors me, which I don't think is just. For example, she gives everyone else smoking tickets and just warns me over and over, haha.*
But the way I see it, is if you've built a relationship with a figure of authority to the extent where they're able to see you as a respectable person, opposed to 'that kid who gets in trouble all the time', obviously they're going to be more lenient, right?*

Also, so there's no confusion, I'm also a girl.*

[SummerSoliloquy]

Hey there,

I've moved this to Peer Pressure & Bullying, as I think it will get better responses there. Best of luck!!

Take care!

[Shawn K.]

In my opinion there's only one area that would be a problem in my mind, and that is "does the constable ACTUALLY treat you differently than your friends or other students?" You mentioned smoking tickets. Sounds like some sort of sanction for smoking. If you and one of your friends are caught doing the same thing but receive different sanctions, your friends and schoolmates have a legitimate reason to question your motives regarding the friendship with the constable.

If no such, "conflict" exists, your friends need to go pound sand. Why should you give up a friendship that's benefiting you and fits your real personality because they have a problem with it. When you finish Law School they'll probably be hitting you up for plea bargains.

[Chris.]

I do the same thing - I know almost every staff member in my school (or past schools), thus it gets me places.

My thoughts on this are simple - you should be able to talk to whoever you want even if it happens to be a authority figure. See, I never went into a friendship with a Staff member with the intention of getting away with things, I have just done it to build friendships - which have been successful. As far as I look at it, the 'getting away with things' is just a addition to the friendship.

People will always think you are a teachers pet, or an administrators pet, but simply ignore them because you aren't doing it to get away with things and get good grades but yet to simply make friendships.



Best wishes,
Chris

[Shawn K.]

Originally Posted by chrisjackson911

I do the same thing - I know almost every staff member, thus it gets me places.

As far as I look at it, the 'getting away with things' is just a addition to the friendship.

Chris

Wassup Chris. Give you two guesses why I'm surprised you said that.

[Chris.]

I'm confused - What do you mean Shawn K?

[Artistic Soul]

I think you should just ignore them...there's nothing wrong with being 'friends' with staff. although yes, according to me, she shouldn't favor you...like...every time. xx

[Dez]

I agree that you should ignore them. I've been thought of the teacher's pet too because a lot of the time I get teachers wrapped around my fingers (I never misbehave and get really good grades so most teachers and staff really like me ) but I've learned to ignore it. As long as the staff aren't blatantly favoring you, then I don't see a problem with it.

[Nostalgia]

To be honest I can see how to your friends it seems this teacher is favouring you like how the teacher gives your friends countless smoking tickets ect, but just gives you warnings time and time again, I can see how it might seem to your friends that this teacher is favouring you. I've been in that sort of position with teachers at school because of my ADHD teachers would at times make allowances for me talking in class ect or fidgeting around or loosing concentration where as with my classmates they would just tell them off. Maybe speak to the teacher and tell them that even though you get on really well with them that if they are to give your friend a smoking ticket they also give you one too ? Or you could like others have said ignore them.

[leavemealone]

I don't think any of this is a problem. Your friends are just teasing you because they don't think its cool to be hanging out with the faculty at school and they might be jealous that you could be spending more time with the staff than with your own friends. If you believe that your assistant principle is favoring you, and your friends are really making a big deal about it, bring it up to your AP and just say that some of your friends feel this way, or that way. But also bring it up to your friends. Its not fair to you for them to be treating you so rudely just because you feel more comfortable talking to an adult than to hormonal teenagers about your problems. I'm the exact same way. I prefer talking to adults than to my friends because 1. I don't wanna add stress to them and, 2. They either don't understand or they don't care. Talk to whoever you wanna talk to

[LostAngels]

Thanks for all the input, but for future reference, considering this point appears to be lost; I'm talking about our high school's police officer. I'm curious to know how you guys would perceive a kid being buddy-buddy with a cop, not just any teacher.
But nonetheless, the advice/ opinions still suffice. Thank you!

[Shawn K.]

Originally Posted by chrisjackson911

I'm confused - What do you mean Shawn K?

Should someone who has a friend in law enforcement expect to "get away with things?"

[Chris.]

The point of what I'm trying to make is that when you have friends that happen to be an authority figure - than getting away with things sometimes is an advantage. I am not condoning being friends with these people just to get away with things - but instead saying that it is a advantage that is given to you (in some cases) while in these friendships.

[OMFG!You'reActuallySmart!]

Originally Posted by LostAngels

When I started High school last year I went out of my way to introduce myself and chat with all of the staff I'd likely come in contact with.*
I love my assistant principal, who's always there for me when I need someone to talk to, but I've become 'friends' (if that's what you'd call it), with our school's constable, haha. My friends tease me about it of course, and people call me a suck up, which believe me, I'm not.*

I don't see any issue here because you said you don't care what others think of your intentions, so just ignore them or play along.

Originally Posted by LostAngels

But the way I see it, is if you've built a relationship with a figure of authority to the extent where they're able to see you as a respectable person, opposed to 'that kid who gets in trouble all the time', obviously they're going to be more lenient, right?*

They may be more lenient up to a point. I assume smoking tickets are not serious, so the school police officer may let minor things slide by but not major ones, such as if you got in a physical fight. The officer probably is favouring you by only giving you a warning and if I were you, I wouldn't talk to her about being lenient for your friends as well. However, this doesn't apply to all authority figures because some will enforce as though they didn't know you.

Originally Posted by LostAngels

I'm curious to know how you guys would perceive a kid being buddy-buddy with a cop, not just any teacher.

I wouldn't care unless you and I were dumb enough to do something illegal in front of the cop and only I got in trouble, particularly if it's something severe. Some cops will let people slide by if it's their first offense. She may end up ticketing you if you begin smoking quite a lot or flaunt in front of others that you won't get it trouble but they will.