Being Stereotyped because of my appearance…

[Lucille]

How should I deal with it ? Do I change who I am to please other people and fit in, or do I stay true to myself and risk isolating my self socially ?

I’m not sure what to do for the best anymore

[Kate*]

Hey Lucci, I know it's tough when people are judging you because of how you look, but you should just be yourself and not change who you are to please others. You won't be happy doing that because it won't feel right and honestly, there will always be people who judge you no matter what. Be yourself and you WILL find people who accept you as you are.

[Hollifire]

Simply put, screw what other people have to say about you. There's always going to be people in your life that will judge you no matter what. You have to stay true to yourself, though. Be who you are, people will have to accept it. Don't ever change for anyone. I know it's hard & you just want to fit in, but hold your head up high and like the fact that you're unique. You're an amazing & beautiful person no matter what <3

[kitkat kati]

stay true to yourself. no matter what they say about you in judgement you are who you are. hell. they are probably jealous because you can be yourself. so what if they dont like the way you look? they get to miss out on finding out what a great person you really are. be yourself. dont let anyone else get to you. im sure you will find people who appreciate you for who you are eventually. GOOD LUCK!!!!

[Chris.]

I agree with everyone else. You need to stay true to yourself and not change yourself.

See, even if you change yourself - you will ALWAYS have someone that dislikes a certain thing. Then if you change that, then you have another person who dislikes what you changed, and then if you change that, then you have another person who dislikes what you changed. As you see, you will never get everyone to stop disliking, judging, or stereotyping. You cant please everyone - so you might as well please yourself.




Best wishes,
Chris

[Reverie.]

Hey,

I think you should stay true to who you are. If people are judging you they're in the wrong, and you shouldn't have to change a thing about you just to fit in with them. I don't think you'll ever be completely isolated, just away from the people who dont like you for who you are. Ignore the stereotyping - it exist and there's little we can do about it. We all think of certain people in a stereotypical manner, and that's okay just as long as it's not hurting people. If this is hurting you then they're the kind of people you should leave behind. I think if you stay true to yourself you'll be happier with in your own skin, but if you change and pretend to be a person you're not, you'll find that you're no happier like that.

I hope this helped, I'm here if you ever need someone to speak to.
Hollie.

[Artistic Soul]

Hey,
as people said above, be who you truly are. Don't EVER change yourself because of certain opinionated people. Frankly, they're absolutely NO ONE to judge you or anybody else, so why give them this much thought?
Also, if you'll try hard to fulfill their "expectations" and change yourself accordingly, wouldn't it turn really boring and so...not like the real you? -_-
So just ignore all those people and be who you are.
Hope everything sots out well, take care!

~Mandy xx

PS: You're beautiful, no matter what!

[OMFG!You'reActuallySmart!]

Luci, people will always judge you no matter what and you'll do the same to them. To say otherwise is bullshit and hypocritical. Don't try to fake an identity because it generally will only cause a shitstorm once you're busted and you'll find yourself questioning whether people like your fake identity or the real you. It's still quite possible to be happy with a fake identity but you want to avoid that hassle and be yourself. If others have a problem with how you are, tell them you'll grease your boot so it shines nice and bright then shove it up their candy ass (or simply tell them to go fuck themselves and their butt-buddies if there's more than one person).

That said, you may have to be the person to start the conversation if nobody else is starting one with you. Or, you may need to be the person to approach others and possibly get turned down for even a conversation but there's no reason to fret since there are millions of people so if a few are giving you a hard time or being obnoxious, they're insignificant to your world.

[Koharuchan]

I used to be bullied a lot for a lot of things, and at one point I became so desperate that I tried to change myself to please them. It was one of the biggest mistakes of my life. Not only did I hate trying to conform to their twisted views of what was cool or uncool and all that other good shit, but I hated lying to myself because I knew I didn't want to fit in if it meant changing myself. I stopped and was much happier, and I eventually found many friends who love and accept me for who I am.

Moral of the story? Stay true to yourself and trust in yourself and who you are. Never change yourself for anyone. Be who you really want to be, let the real you shine bright. You will find people who respect you for that and who accept you for who you are.

[dani99]

You're going to be judged in life. As much as I'm against and totally repulsed by stereotyping and judgement, it's a hard and cold truth. When I was in middle school, I was labled "emo" for the dark clothes I wore and how I always looked depressed when really, nobodoy knew my life which was a wreck.
I was told to go kill myself like "emos" should, I had perfume sprayed in my face, and just made fun of non stop. I had fingers pointed at me and called "emo" everyday of my life.
What did I do? Sucked it up and moved on. It's all you really can do. Lucky for me, I moved to another school with uniforms that lessen up on the judgement. But for you, if these people get so bad, you might want to talk to someone about it.

[Nostalgia]

Don't change who you are to stop people from bullying you, I was bullied in school and I tried to change who I was to fit in but no matter what I did or how I tried to change they still found something to pick on me about - I've found that no matter how much you try to change or how much you try to fit in ect if someone wants to pick on you they will do so.

I dress emo and people in the streets do shout comments at me and label me as emo and shout pretty rude things at me ect. But I found with this one gang who picked on me for dressing emo that they feared the police/the cops so one day when they were harrasing me and accusing me of things and all ganging up on me I simply said to them leave me alone or I'll call the police, and they ran.

If they don't stop picking on you threaten them with the police. It worked for me with the gang - they've pretty much left me alone since - yeah they still make the odd snide comment to me in the street here and there but it is nothing like it used to be.

[jenjen4538]

Hey Lucci. Ya know, it can be really tough to deal with the pressure to be what everyone else whats you to be. But the reality is, you are who YOU are. No one can tell you who you are supposed to be. Don't change yourself because then they've won, and that's not fair at all. What i'm saying is, be strong Don't let them get you down. If they make rude comments just look away, don't even say anything. Eventually they will know that they can't hurt you like that anymore. You can't let them see that it's getting to you. But if it's getting really bad, then talk to a counselor or a close friend or a parent.

[Cullen]

Don't listen to anyone else, that's foolish.
When I was at school, I sometimes wore black nail polish, and got the pee taken out of me sooo bad for being a 'goth' and an 'emo' and such like.
I liked black, and still do. : P
I was only truely happy when I grew up and started to be completely me. Once you realise that everyone who doubts you and says that things you do or say or wear are wrong, then you will be hapy : )

[ForgetMeNot9]

I agree with everyone else. You should never change yourself just to try and please others. There's always going to be one person who will try and judge you, whether that be over your looks, things you believe in, say or do and unfortunately we can't change that. However, you can choose to ignore those people. Shrug them off because if they are the kind of people who only ever want to judge you and make you feel horrible about yourself, then they don't deserve to be in your life and they definitely don't deserve the time of day. Be who youuu want to be, and stay true to yourself. If you feel you need someone to talk to, feel free to pm me anytime!

[Lucille]

thanks 4 all the advice