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Accepting it. - October 6th 2014, 03:21 PM

My counselor wants me to practice trying to accept my anxiety.
She's calling it anxiety even though it's not diagnosed because she thinks it probably is too.

She wants me to try practicing accepting it's there. I don't have to be happy or upset that it's there, I just have to accept that it is there and try not to let it control me.

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Re: Accepting it. - October 6th 2014, 06:26 PM

Hi there!

Here are some suggestions most of which you probably already know and which may or may not work out for you-

-Stand in front of the mirror, maintain eye contact with yourself and say something like- "I suffer from anxiety, that is a reality that I have to accept. BUT I am NOT going to let it control my life. I am much more than this and deserve much better and I am going to make every effort required to overcome it."

-You could even put up some post it notes saying something similar around you.

-You can try to be more aware of situations in which you are experiencing it and go for a positive self talk with similar stuff- "Yeah, I suffer from anxiety. But it does not control me."

Basically, remind yourself that it is not uncontrollable. It is there, you need to accept and acknowledge its presence. One way to do so positively is by reminding yourself that you have the option to make recovery based choices.

I hope that helps.

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Re: Accepting it. - October 6th 2014, 06:29 PM

Thanks! That's true, honestly I was blanking on ways to do it but that's helpful.

Is it safe to tell people I have an anxiety disorder? I'm scared that it'll seem self-diagnosing but I've had two professionals tell me that's probably what it is, but they're not able to diagnose. Is it safe to basically say I have it at at point?


   
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Re: Accepting it. - October 6th 2014, 06:40 PM

Honestly, I ask myself that question everyday.

Personally what I do is that I talk about the relevant symptoms and describe how I feel with a mention that it might or might not be this particular disorder. My diagnosis (weird circumstances, don't know if it is a proper diagnosis) helped me to be more aware about my emotions, feelings etc. So instead of saying that I suffer from BPD, I usually say things like I experience emotions with abnormal intensity during some situations.

My point is that don't let the lack of a diagnosis hinder you from acknowledging your feelings. There are situations that are making you feel a certain way irrespective of whether or not it is a diagnosed disorder.

I hope that helps.



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Re: Accepting it. - October 7th 2014, 07:03 AM

I think that the easiest way to accept it will be to view it as normal, which it is. Anxiety and anxiety disorders are very common. Many, many people get them. I was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) at one point.

How you are feeling is probably normal given your circumstances. What might help is to go and read the stories of others who are suffering in the same way that you are and try to empathize with them. That way, you will see that you are not alone- because you're not alone.

And anxiety can be overcome. I used to be so bad that I couldn't sleep, checked the locks several times before bed, had panic attacks, washed my hands compulsively until they were so dry the skin cracked, experienced severe social anxiety, etc.. I've overcome it all almost 100% though.

The other thing to remember is that, as much as anxiety sucks, it is an opportunity for growth and to become a stronger, happier person. You don't get to become that kind of person unless you suffer and work through something like severe anxiety or some other hardship, so think of it as a blessing. Like lifting mental/emotional weights or something.



   
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