why do i hate being alone?

[maqs]

i normally make plans to see my friends or boyfriend every day. A couple days this month, i've been in the situation where i have spent my day alone. Whenever this happens, I really begin to panic. I can't stand being by myself even for one night. I feel anxious and get the urge to call people and make plans right away. I'm very dependant. What do i do? this is miserable!

[Amber]

Just plan a fun relaxing night! Get some chocolates, a candle or two and take a nice relaxing bubble bath. Rearrange your bedroom, start up an art project or read a book! Go through your iTunes and make different playlists or the best thing you can do - get active around TeenHelp and give advice to others that are asking for it! Believe me it definitely makes for a fun night. Replying to different threads helps keep you occupied and it makes time fly like you wouldn't believe. Being alone isn't all that bad and you'll find if you keep yourself occupied it's actually quite nice.

[Aletheia*]

There's nothing wrong with wanting to be around other people, but being dependent on them is a huge problem. You shouldn't have to be dependent on anyone! Of course, it sucks being alone, but we all need our space too. Some time for us to reflect and be alone with our thoughts. I'd look into doing some of the thing the above poster suggested. There is no reason to panic.

[Chris.]

I agree with Shannon. We all want to have fun and go out and be with people - but if it is getting to the point where you have to depend on people than that a bad sign. How do you get over it? Well it will be hard since this is more of a mental thing. You can either try to shut off your phone and try to watch TV and do your own thing - the point being is: self treatment. Or you can get help and talk to a counselor.

I would first try to keep yourself busy - make a list of things to do - and slowly every month add more days where you are alone so you can not be so dependent on people. If after this doesn't work (which it should if you really put effort into it), then go seek and talk to a counselor to get more ideas, or try to find out whats causing this issue.



Best wishes,
Chris

[SerenitySmile]

Hey there,

Feeling anxious when you're alone is pretty natural. Humans are social beings, and when we don't have company we think, "Well, what do I do now?" I agree with the other users that some self-pampering and "me" time can be great once in a while. If you're feeling very anxious, perhaps surf the web? Talk to some friends on Facebook etc? When I find myself alone in a university dorm room (as I am now) I will sometimes send messages to friends to catch up and occupy myself. Hang in there!