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Dealing with nerves? - August 12th 2014, 11:43 PM

Before/during a performance or otherwise. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.
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Re: Dealing with nerves? - August 13th 2014, 12:12 AM

I recently had to make a speech, so I had to learn some things about nerves in front of people too!

One thing I did was be well-practiced. If you know what you have to say or do during a performance, practice it in front of a mirror, maybe even timed, to see if you can get down how you want to say and do things. If you have any friends or family who would be willing to watch, you can do that as well so you can get some constructive feedback.

Also, positive self-talk. Even if you aren't confident, tell yourself positive things. If you tell yourself you are going to mess up, you're putting yourself at an even higher risk for making mistakes! Instead, tell yourself how great you'll do and how you've got everything you need down, and that everything will be okay. Act confident, even if you aren't feeling it.

Breathing. Take deep, calming breaths to maintain some of your control.

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Re: Dealing with nerves? - August 13th 2014, 12:29 AM


Dez gave a lot of great suggestions about what you can do to prepare for performing.
I get nervous too before I put myself in front of people.
Try to keep telling yourself that you do not have to be perfect and that you will not fail. Having a balanced view about the outcome of your performance will make you less anxious. Knowing you do not have to achieve perfection and knowing that failing is not the end of the world and that (if you practice well) it will not occur are keys in doing well.
Many people in my opinion get nervous about performing because of the unknown outcome: how people will react, what they will think etc. In reality though, the most important thing is that you do your best, give yourself positive encouragement (and ask other people for encouragement) and know that if you do mess up, there is always a next time to improve (mistakes are not the end of everything).
I hope this helps and that you begin to feel better before performances.
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