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Making Changes For The Better? - January 1st 2015, 10:00 PM

Ok, lets get this started, im 23, ive had the same dull job for 4 (coming up to 5) years, im not happy with it or my life in general while it is'nt awful i just feel hopeless and lost at this time.

Doing an open university course in application development and im trying to get a job as an IT Technician.

Im finding it very easy to be motivated while doing Uni work in my breaks at work and before work, as i get this real sense of "i need to work hard to get out of this job" but as soon as i get home i get distracted and feel like i just want to relax, I mean i do overtime so i generally do 10 hour shifts.

It got me thinking about selling things like my Xbox one, and other distractions, spend a few weeks clearing out the clutter and selling it all and putting it in savings and just working on my future, It doesn't help that all my friends are on there but its distracting me and i know it is.

I can't convince myself that this is a good decision because its my down time, but i feel i need to be more strict with myself.

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Re: Making Changes For The Better? - January 2nd 2015, 12:53 PM

I can feel your stress and I personally think that selling those items isn't necessarily a good idea. Have you ever thought about making an agenda or schedule of some sort and allocating time to do specific activities? Plus over-studying isn't good, you need to have time for yourself to relax and rest. Since you say you work overtime, its normal to feel tired after coming home from work and I'm assuming that you have school also the same day? Maybe you could shorten the amount of time you relax to an hour or two? Hope this helps and wish you all the very best!


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Re: Making Changes For The Better? - January 2nd 2015, 05:18 PM

Hey Robin,

It sounds like work might be a bit of a distraction as well as providing some motivation, right?

Is there any way you could cut the number of hours? It can be hard managing uni work alongside a job. If not, perhaps you can try to think of a better way to manage your time between working, uni work and relaxing? You could create a schedule which could help you. Also, perhaps you could find other motivation, such as imaging your life when you do become an IT technician.

I don’t think selling your Xbox and other distractions is a good idea. Instead, try locking them away or get someone else to look after them, or password protect them, so that you can’t go on them for a while.

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Re: Making Changes For The Better? - January 3rd 2015, 06:43 PM

I've been trying to do stuff on the side to help me get a better job as well, and I've found that it's utterly impossible for me to work in my room. I get tired, I get bored, I inevitably end up back in bed and then the afternoon/evening gets slept away. Motivation is quite elusive for me (and sounds like it is for you as well, since your day job has created feeling of hopelessness and boredom). So I try to go to the nearby cafe as much as I can. All that money I waste on coffee and bagels will pay off soon enough, I swear. (In fact I'm going to head out as soon as I finish writing this.)

One thing to think about is: if you removed all of your current distractions, would you just find and settle for other ones? Are the distractions themselves the problem, or your predisposition to experience demotivation?

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