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Unhappy Social Anxiety - February 4th 2009, 06:05 PM

I went to visit my counselor tonight to explain my current situation at school. I feel extremely uncomfortable in my stats class, so much so that I do not participate in classroom discussions. I feel bad because my teacher is very caring and I hated to tell her that I felt uncomfortable because of the people.

Continuing with the main point of the story, I went to my counselor and explained my situation. She concluded by saying it sounds like I have social anxiety and I might need to take medication. As you can imagine, This stresses me out. I never thought I would have social anxiety, I just thought I didn't like to be around people- anti-social.

I am very upset, I have been crying on and off and I feel like I cant do anything until I calm down. Can someone please help me?
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Re: Social Anxiety - February 4th 2009, 06:10 PM

I would not...and I repeat - not beat yourself up about this. Just thank goodness it was something as minor as anxiety and not something larger. Finally, something won't hold you back from your goals and the like, you know?
I'm on Lexapro for general anxiety and depression, but the psychiatrist also suggested that I have social anxiety.
Now that I'm recieving help, I'm not entirely Ms. Social Butterfly, but I am able to deal with people more effectively. I still have my personality that's inclined toward a more introverted lifestyle. But, I wouldn't feel badly for your diagonsis. This can be helped swiftly and easily so you can live a freer life.

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Re: Social Anxiety - February 7th 2009, 05:08 PM

It's nothing to be all that upset over. Lots of people suffer from anxiety. It's not like you've done anything wrong. Honestly I think the counselor was a bit eager to be suggesting medication. Not all anxiety requires medication. Sometimes it can be handled through therapy, and in some cases you can overcome it on your own. There are a lot of techniques to reduce anxiety and just the fact that you know you have it is a weapon against it. You can recognize signs of anxiety coming on and talk yourself out of it. If it so happens that your doctor thinks medication would be the best option, then so be it. There's nothing wrong with that and medication works for a lot of people.

However, it may very well just be that you're not comfortable around certain people. Are you more social in your other classes? Not everyone is a social butterfly, and you don't need to be. If you're uncomfortable around the people in your stats class, then you don't need to become best friends with any of them. Just get your work done and do enough that your teacher can see you're progressing. If you say she's very caring, then maybe it would be a good idea to let her know how you're feeling. I'm sure she'll understand. Teachers are aware that not every student feels at home in their class, due to many different reasons. It would probably be beneficial to let her know it's just the people in your class, and not the teacher or the subject matter.

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Re: Social Anxiety - February 8th 2009, 03:50 AM

Hmmm. How many times have you seen your therapist? Is this something you have been talking about for awhile? Is this the first time that you saw them? Therapists can not conclude that you have any disorder in just one meeting, these things take time. But if you have been seeing this person for awhile then I would get a second opinion on this. Not because they are necessarily wrong, but because it is always good to get a second opinion, especially if they feel the answer is just drugs.

Here is a list of Triggering Syptoms:

Triggering Symptoms: People with social anxiety usually experience significant distress in the following situations. These symptoms apply to most social events and functions in almost every area of life.
  • Being introduced to other people
  • Being teased or criticized
  • Being the center of attention
  • Being watched or observed while doing something
  • Having to say something in a formal, public situation
  • Meeting people in authority ("important people/authority figures")
  • Feeling insecure and out of place in social situations ("I don’t know what to say.")
  • Embarrassing easily (e.g., blushing, shaking)
  • Meeting other peoples’ eyes
  • Swallowing, writing, talking, making phone calls if in public

Do these happen to you often during the day? I find it interesting that you said this only seems to happen in one of your classes. This disorder affects almost every social activity you are involved in. Which is why I question this therapist reaction. I am in no way a medical professional, but I am in the studying field of psychology, and like I said this disorder happens all day everyday, not just in one particular setting. Always question doctors when they say you have something, it is always good to ask questions and to understand why they say the things they do.

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Re: Social Anxiety - February 9th 2009, 07:13 PM

Don't worry too much, social anxiety is a really really common problem, and a lot of people get over it too. Just work on trying to relax using breathing in social situations. Try not to think too much about what other people think, and look for clues that they like/agree with what you said instead of looking for negative things in there tone and body language.

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Re: Social Anxiety - February 9th 2009, 07:46 PM

Hun, I'm exactly the same, I've avoided going to college for a month, because I can't handle going in, and seeing people in my class, I sometimes just sit here and cry my eyes out, and beat myself up over it, but there's not much you can actually do about it. This is, basically my socialising time, because I dont like it in person. So your not alone babe. I'm here if you need to talk, PM me.

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Re: Social Anxiety - February 11th 2009, 01:25 AM

It really does sound like the school counselor jumped the gun. She doesn't know you, and she hasn't seen you in social situations. It sounds like it is the specific people in your class that make it very uncomfortable. Maybe you don't have any friends in the class, or the people in it are rude, and are not respectful of what you have to say. Have you had any bad experiences in the class that may make being in the classroom uncomfortable?

Really, don't stress over it. You'll be in a new class soon, and everything will be fine.
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